i dont have the balls to dance

i have done many things that many people would be to scared to do such as commit multiple felonies, vandolize a couple years ago, hit my dad who is much bigger than me after he told me to hit him during a fight, talked back to a cop(not smart to do), etc. but i can not get myself to go dance. why is this? other than this, i could care less what people think of me. i couldnt give a shit. but when it comes to the point where im at a dance, i cant get myself to loosen up and just go with it.

i diddnt go to homecoming this year since i diddnt have a date and i dont dance, why should i pay $30? as far as im concerned right now, ill dance once at my wedding and thats it. im just so paranoid what other people are thinking and how im gonna make a fool outta myself. even though i know no body is looking and no one cares. but at the same time i find it completely natural to stand in front of 30 people who are grading you on an excerpt of Julius Caeser that you have to recite by memory.

dont think im trying to brag about the shit before that i did because i would not do any of it again other than the felonies which all have top do with smoking weed, drinking, or some other drug. i vandolized as an 7th/8th grader sionce it gave you that rush. the cop had stopped me and a friend in the mall and started searching us for no reason and i got pissed but that diddnt help one bit. and of course nothing good came from getting in a fight with my dad but i was extremely stressed and he had done some shit that because of the current situation i was in, and the stress i over-reacted and he said "come on, hit me" so i did.

but that was off subject. anyone else have this problem with dancing?

 

Im not a good dancer either, and school dance arent much fun anyways. But if I feel like dancing I will... I honestly make a fool out of myself everyday so its no biggy. I find if your with friends who act just as silly as you do ... its not as embarrassing.

If you keep that i dont give a fuck attitude, and have a bunch of "silly" friends ... it might help.

 

Dont feel bad, I dont/cant dance and neither can Fidel Castro. Either you got the funk or you dont. I dont have the funk.

 

yea, i know what you mean

 

I find danceing for men these days is growing to be quite simple. In my high school scene most of all danceing (for the fast songs) is the simple grind patterns, which i think is very enjoyable; personally i didn't start grind untill end of my sopohmore year. ANd if you can get over personal fear and just lose your self in the moment then it's a great experiance, and really every time you miss out on that, unless your making out, or going farther your missing out. I admit i never had the nerve to ask the frist time, my freind set up (not my request) but it was sort of like making out, as it was both physically enjoyable and connected to that deep desire to be close to other people (like the joy of snuggleing with someone you like, or loved) I mean if you can you should, if you don't think you would enjoy that think aobut it, not everything is for everyone, and start with slow dancing to build up your confidence, and maybe your frist fast dance do it with a freind who you don't feel pressured with -peace

 

when you're talking back, punching someone, vandalising..you feel like you're asserting yourself. pushing energy outwards, asserting your agression and power and feeling of control.

dancing is the opposite...vunerable in showing who you are underneath through your body. not taking control through force but rather a "this is who i am"...and then it's up to others how they react. that makes you vunerable.

but...the interesting thing is...the agression doesn't really put you in control at all. it's the opposite - feeling the need to be agressive and in control shows the fear underneath that you're not in control. otherwise why is there the need to assert?

and once the need is gone, the fear to show yourself is gone too. you are you and that's okay, no matter what others say. you have no reason to fear or lash out - you are fine just as you are no matter the reactions you get.

dancing is letting universe work through your body. some good ways i've found in moving to this space beyond opinion are:

~ dancing in my room before going to an event...once i get there i am already in the space
~ going to raves and really getting into it - the clothes, the lights, the doofers - and joining in like a tribal dance
~ being physical in life - martial arts, acrobatics - help me get in touch with my body - and doing acrobatics and capoeria helped me learn kewl moves
~ revelling in my daggyness
~ playing computer games with dancing [like bust a move] or watching movies with dancing puts me in the right mood
~ not being half-hearted about dancing - relinquishing fear totally and becoming the dance
~ dancing at events where i know there will be no-one i know - easier to be myself
~ exploring myself on lots of levels - being a physical, emotional, spiritual, sexual, thoughtful, concious being - and trying my best to intergrate those facets of being into one - being in touch with and comfortable with all of them

go bust a move! get your groove on!! :rockon:

 

yea i practice like, hip hop dance moves that look really cool in my room with music playing....the kina shit you see on a chris brown video....
(noone but choriographers and hip hop artists, ect...and like 5% of the rest of the population Can and actually do those moves in real life....)

dancing to me is just moving side to side to a beat.....unless your at a high school dance....then you just put your hands up and let the girl do the work....if your at a wedding....stick to the side to side thing....

PRACTICE IN THE MIRROR lol

 

I have one simple solution: Drink Alcohol! In a sober state, I find myself dancing like I'm having a seizure. Once I get a few drinks in me, I dance like Michael Jackson. Funny how that works

 

If you can talk you can sing

If you can walk you can dance

 

Yeah, I suck at dancing, only dance I know is the tango, that's it, nothing else, just that, when it comes to pop music I feel like my ears are going to pop, reason why I hate clubs, the music always drives me nuts, and 80s Rock Music really doesn't have a dance to it so yeah, but I've found a way around it so it's cool. Dancing's not as important as love making so you have to look at it that way.

 

but dancing and love-making are so closely related.

 

go to a rave! I never really felt all that confident about dancing either until I started getting into raving now I love dancing. good luck

 

Yeah I know, but just because they're related doesn't mean they're connected.

 

Oh, I love dancing! By myself though. I don't mind dancing with other people, but the music I like dancing to is too strange for most people, apparently.
My favourite, most sensual piece of music to dance to right now is "The Sheltering Sky" by King Crimson. Most of Japan's output from Gentlemen Take Polaroids and Tin Drum are nice right now. Bell Orchestre, Different Trains by Steve Reich...
Most music with a constant pop/rock beat, aside from being virtually unlistenable, is completely unsuitable for creative or passionate dancing. There are plenty of exceptions, though. DARE by the Gorillaz, Rhiannon by Fleetwood Mac... and so on.
Anyways, that's my two dollars