ok, i thought this was the right place to post my problem, cause this is fucking with my mind. ok, im starting high school right now, im going to a school of 2000, all boy school, but its supposed to be the funnest school cause everyones so laid back and just has fun, and were one of the best at sports in our area, ive been waiting all my life to go there cause ive had 2 brothers and a cousin go there, and the were all the big man on campus and all tht shit, my brothers a senior this year and is a footbal player and wants me to play, so do my parents and other brother and freinds and my other best freind whos a sophmore and captain of the football team well ive been doing football for a week, and its been the worst experience, ive been drained physically and mentally, its hard to make new freinds, but im catching on, and every time i go to footbal iworry about making freinds, thts the only reaon im doing football, to make new freinds, ive made a few, but i just hate football, i hate the sport, i dont have all my equipemt yet, everyone else does, i end up watching everyone play, then just sprinting 100 yards at the end and doing a laps. then i come hom reveryday prretendiing it was fun. ive been in a miserable mood, and im starting school monday, i want to quit, but my parents just yell at me and tell me i have to have something other than music in my life,(i play guitar), i feel like i have to be like my brothers and do something i dont want to do. on the other hand it might turn up being fun, and ill eb the big football player but im still just miserably starting high school, this decision will probably result in how my high school life will be, and i just cant make it alone, ive tried talking to people, but they end up just saying do it, and i dont even tell them the whole story. i know i can make freinds elsewhere, but i just dont know. im really confused, please, tell me something thats worth reading, help me with my decision.
I think that you should quit playing football, since you hate it and are only in it to make friends, might I point out that it's easier to make friends with people that enjoy the same things...why don't you join a music class (or if your school has it a guitar class join that) than you would find people with the same interest as yourself and you could learn new things from them and they from you...Also starting a friendship or any relationship based on a lie is not the right way of doing things. BE YOURSELF and don't try so hard.
Haha that sucks, I suggest making a movie out of it. Anything about not doing what your parents want will win you an award. As for football shit, do what you want, why take a bunch of strangers advice over a couple of sober voices of reason. But hey, you don't want advice just conformation of what you think. Do it man, I quit football my freshman year and foucoused on my guiar playing. I started a band with all my buds and am having the best time of my life.
sounds like you have a problem with living up to expectation. expectations can be hard for people to live up to because there is so much pressure involved, because if you fail to reach what is expected, there will be disapointment. The quesiton you must ask yourself is what are your expectations and what are everyone elses. i can tell you flat out without even knowing who you are that if you look your parents in the eye and tell them you do not enjoy playing football, they will understand. parents mainly want 2 things from there children: to be happy and to succeed. if you tell them you are not happy when you play football they will understand, and they will let you continue to play the guitar too im sure because that does make you happy. but just playin around at home my not b enough, because by playin your guitar at home after school isnt exactly secceeding in anything. so i would tell them you would b much happier and much more successful pursuing classes and activities in the arts and music department, as opposed to the athletic department. its hard to make friends when your doin somethin you dont enjoy/ arint interested in. if you focus your love and talent on music, im sure things will go much smoother and more successfully. you may even supass everyones expectations, even your own. Good luck with school, its a blast and a blur at the same time. o ya and remember your not quiting football, your focussing yourself on what you love because it makes you happy and you can succeed in it.
