just thoughtid leave an update...its been 4 months and still no sign of me getting prego...im starting to want to give up...its messing with me mentally bad...every time hubby wants to make love i tell him to forget it whats the point...eh well just thought id drop in and say hi.
You've looked into "Taking charge of your fertility", right? If you do it right, it could help you determine why you're not conceiving.
ive tried it...ive tried everything u can imagine...doctor says im fine doctor says hes fine...i dont get it.
Are you or your husband smoking or drinking or anything? I know that for the past two years my husband and I were never very careful regarding birth control and had plenty of unprotected sex, not trying for a baby (not being upset if we made one though), just not wanting to stop for the condom. We also smoked pot quite regurlarly. After vacationing with my parents for 2 weeks and not being able to have a smoke the entire time we enoyed some of our fairly regular unprotected sex in a cheap motel room on the road trip back home. Wouldn't ya know it, "bam" we were pregnant (and not exactly planning on it). Don't let sex be all about making a baby, it turns too mechanical. It WILL happen - just know that and enjoy expressing the intamacy between you and your partner in the meantime.
Definately just relax. The stress and depression over it can really slim the chances down....I know that it's really hard right now since you want it so bad. *hugs*
Its only been 4 months! They say that you should give yourself 3-6 months of active trying before starting to think of other methods. Give yourself some more time before getting down on yourself! You are still really young to be freaking out about this. Plus amazing things can happen once you quit thinking about it!
everything i have read says that it can take a healthy couple up to a year to concieve. were you on bcp prior? like everyone else says, try not to stress about it. easier said than done. but everything has a way of working out the way it should.
first, I wanna agree and disagree. Stress can lower your chances of conceiving, but if there is some other issue going on, relaxing is not going to get you pregnant. Most couples actively TTC for 6-12 months before conceiving, and that's just for those without any medical complications hindering conception. Do you recognize your fertile signs? Are you charting? Waiting until after you ovulate is too late for the sperm to reach the egg. Have intercourse before ovulation, when your cervical mucous is like egg whites. If you are having sex too often, his sperms might not be mature enough to fertilize the ova. I'd say give it a few more months, then have him send in a sample for analysis (since it's much cheaper and easier to spot problems with the sperm). If you can rule out any issues on his part, then it would probably be time to seek out the help of a reproductive endocrinologist. At your age, though, I'd give it a year of TTC without results first. FWIW, with both of my girls, I got pregnant the month after we stopped actively trying. *shrug* It took nine cycles to conceive Jenny, and seven to conceive Meriel. I do have endo, but for me it had no impact on my ability to get pregnant (though I do believe it is a major factor in why I've had so many miscarriages and chemical pregnancies).
ive followed the charting to a "t"....measuring cervical fluid ...only having sex once every couple days...i dont smoke anymore i quit about 6 weeks ago...me and my husband dont drink very often although if u ask any medical professional a glass of red wine a day is suppose to elp with conceiving....ive wanted a child for almost 2 years....i feel like i am very incomplete at the moment and my husband is starting to feel the same way...hes almost thirty with no children!.....i dunno im really depressed about the whole situation.
(((((((((sweetdreadlover)))))))))) I hope you are feeling better. If traditional medicine cant help, right before we got married, and I found out I wasn't ovulating every month, the doctor told me "Women you age" (I was 23) are usually given a minumum of 12 months before they are considered to have "fertility" problems. We actually got pregnant that month, before we got married, as we were under the impression pregnancy would be hard to acheive. But, 4 months isn't a long time for a 22 year old womyn. Oh, I was saying, if traditional medicine isn't or can't help you, I know a number of couples who have used Traditional Chinese Healers to conceive. A billion people over there, they know their fertility. It may be something to look into. Blessings, peace and take TWO months and have sex JUST FOR FUN, no talking of babies. That's my recommendation. Start enjoying sex again, don't think about pregnancy. I don't know if stress can prevent pregnancy (I am one of the MOST stressed people I know, and always have been and I get pregnant wo9thout trying, not always the best thing either) but, it isn't good for the REST of you, or for your relationship. Take a few months and get to know your man again. Then, maybe look into a Chinese practitioner. Their methods are a lot less invasive and dangerous than US fertility "therapy."
thanks hunny .....my only problem with only having sex for the fun of it is if we dont have sex for a reason my husband tends to neglect it...i know he doesnt mean to he has alot of stuff on his mind...but im afraid if there was no talk of babies hed forget all about it and sometimes it has a big thing to do with why my self esteem is really low sometimes and i feel unattractive, and puts me into a depressed funk. But if we are having sex for a reason it seems to happen more often.
