I've been dating this dude for a month and he STILL hasn't even kissed me. I don't see him often (it's sort of long distance), but shouldn't he be taking advantage of his opprotunities? Why wouldn't he have kissed me by now? And for the first week, we saw eachother almost every day, too. And cuz he's not doing it is making me nervous that he doesn't really like me or something and if I make the first move, I'll get rejected. What do you think?
I had that happen once too. I was seeing this guy for about a month when I had just turned 18 and from what I heard from mutual friends he liked me...and I liked him. But he never ever made a move. So after a month I figured he must not be into me and I started seeing someone else and stopped calling him. And of course right after that he started calling nonstop wanting to hang out and having our friends tell me how much he likes me but he's just shy about it (I was shy about it too, so guess that didnt help things) But by then I was already dating another guy. So it could be that he is just shy. Obviously if he is hanging out with you alot he likes you on some level...or he wouldnt be wasting his time. Whoever said to kiss him, I agree with that. But if you are too shy for that, then maybe you could ask him how he feels which might open up some doors. Good luck
Is he shy? If so, you'll probably have to make the first move. I'm terribly shy, and I don't think I could bring myself to steal a kiss without her making it very, very obvious she wants one. Then again, i haven't dated uh. . .. . . ever. I'm 18. Fuck.
i was a very shy person and my first girlfriend had to make ALL the moves it took us a month and a half to even kiss he will learn as i did
You probably make him nervous as fuck. Chicks sometimes do that to guys that like them. Kiss him on the cheek or something and make it obvious you want the favor returned.
but he's not even a virgin! I don't know how many girls or what circumstances, but that sort of kills the shy idea even though he seemed really nervous before he asked me out. Like he kept asking if I liked him and if he was my type and all. So I dunno- it all contradicts.
It doesn't matter if he has fucked 100 girls. If he "really" likes you "a lot", he will get nervous as fuck and will have 1000 thoughts going through his mind. Which will make him do abnormal things. Like not kiss you because he isn't sure if you want him to and he doesn't want to piss you off. Thinking too much makes you think fucked up things like that. Girls had made me do that once or twice before. But I'm pretty wierd, I guess. I'm no shrink, but I have have been in his shoes before....if what I said is the case, of course. Just make the first move and kiss him.
you kiss him, it's simple, if he pulls away he may not like you. i had jsut gotten out of a relationship that was purely physical, and this girl asked me out (well she got a mutual friend to) and of course i said yes because she seemed really sweet... i told her flat out that i wanted to take things slowly and this girl didnt have a reputation for taking things slowly, but she agreed. after 3 weeks of dating we made out under the stars with our arms around eachother and it was great...a week later she dumped me, turns out she had given the mutual friend a bj like 2 weeks b4 that, and i wouldn't be surprised if he wasnt the only one. (im still buddies with the mutual friend, he really is a good guy and everybody makes mistakes) heres where it gets interesting...she had dumped me that week to start seeing a guy my age (i was a year or to older) and a couple months afterwards it turns out she's gotten pregnant and is going through with the birth...it didnt take long for her to come back to me because im more of a paternal type than her boyfriend was...she told me she liked me and what not, and in all honesty i liked her still too, and deep inside i wanted to help raise the kid....it was lunch time at school and i leaned in a bit closer and she went in to kiss me, and i pulled back (which was mean, and sucked cuz i really did want to kiss her) and told her "that's why i wouldnt go back out with you", as she was willing to kiss me whilst still going out with her bf. i miss affection, but being cheated on sucks. lol, sorry about my post, maybe i should have started my own thread.
I'm sorry, dangermoose... God, I despise cheaters...sigh... To the original post...just kiss him. I've had to do that before because an ex-bf of mine was really shy and unexperienced. What's the worse that can happen?...he rejects you? At least you'll know you tried...
