help figuring out a dream about a lost one.

let me give you some background information first.
i had a really good friend that died last january in a drunk driving accident. the whole thing completely crushed me. after all that, i would have dreams about him all the time, but after i started to get over it, they went away. its been almost 2 years since the accident, and i'm pretty much back to myself and got over it. i haven't had a dream about him since he first died.

anyway, last night i had a dream and jason (my friend who died) was in it, and me and my friends and him were all sitting around talking and having a good time, i think we knew he was dead, but we never asked him anything about it, we just kept acting like he was alive. then next in my dream, me and my friends are all getting ready for his funeral.. none of us seem to upset about it, and i am more worried about finding clothes to wear, then thinking about his death. there is a lot of confusion going on, and i am frantically trying to run around trying to find clothes to wear... my dream completely skips over his funeral, and next thing i know, i'm in a restaurant w/ my friends w/ our funeral clothes on, talking like nothing happened..

it confuses me because i haven't had a dream about him in a really long time, i know that might not mean anything, but maybe if someone could help me figure out what this dream means, then i could understand why i had this dream...

 

Hello hippieatheart, here is what came into my mind.

It's like you have just changed again and are embracing the changes you went through from a place of greater trust ... as trusting into life was what you have been searching for.

The clothes are about the drama that you have wrapped yourself in like into clothes of mourning, and kinda role to play ... knowing this too is but a passage to move through in order to change, and be more aware of who you are (and what it means to be part of the oh so wonderfully strange thing we call life).

And he is just letting you know it is all ok, and the connection is as alive as you feel it.

Try and use the moment of confusion to clear up within yourself ... and do not worry, but keep the good times going, and act that way.

 

thank you for that! do you think that he contacted me in some way? or did i just come up w/ a dream about him

 

It's been my experiance, that the significance of a dream does not come from the large, obvious details. For instance, the frantic rush to find suitable clothing for the funeral. I tend to find that the real significance lies in the small, overlooked details. This is my insight for you to use to decypher this dream for yourself.

You mention that no one really said much/acted much like your dear friend was truely gone. This being your dream, means that the actions of even your friends is decided by you. To me personally, it seems as part of you doesn't see him as 'passed', or gone. I don't say this to imply you've not grieved, or come to terms with his passing, but more as, the memories of his living are still strong. There is nothing wrong with this. What I see is recognition of a mans life, even after his passing. This shows true heart. When even in your subconcious, where even personal honesty/dishonesty cannot exist, you truely think of Jason as part of your life, even beyond his passing.

I can only say this. If I would pass, I should hope someone would think of me in such a respect. I'd be honored to live on through others.

I don't say this to decypher your dream for you. I can't begin to do such a thing, as only you can begin to have the slightest idea of what it means. I simply offer my viewpoint.

Blessed be,
to you, and Jason.