How can one stop pointless jealousy? i aboslutely love and adore my lady, and i feel like the luckiest person alive to be able to share everything i do with her. I'm not an overly jealous person, im not lke my ex who didnt let me have ANY female contact other than her, i dont mind her knowing males, going out with her male friends etc. But for some reason, at random times i get really paranoid that something is going to happen. I dont think "she's gonna go off with someone else", i just know alot of people will be trying to hit on her etc, and it just makes me worry. If i wasn't with my girlfriend, i'd look at her as a "way out of my league" girl, I mean way out, but i trust her. I'm just confused why i know she wont do anything, but i get paranoid and think ridiculous things. Any help or advice would be appreciated i've more to add but can't really put it into words, maybe questions or something will help. thanks for taking the time to read this. (if you did, although, you wouldnt be reading this last sentence if you........didnt, unless you read things from...the bottom)
hmm well, thats something ya can try to change but might not be so easy, however it doesnt seem like insane jealousy and your not tryin to control her so your not doin so horribly instead of tryin to change how u feel maybe just recognize it accept it then dismiss it recognize; what is it that triggers the jealousy, totaly examine your feelings without dwelling on them accept; just accept that everyone has some lil twinges of jealousy from time to time and its no big deal to be jealouse alittle bit now and then sismiss; with trust and open comminication and the understanding that youve examined and accepted your jealousy, you can choose to trust, dismissthe emotions as simple silly insecurities also get that idea of leagues out of your head
thanks for the swift response! can't help the leagues thing, grew up with no female contact or interest until i was about 19. Thanks again!
thats not unusual at all.. i sence the jealousy really comes from feeling like shes too good for you..why is she with you shesso amazing she could have anyone well..gues what..she chose you leagues are for the shallow and unenlightened if she felt shewas out of your league would u even want her? get that out of your league bs outta your head and you'll defeat the jealousy
