very basicaly, there is this guy i have always had strong feelings for, but i dont think he feels the same, he used to go out with my best friend, who is going out with my ex boyfriend, i have told her how i feel about him, and she is supportive, all for it, my and her are having problems in our friendship at the moment and karl ( the guy i really like) is still really good friends with her, our worlds have kindof gone different paths, they have all gone smoking and things, and im not into that stuff, what should i do!!!! should i tell him and suffer the pain of him not feeling the same, or not tell him and just suffer anyway.
well ijust read your other post about your ex but aside from that the situation seems lil odd giving your tangled web of relationships, but sometimes odd works..lol anyways, 1st off smoking shouldnt have any affect on your relationships if your accepting of theyre choices but, on to the important question yacan suffer on never knowing..and guarantee your suffering or..you can take a chance..and either go on siffering..or..be happy at least the second option has a 50% chance right? doing nothing only guarantees you get nothing in return hugs...good luck!!!! go get him!!! but..remember to learn from the past.. your young, dont make it so serois that he becomes everything toyou sorry for the spelling its almmost 5 am and i should beasleep..but i had to reply to u 1st
I would suggest spending some time thinking about whether it would really be a good idea to get together with this guy. If your worlds have gone off on different paths, it might be best to just move on now. What exactly do you mean by "they have all gone smoking and things"? And are they smoking pot or tobacco? If they've all experimented occasionally, then that would be something you could get past. However, if he's smoking pot on a daily basis, you're likely to wind up feeling left out (when he goes to smoke up with his friends) or feeling pressured to join in. Neither option sounds good to me. I guess my main point is that you are the only one right now who knows enough of the details to figure this out. If you're really going in different directions in your lives, it's not likely that the relationship will work out, but it could be fun in the short-term. And, if that's the case, then you have to figure out whether you want to risk your friendship for what is not likely to be a long lasting relationship (though there's always a chance, however slim it may be). And, of course, all of this is based on your comment of being on different paths -- maybe you have a better chance than it sounds like from your post here if I'm taking that comment more seriously than you meant it.
thank you both, you both have given me really good points of view. helped alot, really appreciate it. i think im going to leave it be, maybe sometime in the furture i will tell him how i feel about him, but now is not the right time. hugs and blessings xxx
