How do you know when you are really over someone? i was in a 4 yr relationship, and it ended very badly in january. i thought i was over him for awhile, but i have never felt that feeling again with anyone else. i dont want a relationship, but i am afraid i am not over this guy. and it sickens me, after all he put me through.
well, odds are since you were in a 4 year relationship with him, it's going to take a long time to get over him. you can't just get over someone overnight (or even over a few months). maybe you're over HIM, but not over the good times you had WITH him. i guess all i can say is keep living your life, and eventually the pain will go away. *hugs*
thank you sandora hermosa. i appreciate you taking some time to think about my situation. and Trout, you are mine?? woo!
i am the type of person that has to have a crush at least, or a relationship all the time. I just get really dpressed when I don't, cause I only think about the last serious relationship i had and get even worse. I am a hopeless romantic I guess, I live for love and people.
if you are never by yourself, how can you truly experience things\life on your own? without worrying about someone else.
I do live on my own, and experience things on ym own and stuff. I just usually am happy when I have someone on my mind that I like and that likes me too. Its har to explain. I don't spend all my time thinking about them, I just have that little warmth in my heart when I know that someone cares about me or is thinking about me, and I am doing the same for them.
man do i know your feeling....i was w/a girl for damn near 5yrs, we was young still and all that...but we broke up real nasty...she was cheating on me, so i cheated on her, and it just all blew up one day, when it got to be too much...she comes into where i'm working out all bitching at me about cheating when i personally saw her get into a car with the dude she is married too now?!?!?....but is all flipping out on me, and i was all tore up i jumped up off the incline bench i was on, threw 2 80lb dumbells clear across the room and jumped up and punched a door was like get out of my fuckin face now, i don't wanna see you, dont want to talk to you, basically to fuck off.....well after i chilled out i guess i realized just how much in love with her i was and how it was driving me crazy, but i just needed my own time....well for a month she calls everyday and i wouldnt talk to her, but at the same time she was going out with her soon to be husband....well after about 5mo's i started dating again, but couldnt keep a relationship cuz all i did was the compare and contrast thing, and thought about how perfect bran was and how un-perfect all the other chix i was seeing were....well i was stuck on her for better than a year at this time....then her granny died and we ran back into 1 another at the wake...she was w/her man, and he was being all super protective at the funeral, well after it wqas all over with she calls, and we talked.....we hooked up and it kept on for about a yr...she said she wanted a relationship w/me again and that she loved me, and lord knows i loved her, so i was like ok but u gotta loose gary...she kept telling me she was for about 2mo's i let it go on like that...i mean we was 2gether every nite, fucked like animals, but she wouldn't loose this dude, because he was "more stable"......well i got sick of it....called her up and was like lets go out and eat...this is where it gets interesting...well we go out, have a few drinks...well ol dad here pop's a viagra...hehe 100mg..hehe...we get a room at the hampton inn....i mean i was juiced too...that damn viagra had me a jumping hard on....i gutted her, i mean with every ounce of anger i ever had...it was by far the most passionate wildest best sex i could ever imagine...i mean i don't thinka porn star could of kept up that nite...i mean for like 6 or 7 hours we went at it...sweating like pigs...panting...screaming...everything....well about 5 am rolls around, i got up, wrote a note that said...."see what ya gave up"......and left her ass there, and haven't heard from her since...and truth be known i havent thought about it that much...i guess i was just so blinded by what i felt that i couldnt think rationally at the time....but once i did that and on the drive hoome, it was like a big weight was lifted off of my shoulders...i honestly feel that if i hadn't done that i would to this day be stuck on her......but i still can't keep a relationship...hehe
And animalliberation... This is just a thought - I could be wrong. I know a lot of people that use relationships as a way to fill the void where things are missing in their lives. I have certainly been guilty of it myself from time to time. The way I've gotten past it is to directly address the causes and conditions. Why did I stay even when it got bad? etc. Rigorous self honesty reaps the best rewards. Peace & Love ...and yes, I am your huckleberry.
