My girlfriend cheated on me!! now what I do?

whats the point of dumping her then taking her back in a couple of hours when nothings changed. either dump her, or tell her not to speak to her friend again.and you should threaten this 'freind' of hers as well, they guy is obviously a douche and has no respect for you, or your feelings. tell him if he really wants to be her friend than he wouldnt be screwing up her relationship with a guy who is obviously great for her and she likes a lot. tell him he can be her friend and call her when you trust him around her again and not untill then. if he really wants to be her friend he'd unerstand that, if he refuses than you know he's after some tail and deserves a bitch slap.

 

Dump the bitch!!!She's gonna end up fuckin him at work...don't be a sucker!!!

 

>You need to go and beat the hell out of the guy (use a bat if your too
>much of a pussy to strike him). Then you need to get rid of that whore
>of a girlfriend you have.

and

>I think you need to go find this guy and kick the shit out of him.

Infidelity is always a convenient excuse to give vent to violence.

 

I havent read the other posts (and barely any of the original, much is my rush at the minute) but if i had been cheated on, I'd do something like this;

suggest the relationship become an open one, that if she was willing to eat out of two pies (shit metaphor ) then you should, if you wanted, do the same. That, or suggest a threesome with her most attractive friend, or a relative stranger of the internet or something (no, by the way )

If you or her cant handle the thought of your loved one being happy with someone else then i would challenge how deep it actually goes. I've watched on while my last girlfriend not only slept with someone else during our relationship but has been with someone for ages (we split nearly two years ago) and plans on getting married....and i still love her. recently its getting harder because of other things culminating in my life and i've tried to get these feelings out (i feel as if i should be starting a new post but hey its backround) but i wouldnt want to break up what she and her fiance/bf has, so i've kept my distance.

if you have a problem, tell the guy. if he continues, or has continued. get revenge. ive got a 100page document on suitable methods

 

^^^Dude your just as fucked as he is!You watched another guy nail your girl?What a pussy!I would of cut the motherfuckers dick off!!!!Plus your about to get married to the whore!?????????Dude what the fuck!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

dude, put yourself in your shoes before you went out with her. She was never in your mind. Fuck her man, dump the dumb bitch, put yourself in your previous shoes and love again with no regrets. Shit son, there are sooo many girls out there - why let this one **** bring you down? You had a good time, get out before the shit turns sour (which it seems, already has). Seriously though, let 'er loose.

Cheers n good luck hommie.

peace

 

Thank you all..you are all the best....I broke it off last night while she was with him again at a bar. Again she started confusing me telling me she loves me and bla bla while the other guy was a jerk in the background and saying things.....now I am dealing with drowning that strong love I had for her..I am trying to kill it so I can move on...gosh, I feel torn apart and wanna drive my car to the wall. It Kills me when she tells me she hates to see me torn.I don't need to hear that...Also, sucks since I just moved to Philadephia and don't have any friends at all..Just you guys here..

Thank you,

 

hey man every little thing's gonna be alright. You did the right thing, that slut's gonna burn in hell.

Cheers!

 

you say she won't let you go, but that is not true, she can't hold you in a relationship. you make your own choice, if you want to break up you break up. you are the only person that says what you will or won't do. if you want to stay in a 'relationship' with a cheater that is 'confused' about how she feels about you after cheating, than you choose that, not her. if you decide you deserve better for yourself and leave, that too is your choice.

good luck, and remember you are not a victim in this along for the ride, you choose your role in this, make sure it is one that will make you happy in the end. staying with her doesn't sound like the best thing for you to do..

 

Gosh this hurt..I am in so much pain....If would be easy if our relationship was falling apart..Everyone was jealous of us...and she had to ruin it..Hurts. hurts, hurts....

 

Leave her, beat the guy. multiple times.

 

Been here before, man... my ex is currently dating one of my former best friends. But hey, now that you've got the hard part out of the way and gotten rid of her; the next step for you is No Contact! Don't talk to her, don't open her emails, don't talk to her friends... nothing. That's the easiest way to get past into the past. Sorry that you're in a new city with not many people that you know; but tell ya what, it's better than loosing damn near all your friends cos your ex hangs out with all of em. Go out and meet some new people; perhaps you'll find some nice sympathetic girlie to pick your head up (pun intended) You'll probably be in for a rough few weeks, but in the end you'll be better off.

Good luck to ya there, guy.

 

I know how you felt. It is such a huge pain. The pain has stopped me from work, school and gosh everything.I am trying not to call her. I have hold myself back. It sucks that I was actually very much in love with her. And as she always told me that she NEVER cheats on me since she is madly in love with me!!!! Ok, why people do that to each other!!! I look back and I see I had so many chances, but I told them all I am involve and in love! Is that what I get for being the most faithful to her?? I hope what goes around comes around. It really makes me feel better to see that..

 

yo im realyl sorry to hear that. you are sch a cutie and no girl should just cheat on you liek that. either dump her but before you do that, you have ot talk to her. communication is key. ask yourself if you want her or notand also- if she wants you. you can waste your time and feel liek a big loser or you can just go on with your life and remeber that there are alot of people (liek me) who think you are awesome and bigger than the situation.

dont let some chick get into your fence or mess with it.

 

dump her ass and never talk to her again...

 

My friend, many of us have been their before Just remember you are not alone, and time will heal everything. Before long she will just be "that person yo u dated" and you wouldn't even think about being with her. It usually takes me about 8 months to recover from being in love. It takes a long time yes, but it is good to be single too. Try not to think about her, and if you do think about her, think of everything negative that way you remember nothing good about it. Cry yourself out, relax yourself, and let yourself heal. It will be alright

 

I listened to all of you out there and I am glad I did. I finally broke it off and taking the pain and I hope it goes away. But my phone won't stop ringing! She called about 30 times last night and so many calls today( I am not answering my phone)..I get voice messages such as begging to take her back and it was all a mistake and etc. Well, when I listen to this, it really break me down..What do I do now?? Part of me wants her back and other part reminds me of her cheating on me with the other guy and I gave her 4 chances and she broke them. She keeps telling me that she can never find anyone like me and etc...I am trying to move on so hard..but these messages put me back where I started..I can't handle it anymore...any advice?? Take her back or keep the pain til goes away....

Thank you all

 

:sunglasseMay as well move on.You dont need that. MAG

 

It boils down to what you want, and what you can handle. You can stay away from this girl, not answer the calls, not return the messages; or you can talk to her about it. I wouldn't talk to her until you've really thought this through, though, because it's much harder to stay resilient when your defenses are weakened. If you decide to try and work this out, you're going to have some pretty serious trust issues, and you're going to have to come up with a way to resolve them. One question I have for you is, are you in a different city from her, and if so, how far away? If there's a significant distance issue, I'd definitely say keep up the no contact; that would just be too hard. Other than that, the situation in and of itself doesn't sound too complicated; there's just a lot of emotions there for you to sort through.

This is someone who's hurt you pretty bad, and it's up to you to decide whether it's worth trying to work out. Nobody on this board knows the whole story, and it's hard to give really good advice based on a few observations. One thing I can recommend, if you can; talk to a professional. A good psychologist can go a long way. Good luck!