I just wanted to talk about this, but comments are welcome...

I'm a 14 year old and I have a friend named --... he's 17. And I have a huge crush on him... I think I might love him. I've known him for about a year and while most people take an instant dislike to him, he is amazing in my eyes. I've never seen so much as a face shot of him, but I know his personality very well and oh my God. I don't think about him non-stop (although I dot a lot) or get butterflies in my stomach like some people say love feels like, but I really think I might love him. I love to just talk to him for hours and hours on end. But it can never be... first of all because that age difference would probably turn him off to it, and second of all because he's "straight as an arrow." I just wanted to get my thoughts down. Thanks.

 

Your male and he is as well? You didnt mention if you know he is gay, is he gay? If not you are out of luck.

 

at 19 straight as an arrow can all be an act


but it is a pretty huge risk to try to find out

have you admitted to him your gay?

 

He knows I'm gay and is totally, completely cool with it. We make gay jokes all the time (not offensive ones, but things where he accidentally says something suggestive and I say something about it). He's said several times he's definatly straight and he has had girlfriends in the past, one of which he claimed to love.

 

Well then you can never go out with him. You cant make him gay if he isnt.

 

I know. I'm not trying to make him gay... it's just upsetting that I don't have a chance.

 

I bet you do... lol I found out yesterday, that i close friend of mine is bi... And he was one of those types, where you comment on gay sex, he'll say its discusting and what not... lol what im trying to say is... You might have a chance espically if he's on of those experimenting types. And his young and i bet you can jazz up the scene for him, if you really want to do him....

Thats the reason for this topic right ?

 

That's not really the reason I made the thread, I was just getting my thoughts down. I guess it's possible that he might be into trying it, but he's one of those guys that cuts through the crap and (especially over the internet) doesn't have a problem telling people the truth. I don't think it'd be worth trying anything, though... that could make things so akward between us that it might destory our friendship.

 

You're 14 and gay? Geez.

 

You live in Virginia and you're human?

Geez...

 

Perhaps the 'suggestive' things he's saying are his way of trying to get you to approach him. Maybe he IS curious.

Stick with your gut feeling, but maybe just ask him if he's ever honestly thought about it (not you specifically).

 

There are always fairly easy, back-outtable (if that is even a word), of slipping (pardon the pun) more than suggestive things into conversations. "Hypothetically..." is always a good way to start! It can be hard when things dont work out, but to look at it this way, you may have lost the opportunity to have a great lover, but you still have a great friend! Not that it really makes it any easier...But once the initial disappointment has worn off....

 

Maybe he is just comfortable around gay people, but you could totally end up humiliating yourself if you tried it on with him. I think its best if you find someone who knows he is gay and has dated other guys.

 

And that's what I'm thinking, EazyE. It could (probably would) end up in bad things, but if I get really brave or something I may try to slip some extremely mild suggestions. I don't know... I really appreciate the responses guys.

 

Be careful....and stay safe..!!!!

 

Always.... Thanks.

 

You can love your friends just as much as you love your lover and that's important because regardless of your lover, you'll always need your friends. Or wait.............I don't know, but anyway, I don't think your IN LOVE WITH HIM persay, I think you just LOVE ALOT OF THINGS ABOUT HIM. You like him alot, if he's not gay, I wouldn't push it. Not saying that you are, but try and look at him as a true friend rather then someone you see yourself with because you could end up getting really hurt. It's good that your that age and know what your sexual preference is, of course I hate to tell people that they are too young or don't know enough about love to know what it is. I actually admire your honesty and it takes a really brave person to come out and show people who they are. I'm sure you'll get your heart broken a few times and you might break a few hearts along the way yourself, eiether way, you still got years and years to fall in and out of love. So does everybody else. I hope things remain good between you and Nick.