I have this beautiful.. hell, gorgeous daughter, Lily Mae. Who thinks sleeping is EVIL. Like. . . I get her to sleep and she seems so out of it but the second she's two inches from the crib... it's "WAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA" and then like... it sucks. She also refuses to stop nursing. She's twelve months old, and I don't know what to do.
my bros baby was the same way with the crib i got him this lil waterfall thingy & just the sound of the trickling water relaxed & calmed him enough to sleep but im thinking its aseperation anxiety your jus too sweet of a momma and she doesnt want to be away from u maybe stay with her touching her in the crib till she sleeps instead of putting her in & leaving same with the breast feeding, replace the breast with cuddling while feeding holfing her while feeding instead of in a chair or something? maybe?
baby needs to nurse a minimum of two years. weaning this young is likely to be very traumatic for her. Sleeping alone is something nobody wants to do. Do you sleep all by yourself? Most humans need the comfort of other warm bodies next to them at night. She's probably going through some major developmental leaps and bounds right now, and needs the extra comfort and reassurance that only comes from being held and nursed. I've noticed that whenever I attempt to cut back on how long or how often my children nurse, they only become more clingy and whiney and need to nurse that much more. Easy solution is to nurse more often during the day, so they don't need it so much at night. And the easy solution to a baby who doesn't want to sleep all alone in a crib (maybe even in a different room) is to cosleep. But what you really have to do is stop listening to what everyone else is telling you that you should do, and listen to your mama instincts instead. When my babies were little like yours and I did that, it told me not to expect baby to not want comfort at night, and to nurse baby whenever she needs it. Babies stop nursing when they no longer need it. It's really that simple. And they also stop cosleeping when they no longer need that. It's my friends who were constantly trying to kick their children out of the family bed that had seven-year-olds still sleeping with Mommy and Daddy. Both of my girls know they are welcome to sleep wherever they want, and they usually (certainly not all the time) choose to sleep alone or with each other now. From Dr. Sears' website: http://www.askdrsears.com/html/2/T026400.asp and Dr. Sears on cosleeping http://www.askdrsears.com/html/7/T071000.asp all I know is that for me, personally, I never got any sleep when I wanted my first child to sleep in the crib. It wasn't until I stopped listening to the relatives' and friends' well-meaning advice, and started listening to my mama instincts, and took baby to bed with me, that I finally started getting good nights' sleep.
I agree. My daughter always hated her bed and slept with me until she was about 3. At that point, she was ready for her very own bed. As for nursing, when she was about 15 months old, she just didn't want to any more. I was kind of disappointed, but the time was right for her, so I didn't fight it. Babies know more than we think they do.
what mamaboogie said. especially, if this is out of the norm for your dd, she's prolly coming up on some milestones and needs extra comfort since she's unsure what's happening in her brain
Maybe she needs her kid to stop nursing for reasons we don't know. Every woman is different and her breasts are her breasts, no one else's. If she wants to stop breastfeeding, she can stop. her child will be fine. Both my daughters were not able to be breastfed beyond a couple of months and they abandoned the bottle at a year and a half in leiu of a sippy cup. Millions of children are perfectly normal and fine whethor they were breastfed until 2 years or not. She's looking for advice on how to stop breastfeeding(for whatever reasons..it's her choice) not lectures about how wrong she is for wanting it to stop.
Let your baby sleep with you. She'll enjoy it. You're nice and warm and it'll give her comfort and security. It's also a lot easier for those early morning feedings.
agreed let your daughter sleep with you if your up to it or if you want your alone time nurse her to sleep (or however you put her to sleep) and let her just lay in your arms for atleast 30 or 40 minutes after she falls asleep. then put her in her crib. makes sure that her crib is warm cuz that could be a reason she wakes up. i went through the same thing with aiden when he was a baby until a couple months i tried this method and it worked finally after awhile i didnt have to warm up his crib blanket and i would just lay him in his crib. about the nursing i dont know cuz im stil nursing aiden but i need to wean hi soon cuz im pregnant and my boob are killing me. ive tried giving him a sippy cup with a soft top and warm milk didnt work for me it might for you. the only thing i know that works is if my hubby puts him to sleep and thats very rarely cuz hubby is too busy.
fyi ff, you don't have to wean if you don't want to. i'm tandum nersing my babe and toddler. it's alot of nursing but it keeps me fulfilled
I also tandem nursed both of mine, but I understand wanting to wean. I just couldn't, in good conscience, wean my oldest child before she was ready for it. Not to mention the issue of immune system benefits, when auto-immune disorders run rampant in my family.
