now me and my boyfriend have been together for about 4 months and we spend liturally everyday together... even in the first month of us bein together i was sleepin over his house...now schools in..i sleep over his house every weekend... my daily thing school home he gets off of work picks me up (cause i dont drive yet) if its a weekday go home at 10-11 then repeat if its friday or a holiday break i usally stay over till whenever... and now the weird thing is he dont seem to mind hangin out at all like i ask if he wants to hang out or not and hes like "yea i love seein u and lalala" i told him the other night we dont have to hang out this weekend even though in ohio this weekend saturday is sweetestday... but i was thinkin if i should just back off and tell him no go work on ur uad and shit or if i should just continue doin watever pops up.....
hey if u got someone u like hangin with allthe time & he likes being with u whats wrong with that? do you like spending all YOUR time with him? if so..whats wrong with that? ofcourse theres nothin wrong with spending time apart either.. just are u wanting to spend time apart cause u feel u should..or cause u really want to?
Exactly. Are you saying that because you feel you spend too much time together, or because you feel you shouldn't spend too much time together because of what others have said, societal expectations, etc? There's nothing wrong with time apart, in fact it's healthy, too, but if you want to spend time iwht him, and he you, then go ahead and spend time
After reading this I wonder if you are bored with your relationship. I wonder because most people enjoy spending time with someone they care about, and work at making time to do it. At 16 you will eventually date a guy that would rather hang with friends than you....enjoy what you have now. Trust me, when you get married and have kids spending time with your partner is a luxury you seldom get. Oh, and it is important to have some time apart, but if he tells you he enjoys your company take it as the compliment that it is meant to be.
It's no big a deal unless you are bored with your partner. Every moment spent with your lover is bliss.
I would back off a bit...4 months and you're spending the night at his house all the time? The faster and easier you give yourself the less you get in return in the long run. Most guys like the chase, don't deny him of that-or you...it's fun. Back off slowly though and make the time you do spend together more special. The last short relationship I had I was at his house all the time and I got a little too clingy too fast. He still treated me well I just think I missed out on seeing him sweat for awhile...and when somone doesn't try I get bored and just stop calling them back. If I were you or him I would just be afraid of being in a rut and not going out on actual dates often enough. I have a rule even in long term relationships, I don't spend the night unless we went somwhere or did something cool at home...me sleeping over is a privelage-not an expectation.
lmao.....thanx u guys....well see i love it its just im afraid of the clingy thing and i just dont want to annoy him he says he loves seein me and i usally dont fight it.... im not bored with him at all and hes 19 and we usally go out and drink together i see his friends than i do mine anymore.... kinda sad but i just love the kid to death.... its kind of a split thing were if i do slow down it might cause some confussion for him and upset him he might think negitive... and then if i do hang out with him like i have been we might get edgy and start arguing or sumthin or he might lose interest is wat i think...but idk
Maybe you are afraid of actually 'needing' your lover. This is a hard process, you see. To need someone means we have succumbed to the power of love.
like i hate being with out him and i hate when i go and try to do my own thing and hes not there with me doin it to....cause he either wants to sleep....like this one time.... i was goin to my friends party and he was tried and didnt wanna go he wanted to sleep i said okay and we did our own thing.... well about 3 hours later i was bored and was tryin to get ahold of him and he wasnt pickin up the cell...so i was upset cause i missed him in a way..... so i had my friend drop me off at a deli when i got ahold of him and told him to pick me up there cause i just wasnt havin fun seein everyone else with there BF's and GF's so he came and got me and just went to his house and talked about us.... and i cant remeber everything but i do remember i started to cry a little and it took like 2 hours for me to tell him wat was wrong...if im not wrong i think it was because i was afraid he wanted to break up with me...idk y i thought of that but it scared the crap out of me!
