I wish I was able to be a sociopath...

There's a certain comfort that comes to mind about not being able to feel guilt, shame, or other such awful feelings.

Being a sociopath, I would not have to so concerned about others, other people's opinions and feelings, etc. I truly hate being as empathetic as I am, since it only ever draws me to agony.

 

what a sad thing tosay..the world needs more empathic caring people & far less sociopaths

a sociopath does nothing but cause pain to everyone they come in contact with..
an empathic absorbes the pain of others
its okto feeltheyre pain..i do all the time..but just dont make theyre pain your own

i'm alsovery empathic and yes ive dealt with a hell of alotta pain, if imade it my own i'd be insane
but the plus side is knowing that youve helped someone deal with theyre pain

wanna know what i've dealt with?
probably about 500 or more rapes
probably just as many molestations
probably around 60 murders
25 or so suicides
3 or 400 prevented suicides
20 attempted (5 almost successful) suicides
thousands of depressions
hundreds of cutting or eatting or body image disorders
i cant even guess at how many abusive relationships

a few complete mental slavery (total deprogramming)

then theres the every day problems & insecurities & whatever

if u let it build upin u ofcourse its overwhelming

the key is although you feeltheyre pain intencely..you dont make it your pain
instead use it togrow your wisdom
learn from evety experience, but dont let it tear you apart

dunnoif i can explain it any better, its just a matter of choosing to be happy despite all the evilin the world

also helps tohave something really possitive inyour life that holds utogether & keeps u sane & makes it all worthwhile (wellits all worthwhile really if u help just 1 person)

 

Empathy can be nice, i like to get out of my own head and empathy is a way of doing so.

You don't have to empathise with others pain you can also empathise with their joy and happiness, it's like when you see some one you care very much about being happy, it can make you happy to.

 

exactly
i was just adressing the pain since thats what he was complaining about
but god whenu get around a large group of joyful people its so amazing

yeathats the possitive u need in your life ya gotta get around equalnumbers of joyful people to regain ballance

i'm lucky i have that in abundance

 

being a sociopath is like being dead, unable to feel, unable to emit. Everyone, or the someone near you is in a pain, anger, humilation, or just simple fear. Unable to feel guilt means unable to feel responsiblity, unable to feel shame comes from feeling no worth. You can't feel awful feelings, becasue their is no contrast to your own. Dull, dim, hopeless feat they simile, not from joy,more from confusing, you sometimes simile because their is nothing else to do;

or so i think.....

 

but being a true sociopath you would not miss those feelings as you dont have them, like being born blind you may know your missing something that some have but you dont really know thus you have less connection to it.


Now those around you would not like the idea of your condition but it likely would not bother you s much.

 

I think you just want to be able to shove feelings aside for a bit and pull them out when you want them back. And being a sociopath is nothing great. They not the kind of people one would tend to associate with.

 

being a sociopath is horrible, dont wish for that.

now what u want to be is stupid and naive and oblivious. stupid pple seem always happy. they never realize that pple are cruel and mean, they never realize that pple around them hurt, they never come to the conclusion that the world is cruel.

 

That's precisely it - true sociopaths are internally self-reliant and thus have no need for approval or acceptance from others, hence their complete indifference to other human beings.

 

Of course, all the reason more why it'd be nice to be able to be a sociopath. The very nature of being a sociopath would make it possible to not be bothered by living isolation and being excluded, rejected, punished, having guilt trips laid upon me, etc. These things wreak havoc on people only because they are mentally painful (as opposed to robbing one of a physical necessity), and being a sociopath makes one impervious to such things.

 

So youd rather be apart of hate and envy? Sociopaths may not feel a connection of love, but they envy everyone who is "above" them....If you have a quality they wish to have they will envy you.

But just think what kind of person you would be, you would not be happy unless you hurt someone else? What is life without love?

Being empathtic shows you care and shows that your a wonderful person thats all. Its hard to deal with pain but theres always tomorrow, and each day is new and anything can change.

 

The type of sociopath I'm thinking of has no need for hate and envy. Sociopaths neither love nor hate, they are indifferent to such things.

 

nonono they long to feel...anything
thats why a sociopath does such shocking things..they know they shoild feel disgust..but feel nothing... so they go firther hoping that sooner or later 1 shocking act of cruelty will finaly make them feel

they envy hate they envy love they envy any pain they could feel
imagine eatting someones body just hoping theyd be able to feel the pain your so willing to throw away..
be overjoyed that your capable of feeling so much

 

I understand what your saying. I cant stand knowing someone is hurting cause it makes me hurt. But I couldnt imagen not being able to care about anyone or anything...life would be dull. My life is defined by my family and my friends and the feelings I feel, I think being sociopathic would be a terrible way of life.

 

Maybe you should instead try to insert yourself into a more positive environment. Like other people said, empathy works both ways. If you're frustrated or disturbed by feeling empathetic with more negative feelings/situations maybe you should check out a good and positive place so you can remind yourself of why we have these feelings. I know what you mean, sometimes I am overwhelmed by the emotion of it all - but I've known sociopaths, the exact kind of people you are talking about, and I DO NOT envy them. I'd take empathy over that any day.