Do you remember when you "declared" your gender?

For some reason day before yesterday I came upon the rememberance of the day that I claimed my womanhood. It was actually quite a while before the point in time that anyone who knew or met me thought there was much female about me. It was probably about 2 months before I started living as female. I had just started taking herbs to get a feminine body. There were so many things along the way but this is one of the milestones that I think will always stick in my mind.

 

Congrats !!!..........I am so glad you are well and happy and spending time here amongst us.....many wishes for continued happiness !!!!

 

congrats Snowdancer.

I wonder if theres a point where people that are happy that their body matches their gender claim their gender too

maybe I'm not putting this well, a woman finding her womanhood a man finding his manhood, I suppose for women it may happen when they have their first period.

Snowdancer do you remember when you first rejected your birth body?
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we both posted congrats at about the same time, I reckon that proves we're soul sisters!
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I don't know... I think there's something to knowing it's a big deal, in "declaring your gender" outside of the one that everyone knows you as...

In acknowledging that to yourself... I always thought back on being a boy as a child, my feminity was something I was very uninterested in, I almost despised it... I can't quite say I found my womanhood until last year and I had my first period over 10 years ago.

 

how do you feel now about having a female body?
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Well, I finally feel a connection with my body... but there are times that I definately feel out of place in my body and wish I were male... but at least I do have a connection with my body now... I never had before. Now that I think about it, that's probably why I'm so fascinated with the male body, 'cause I really wish I had my own to switch back and forth between, sometimes.

But I guess to the original poster, I was sorta saying that I'm not quite envious, but really excited for you... sometimes being a minority is really a positive thing... makes you stronger, but it also gives you the capability to really experience things that people overlook and take advantage of, because it's normal to them... so like has been said. Congrats!

 

I don't have as clear of a memory about that; in many ways I think that was aqlways there but it started coming on in earnest when I was in my 30's. I do remember that there was a long time that I just couldn't possibly think that my body was worth looking at even though I was an amature cyclist who could keep up with the semiprofessional racers. I just recently am starting to get a body that I think is attractive & it's lost quite a bit of it's hardness. My arms are still quite bulky for a womam but my breasts are comimg in nicely & my hips & thighs are definitly soft.

 

Well, if "declared" means "coming out to others", I'm not there yet. Though, I'm getting a few stares now that the HRT is starting to show, so that may not last<g>.

But, if you include "declaring" to yourself, I sort of came along in stages. As far back as age three, I knew something was up and that I should be a girl/woman. Through various fits and starts, I finally made it to the point a few years ago that the operative word wasn't "should" but "am". The brain, spirit and sould are, and always have been, those of a woman. The body apparently didn't get the memo and lags behind, but it is now catching up. I'm not sure where the road in this life leads, but reaching self-understanding and acceptance has been wonderful.

 

I kmow a lot of male to female transexuals that actually went over board on the masculine things in a sort of denial to themselves before they finally came to terms with themselves, I mean one was a parachute jumper in the army.
this has the unfortunate side effect of bulking up the male body, its not that easy to get rid of muscles once you have them is it?
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You sound like a really strong person, reading this post leaves me with little doubt that you'll get exactly where you want to in life
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I remember my dad telling me that she was a very normal boy but somewhere between her late teens and 20's she became more femenin. She joined the US marines after highschool to prove her manhood but I think that somehow backfired. I definately rememberd that she declared her womanhood in 1996.

As for me, I have no idea what my gender is! But I'm very glad that my dad does.

 

you really don't know about your gender, would talking to her (your dad) help in anyway, maybe you already have
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Good idea and we have talked a little about it, but since I'm not really bothered by not knowing it's not much of an issue. If it becomes one then I definately will. I know one thing, either way she's gonna tease me about it till the end of time! ^_^;;

 

When I nearly lost my job over my gender :\ It meant that much to me and I couldn't be someone else anymore, it hurt too much to be seen as something I was not. I was a young BLOKE. -fumes at discriminatory workplaces-

 

Offtopic but I finally won the battle over names at work. Its not changed legally yet but they're letting me wear Mitch (short version of my legal name) on my tag. Its not Matt but its male, good enough.

 

I just joined this forum and decided to post here, the reason I joined.

I prefer to have new people I meet to call me male, and by my male name, but I'm not having any luck correcting my family....I remember the first time I asked to be called a male, my mom laughed and said I wasn't a guy, that I'm a girl....

 

I'd say the first time I officially said to myself I'm genderqueer it was about 4 or 5 months ago. I've slowly been telling a few select people and I have a few people calling me by female pronouns

 

I first realised i was female around 5/6 years old. Maybe it was before then, but that was when my earliest memories were. In between that time and leaving school, various other children knew i preffered being reffered to as female. And i acted female around other kids i knew would be okay with it. Once i left school, i never referred to myself in a male context around people i'd just met. And was very ambiguous with people i already knew. I finally told my mother i was really female when i was 18. She didnt seem at all shocked, and said she always knew there was something "wrong" with me. However, she's always had trouble with it. Though she has reluctantly accepted me as her daughter now. Which means a lot to me.