Reflections,parents of gay and Bisexual children

Oh, I don't think I could tell my parents that I'm bi... they wouldn't, like, disown me or anything, they'd just treat me... differently. It's hard to explain. As for the rest of my family, they're all serious mormans, so telling them is out of the question. I mean, I haven't even told them that I'm pagan for craps sake.

 

You would be shocked at how many Mormons are gay...PariahHex....they are just people like everyone else !!!

 

I'm sure, but my family is the "crazy right-wing conservative" types of mormons. They would definitely not approve of my strangeness (and I might give my poor grandma ANOTHER heart attack!)

 

I've never told my parents, nor do I ever plan to. They would not beleive I was bi for that matter.

 

well when I told my parents when i was like 16/17 they said they knew becuase everyone has told them, but they were still extremely dissapoitned and hostil. Fun stuff. People say keep talking to them about it but it only makes it worse. Its just easier keeping family life, and personal life seperate ya know

 

I told my parents I was bisexual when I was about 16 / 17. I told them both seperately and their response really annoyed me...they both had the same, quite patronising response. In both cases they said that there was nothing wrong with me being bisexual...but I was still "very young" and so I probably wasn't "really" bisexual, I was probably "just confused".

Blergh.

Mind you, talking about ANYTHING sexual with my parents is hard and horrible. They were both born in the 1940s and still carry values from that time. My mother was raised Catholic and is still Catholic and is totally uncomfortable with anything to do with sexuality. Instead of telling me about sex, she gave me a book when I was about 14 about sexual intercourse with a bunch of prayers to say to Jesus in it.

My father is a very, very intrusive person who jokes about sexuality in a way that makes me totally uncomfortable. An example: he gave me a book on anatomy when I was about 10 [a science book, I was really into science then]. He had obviously looked up the page on reproductive organs and he made this huge joke about "have you read page 63 [or whatever it was] yet? there's some interesting stuff on there! haaa haa haa!"

Another example: when I was about 15 I wrote a very personal, [kinky] sexual letter to a boyfriend. My father took the letter from my drawer, read it and then told me I wasn't allowed to send it. That still upsets me that he read something so personal and he couldn't see anything wrong with that.

^those are just 2 examples of many ^

So...sexuality isn't something I like to talk about with my parents. Or any of my family for that matter. My parents can't even see me as a sexual being...I'm still a little 5-year-old to them who needs to be chaste and go to church [mum], or who can never be empowered but needs to be put in my place and controlled and made fun of because I'm female and a daughter [dad].

I envy you people who have understanding parents that are comfortable with their, and your, sexualities [what they are, and even that you have one!!]

 

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