My girlfriend cheated on me!! now what I do?

I found out the hard way that my girlfriend cheated on me with this guy for about a month. She has never told me about it and she always told me how much she loves me and all the good stuff. I caught her once when she was with him. I felt so hurt and I didnt know what to do. We talked about it alot and now she is scared of loosing me. Since I am hurt but as much as my love goes and we've been together for more than a year, i forgive her. But now, he wont stop calling her and it bothers me where she talks to him. Now he is getting to her brain to break up with me!!! first of all, she cheated and I forgave her, that should count as a lot. Now she has feeling for 2 guys..stupid enough, that she loves me (over a year perfect relationship) or a month with a guy who she barley knows!!!! She wont let me go..I wanted to break up because she broke my trust, but she wont let me go..she wont let him go either..so I am stuck here hurting and seriously dont know what to do!!!! Can't break up, can stay with her..Any advice or help would totally appreciated..
Thanks in advance,
Crushed

 

Leave her. She is a waste of time, and she is a slut. She doesnt really care about you except her own self intrest. You can find someone else, face it man. It is not worth the drama.

 

I agree. Only a fool would keep someone like that around.

 

Run, son!

Seriously tho, the only way you can possibly make this work is through boundaries... she commits to you, ends any and all communication with this guy immediately, and it stays that way. Then somehow you'll have to get over that creepy sensation that it's still going on behind your back. I doubt she'll pick sides anyways... sounds like she's stringing both you and this other guy along for whatever sick reason she has, and that, my friend, you can't have. Ending it will hurt, yes; continuing it will hurt more.

 

a night of passion is forgivable, a month long relationship is no where near forgivable. her still talking to the guy is beyond fathoming, and her stringing both of you along is, without adequite words to discribe. she's playing with your head, get out of there man, seriously. do it fast, do it now, the longer you wait the more hurt you'll be and the more opportunities you'll miss with people who are worth your time

edit- oh yea, and trust me i should know. every relationship i've had cheating was involved.

 

in the wise words of tom arnold in true lies..."ditch the bitch!"

 

Its actually very easy mycologyus. You need to go and beat the hell out of the guy (use a bat if your too much of a pussy to strike him). Then you need to get rid of that whore of a girlfriend you have. I give great advice.

 

It's really no wonder she's walking all over you, you're a doormat after all.

If you don't want to be stepped on, don't be a doormat.




Pretty simple once you think these things out.

 

If she truly loves you, she wouldn't have cheated on you. For a month. Besides, she actually still talks to the guy after you found out. That's just self-absorbed and bitchy. I really don't think you need someone like this around.

 

I want to thank you all for giving the best advise. As everyone said, I did speak to her and broke it off, then I got a phone call that she is crying like I have never heard and begging me back..Honestly, I felt bad and I took her back with the promise of him not exsiting. But the next day he called and she couldnt resist not to answer her phone. Now, she tells me she is so lost and scared of loosing me. Because she loves me like never! But she wants to be friends with this guy. I am taking a huge risk and I dont know why...She keeps telling me she is scared of losing such a great thing (me) and a normal guy would break up for what she did and I took her back. But [as she said]she wants to be only his friend since they work together!! This truly hurts and confuse the heck out of me since I am not in the same state as she is. I flow as soon as I found out.
one day she is perfect more than ever another day she confuses me about being together!!!! I am totally crushed and cant stand to be in between of staying or breaking..
Thank all of you for advices...
Crushed

 

welcome to the club...

 

i still say dump her. why live with the fear of being hurt again. u can leave her and never have to worry about it again. it was fun while it lasted but it's come to it's end. there is always someone better.

 

Do what my cousin did. He was with this one girl and she was with another guy to and then she called them both up saying she was pregnant and didnt know whose it was and he just said "I dont have time for stupid bitches" and hung up on her. Do that. When she prattles on about liking 2 guys say that and leave.
PS: Shes prolly still doing him on the side.. Sorry but thems the brakes

 

"My girlfriend cheated on me"

Hmmm, don't they often!!!

 

DUMP THE BITCH. She doesn't really love you. She's just using you asv someone to be with till she finds something better. Same thing happened to my boyfriend, and because of it he has serious trust issues. The longer u stay with her, the more hurt you'll get, plus the more issues you'll be bringing into your next relationship.
the longer u wait to do the eneviatable, the more it'll hurt.

 

My gf cheated on me about 2 months ago, I dropped that bitch like a rock. No questions asked, end of relationship.

 

To hell with her

 

I think you should break up, she might be doing it in a preadatory kinda way, you know, and maybe she cant help herself.

Shes not a slut, but she probably has issues, like attention issues.
I'd give her a miss, of that isnt something you want to put up with

unless you can forgive her

 

It sounds like she is one of those people who tries to make everyone happy. She is trying to make him happy and you happy at the same time. This doesn't work of course and just results in both you and she getting hurt. I think you need to go find this guy and kick the shit out of him. If she can't say no to him its time for you to say no to him instead.

 

Hey man I have done this and been their before. Get rid of her, their ar eplenty more out their. The emotions and feelings will go away eventually. She is fucking retarded and needs to go to hell. Seriously man, she has been cheating on, is cheating on you, fucking with your head, and will continue to cheat... she is one of them "twitchy bitches" that never know what they and are easily caugh tup in the moment. GET RID OF HER NOW. Any time I find out a female has cheated on me, its good bye and have a goodday type of thing. I drop her without thinking twice. If it is meant to be, she would have never have cheated on you. Obviously IT ISNT MEANT TO BE. Their are better ones out their. Get rid of her and go find a new. Or better yet, be single for a while and have some fun, then go get a new, or if you really wanted to be a dick, date one of her best friends. lol. Seriously though man, its not worth it. Its time to move on