Hey, I'm a bisexual male and I have been "interested" in my friend for awhile now. He claims to be straight, but I'm not so sure. He has plenty of gay tendancies, and most of my other friends think he may be gay. He doesn't know that I am bisexual and I'm worried that if I tell him it will end our friendship if he is truely straight. Any ideas on how I may be able to tell if he is bi/gay too? Or any ideas on how I can let him know how I feel?
Your worried that if you tell him that you're bisexual, it'll end your friendship because he's straight? Or your worried that if you tell him your interested in him, it'll ruin things because he's straight? Him knowing you're bisexual shouldn't end things at all if you're really good friends, if anything it'll bring you closer together because you guys will have shared a moment, so to speak. The only way to tell if he's gay/bi is if he tells you. Which, if he is, he might do when you tell him about your own sexuality.
I agree with TreeFiddy. If you let him know that you're bi, then he might feel more comfortable telling you he's gay, if he is. I thought having my friends know that I'm gay would make my friendships with them weird. But it didn't. Then again, I didn't outright tell them; they heard from someone else. But still, they know, and our friendships are fine. However, I don't know the circumstances, and don't let anything we say here push you to do something you don't feel comfortable doing.
I think that telling your friends you are gay, at one point or another (you dont need to just randomly bring it up, and you dont need to introduce yourself to someone new as "hey im so and so and im gay") but dont push it off just because you are afriad they wont be your friend, its sillly. then you are hiding behind a mask and trying to be something for them, for when you hide that youre gay youre trying to please them, and that means that you guys have no friendship. i understand it can make one nervous, and yes, i feel nervous sometimes, but i always tell people anyway. and everyone has been fine with it. good luck with him though. cheers, dylan
i completely concur with the other comments on this thread. if he is your "real friend" your sexuality does not matter. good luck
