I am very discouraged with YH ...

Ya know, I think this might be my last straw for Young Hippies ...

Over the past few days I have been watching two threads, one started by George entitled, 'Emotion'. The other one started by myself, entitled 'I Have Strep Throat'. I am disgusted by the fact that my thread has 59 replies, while George's thread has a pathetic 13 replies. His thread is so much more important, and emotional, and in need of care than mine! 5 of his friends were killed in a car accident and it seems as if nobody cares at all! But I can start a nonsence thread about being a little sick, and I get 6 pages worth of pity.

In no way am I putting anybody down, I love all of you very much so. But I think it's really sad when that is what the forum has come to. We neglect and turn our backs on serious issues, and feed on nonsence and parody. That makes me sick to my stomach.

I don't know what else to say ... but I am very, very disgusted by this. There seems to be no other explanation than everyone's ignorance and lack of caring, or compation. If i'm wrong, please correct me ... but I'm loosing hope in you kids.

 

i wanted to say something before. i don't want it to seem like i did because of you even tho i know you are absolutely correct. i just don't know how i can help him i'm going to try sorry for now & think of better things later on

 

It's not even about what you can do for George ...

It's about the fact that a thread concerning strep throat got over 4 times more exposure than a thread involving the death of 5 close friends. Theres somthing wrong here.

 

i know, but you made me realize what i needed to do: what i'd been wanting to do.

you're right indeed. it is totally wrong.

 

Im so sorry.....I didnt know anything that terrible had even happened !!!!

 

well no doubt georges thread is much more saddening then joshes little sore throat, but its sometimes hard to say the right thing in situations like that. at least i do. i feel so much sympathy for georges friends who passed away, but i dont know what else to say. sure hope he is ok

 

It's not just this particular situation either, it's happened many times before.

 

Sometimes, I want to find a large rock and throw it at peoples' faces... or rather my own.

Yeah, so...

It would hurt, so I don't. And that would be cruel.

It makes alot of sense if you think about it.

That's what we've got here.

 

You're right man. I think most people weren't reacting for the same reason as Rasta penguin, just like I would (not) react. I didn't red the whole topic at all by the way, but even if I knew what it was about I probably wouldn't post something... No excuse for it whatsoever, that's not the point.

 

Hey, I posted in George's thread and not in Josh's... I win.

-Mike

 

I don't know how that happened. Wow, I'm sorry to hear someone on this forum had gone thorough such a tragedy. I am just getting back to this forum..maybe I missed it..but still no excuse. I applogize to the person who needs it the most, George. Sorry to have missed you when you were in need, if there's anything I can do please let me know. I know how hard it is to loose friends. Keep truckin' buddy and keep that head up.

 

yeah, I feel terrible about that situation for him, and yeah, it defintiely is more important than you whining about a sore throat, but man...

this is just a place to come talk and say whatgever, and if people dont feel like replying to certain threads than let it be. you cant tell people OH YOU SHOULD BE HELPIN THIS PERSON OUT!

you are acting like it is everyones responsiblity by logging onto this site that we must seek out the threads for people who are sad and reply to them first. yes, Ive posted threads about times ive been down, or for example, when MY friend died in a car crash, but I didnt bitch because i didnt get a billion replies...

 

I posted a response in each thread.

You're expecting people to do the right thing and disappointed that as a whole, they aren't. Perhaps you're expecting too much from people. There are a few ways one might look at the situation. My favorite way of coming to terms with others not meeting my expectations is to realize that they are just my standards and people are not compelled to get my approval. It's a tad cynical to say this but some people aren't going to truly be able to empathize with another's troubles until they have gone through it themselves. Others may feel the urge to say something but feel they don't have the ability to properly express what needs to be said and do it justice.

Your concern for George's losses reflects great character;- it indicates that you're probably a class act. Someone with alot of class is comfortable around people from all walks of life and makes the effort to make them comfortable around them. Alot of folks might be a bit less than comfortable that someone who they respect finds their behavior sickening.

 

Well, I guess the only wrong thing you did was expect something from 'kids'.
I admire you for making this thread. It shows that you care more about someone elses feelings than you do your own.
I posted in both threads. And, I'm very sorry for George. He's lost a lot of people in such a short time....it's terrible. And, I'm sorry for you too, Josh....but on a different level.
You can't expect people that laugh at dick and fart jokes to no end (Yes, they're funny....but there's more to life....I figured the J&SB reference was ok to use in this case) and make threads about nonsense to actually make a post about giving a shit for someone.
Only after you made this thread scorning the YH folks, did George get the biggest lot of responses for his thread. That's sad.

 

I avoid comforting people like the black plauge because I don't think I'm very good at it. basically I'm a good-time girl. that's my domain. whenever I try to comfort people I either try to cheer them up with a joke (that always falls flat on it's face) or I get tounge tied and say the wrong things...

 

There is nothing to say about the one, and well, in the other we get to make fun of your promiscuity.

 

I have to disagree with this thread though... I do not want to sound like a dick, but why feel pity for George's friends killed in an accident? (especially to us forumers)... Is it because once that the bad news is heard... it exists? Kids are getting killed every minute, people decapitated everyday, soldiers from across the seas getting killed by ways they couldn't control... But now that one event has been told, even though unknowingly, other worst issues unheard of are as existant as the next loss , should I stop and care for only this? Ignorance, to me... are the ones who pity what they only hear about, it's theatrical... its insincere, it's speaking through your hat. (I could've as well never heard of that story of George's, people die every second of the day, if I were to pity everyone of those souls, I would neglect myself from living, restricting myself to feel for other people, although I am my own.) So, do we have to force ourselves to feel a little pity, and respond to a thread, with the least level of sincerity just to emanate the right emotions for an event like this... I rather be genuine, I'd rather want others as well to be genuine, tell themselves.. "Yep those things are sad... but man... if I feel sad for this, might as well feel sad for all the other shit going on around in the world?... Then, why want to feel shit at all?"

 

exactly what i said/thought..what do you say?




& yes similar things have happened before: same thing happened when my uncle died. the thing was, i was too broken up to even want anyone to say sorry, i was tired of sorry. sometimes, words just aren't enough ya know?

 

how about josh not be controlling and make something out of nothing.

 

Thank you Meg, for pointing that out.

I think alot of you are missing my whole point here ... It's not about caring or not caring for George's situation ... It's the fact that in the same time frame [4 days] a thread thread concering nothing important at all get's 4 times as much exposure as one that should matter a whole lot more.

I agree with Phillipe to an extent, yes, sad things happen every minute of every day. Why should we care? Well George is our friend, at least I see him as one, and I feel as a whole we should, in our way, comfort him in this time. So you don't know what to say ... Just post a smiley face. That's enough to let him know that your alive, and you acknowladge his pain.

And once again, to be trite ... Meg pointed out that his thread got more replies in the past 48 hours than it did in it's first few days. Does anyone think it has anything to do with this thread?

Really guys, what matters?