I made this post before, but I wanted to get some fresh opinions... Ive started to lighten up... but should I be concerned about mu daughters clothes choices? She is 14 now and im more inclined to make her own decisions... What are you thoughts? K
my opinion is... is that if she is comfortable wearing something, i wouldnt have a problem with it... i think the last thing you should teach your girl is to be ashamed of her body... - Jacklyn
she's 14, and mom has a responsibility to teach her to honor her body: by not looking like brittney spears.
I guess it depends on WHAT she's wanting to wear. Because yeah, you do want her to be able to choose her own clothes by now... but you ALSO don't want her to be dressing in something "inappropriate." (whatever that would entail for you & your family) I'm not nearly ready to deal with this issue yet as my daughter is 6.5 and still loves to wear petticoats & long jumpers, but when the time comes I intend to sit down together & come up with a few quick & easy rules about clothing... skirt length, level of acceptable neckline... that kind of thing. I want her to be a part of this, and want to discuss with her WHY the rules we come up with are there. Hopefully that will help her stick with them. I will promise NOT to barge in on things like preference-of-taste, if she promises not to wear something that goes against these preset guidelines. Like I said, I'm not really to this point yet so it's all plans & ideas. And if I know ANYTHING about parenthood, it's that plans go all awry when you actually GET to a specific phase. But for what it's worth, that's what I'm hoping will work. love, mom
My daughter is 7, and I let her pick out her own clothes. I know that there are no inappropriate clothes in the house, so I don't have to worry about it!
When it comes that time, we have some simple rules: *When bending over, no more than one inch of cleavage should be exposed. *Bras, if worn, are to be well-fitting. Apron tops as well. *Two inches of midriff are fine to be shown AT OUT OF SCHOOL SOCIAL FUNCTIONS like concerts *Skirt length should be 4 inches below the bottom of her bum cheeks and able to properly cover her when she bends over. School clothing should be non-revealing, skirt length to be 6 inches below bum cheek.
My parents set standards of what appropriate (along the lines of HippyFreek's comments); negotiated to take age and occasion into account. Then I was free to choose whatever I wanted within those boundaries. Seems quite a reasonable compromise.
Yea she wears a lot of tummy shirts and low rise jeans... she has a few mini skirts that are right at the edge of being too short... Im very strict with what she wears to school cause of dress code, which in my opinion is way to strict. I know they need to have one, but ours goes too far... K
