So i am really worried.. and all I can think about is the worse... yesterday my mom called me and told me that the doctor found two bumps on her brest from her excamie. and I am so scared for her. I hope it is not cancer. I don't know what I would do if it was... The doctors said they are not sure as to what it is she has to go back in six months... I just don't know what to do.. my dad died from cancer I am so scared that I might loose my mom now to. then i would be all alone... I love her so much ... I guess all we have to do is wait! Jenn
Sorry to hear that. Hope everything turns out ok for you and your mother. I lost a step dad to cancer just last year. Good luck to you.
if they are waiting six months to see her again, most likely it's nothing to worry about. It's when they want to send you in for a biopsy TOMORROW, that it's time to freak out. ((((hugs))))
I am just worried about her.. cause I love her and don' want to lose her.. it is kinda of werid if she does have it though. cause her best friend from High School died of breast cancer. and then few years later she might have it. I just don't understand
I am sorry you are so upset. It is frightening when our parents are sick and we feel we can't do anything, With breast cancer, if the doctor (good ones) feel there is ANY risk that it IS cancer, they do NOT wait 6 months. A real cancer tumor could kill someone by then. They do extensive tests right away. With the breast usually a Mamogram, a Fine Needle Aspiration and Biopsy (a needle is used to take fluid or tissue from the lump then it is studied in the lab, immediately) and often an ultrasound is done as well. Also, blood work is done to test for "cancer markers." If the doctor thinks it is cancer, no one is just sent home. If the doctor even suspected cancer, these tests would have been done within a day or so. I'm a Lactation Consultant and work with breasts all the time. I also have two freinds who have breast cancer (one cured, one who is in treatmnet) and have refered a number of patients to breast specialist for suspicious lumps. Suspicious lumps are not put on the back burner, my two freinds and a number of patients, who DID have breast cancer were IN the OR,having lumpectomies, within 3 days of their doctor appointment and immediate diagnosis. No one waits, even if they don't have insurance. Cancer is diagnosed and treated. One of two things is going on here. Most likely, she just has Calcifiications in the breast. These can feel like lumps, but are movable, smooth, have regular edges and usually resolve on their own in a few weeks or months. Most doctors only do biopsies on Calcifications if they don't fit the parameters for benign growths. The second is that the doctor is incompetent. In that case, she NEEDS to see someone else (NOT at the same hospital) immediately. If she is worried, she should not wait 6 months. Real breast cancer will spread (metatstasize) in six months, and there is no reason for this, as most breast cancers have a very high survival rate, if treated immediately. Have your mom see an other doctor, at a good Teaching Hospital (The Mayo Clinic is in MN, and other good Teaching Hospitals are as, too.) There is NO reason to wait. Talk to her.
. Have your mom see an other doctor, at a good Teaching Hospital (The Mayo Clinic is in MN, and other good Teaching Hospitals are as, too.) There is NO reason to wait. Talk to her.[/QUOTE] we live in minnesota I think she went to the mayo clinic.. thanks for you help it helps me make more sence of the matter
my mother is a breast cancer survivor, in fact shes had it 2ce. really, medicine these days is better than it used to be, tons of people survive. dont trip girl
Jenny, you have to talk to her. If she went to Mayo, they would have been much more definitive than "come back in 6 months." They would know, or they would be testing, if they even suspected cancer. Is it possible she has it and doesn't want to say anything? Or, is it possible that she didn''t understand the doctor, when he said it wasn't cancer, and that they would check the benign growth in 6 months. I just can't see someone being sent away from most good teaching hospitals, Mayo, more than others, with such anxiety. She needs to be honest with you, or she needs to talk to her doctor for more clarification. This is distressing. It isn't fair that you are in such a state, when the answer should have been given to you, and your mom. Something isn't right here. Are you sure she is aware of what happened at the doctor appointments? Do you know what tests she has already had? Something feels out of place. You need to talk to her, to ease your own mind. Blessings.
If a doctor said they found lumps and asked you to wait 6 months, get a new doctor. He is a quack! If they found lumps then they need to retrieve samples of the lumps to see what they are, even I know that and I have a dick.
ya I know... It does seem stupid. but I just don't get it.. she does not seem worried unlesss she is holding it back very well but. I still worry about all this.. I just don't get why they would say come back...
My moms a breast cancer survivor as well. Shes been cancer free for over 15 years. If she does have cancer, there is a good chance she will be ok. Its a long hard road but so many women have struggled through it and made it. Keep us posted.
I talked to my mother last night... about everything.. and I kinda understand why she is not worried but still does not make any sense...she said that when she went in for her mamagrahm that they found some lumps but it was her first mamograham. She said that since i was her first one that they have nothing to compair it too. and it could just be they way her breats are shaped or whatever.. I just told her that they doctor was a quack and she needed have someone else take a look. She has to go in, in six months and then if it is the same an other six months and if it is still the same then they will no that is just the way she is shaped and then she can go back every year. like most people are to.. I know that it is very treatable but it still worries me so much.. I am just getting old enough to be on my own and I can't imagen doing it with out her. I really just want my parents to see me graduate and have a family and be there. It just had that I lost my real dad when I was 4 so he never say me go to kindagarden so I just really want my mom to see me life the life I want to.. I just hope and pray that it is nothing....... P>S> Thanks for all that are helping with your words of wisdom and hope..it makes this time for me a little bit easier! Much love Thanks again Jenn
If the doctor told her to come back in 6 months, like most people said, it probably isn't a huge worry. I get cysts in my breasts, nothing to worry about, and the doctor that I went to when I first had it checked (the first time I noticed a lump) basically just said that they would go away if I cut back on salt and caffeine, and told me to check regularly (once every week or two) so I know what's "normal" for me, so far as the cysts are concerned, and to go get it checked if I notice anything abnormal (bigger or more than usual, not going away after a while, etc.). If they're small (the cysts I get are about dime or nickel-sized) and/or if they leak any fluid (I first checked because I noticed very very light yellow spots in my bra, almost not even noticable at all) it's very unlikely that it's cancer. Best wishes to your mom, you, and the rest of your family.
