ok here goes, nope im not interested in women, he can find my clit, god knows how cause it never changes size nd is so damm small! there just seems no way he can do it without hurting, every single time he tries its never "nice" not orgasmic but "nice, thats all i want at this time, away from the bedroom we are fine now problems, we do everything together and are very close. if he goes very gentle and slow then i cant feel a thing, i cant even feel the likes of a feather, or cotton ball on me! this had been checked out medically and i am lacking in that way. as far as light touch in general, if it where an olympic event for speed stroking then he would get gold!!!! i dont even get chance to register where the hell he stroked!!! ive told him time after time to slow down, he say he does , so why do i say this again, bangs head against nearest brick wall!!!!!!!!
Well I would say if you want to keep oral in your life find a more experienced lover. Maybe this would show you what you like as well. As for him, just cut the oral out until he learns appropriate pressures from other touching. Don't know what else to say. It doesn't sound like he is taking the obvious hints. Have you ever masterbated for him so that he can see your technique. Sometimes it is easier to catch on if you have a frame of reference. Sit him down and let him observe for awhile.
How do you expect someone else to learn your body when you haven't. Cut the sex off for awhile and learn about yourself. Once you figure out how to please yourself then work on the rest of it.
agrred completely..youneed tolearn toplease yourself 1st umm tome it sounds like ya both are cuelkess about sex..if you cant please yourself ..& he licks u like hes trying to lick the paint off the walls, u need help.. it sounds funny to suggest going toa sex therapist to learn the things that should come naturaly, but it can help..the only other option i see availible would possibly help sexualy, but could hurt romanticaly unless your very openminded & confortable enougfh to try it, & that would be to aloiw yourselves occassional other partners to learn from hey..heres another suggestion, the way guys in pornos lick a woman veryoften is just for visualeffect but isnt really any waythat would feelgood to most, somaybe u could lookinto lesbian ..true lesbian amerature porn to observe how a woman would do it since generalytheyre muchbetter at it just avoid the typical porn that shows guys lickin like they were dogs appin up water, cause that will just reinforce the notion that thats the wayits done but seriously, youdoneed to discover for yourself throughmasterbation what feels good toyou before uhave any hope of teaching him u may also be 1 of those rare women who only experience pleasure throughpenatration, usualyits the opposite & they can only rechorgasm through clitoralmanipulation another thing..if hes just gonna lie u down & dive right onin, how are u suposed to get relaxed & aroused? maybe u should spende more time withlike carressing & kissing & gently teasing before moving onto oral?
im being flewn over to ny at the end of the month to learn how to masterbate, betty dodson is going to ne teaching me and the other 5 women that are going, seriously!!! o am trying to do everything that i can and even the embarrassment of doing this for a tv documentary has got to be worth trying, better than the alternative
Oh, c'mon, you're just kidding, right? We're gonna see you on tv talking about masturbation? Well, if you do that with Betty Dodson and those 5 girls, be sure and sneak a video camera in so we all can see
I am a man and I have an idea. Try this (cause it sounds like you have nothing else to try) French kiss him. Show him with your tongue just how gentle and how light a touch you need. When he pushes his tongue too far or too hard, bite down on his tongue, just a little. Tyr to kiss as thought your tongues are barely touching each other. He sounds to mee like he really wants to please you orally. Work on trhe preassure thing with your mouths. Then have him take that new found knowledge of light pressure down to you clitoris, and by the way, tell him to stop putting so much direct pressure on the clit. Tell him to lick under it and above it. Make circular motions slowly and lightly around your clit. Maybe your clit might even grow. He cannot know how light and where to lick and since you cannot tell him without our advice, tell him with our advice. It sounds like you two have been together for a long time. No you need to work together and it may take time. The only other advice I can offer is my tongue, but from reading your posts I get the feeling you are in Europe, not the States.
dunno who betty dodsonis. but yea that sounds like a good idea..if it is a documentary perhaps ppl can learn fromyou as well, it seems lil odd to have to "learn" to masterbate since most peope learn this at a fairly yopung age but i'm getting the feeling that you were sexualy sheltered your whole life (god damn religion for making us ashamed) i think youboth need to see someone..this betty dobson..is she also going to teach him how totouch you properly?
uk actually!!! been together for 25 years!!! restarted sex and stuff last year after a 10 year break because of this and other things to do with sex.
nope just the 5 women!!! hes staying here in the uk. its for us to learn to do this our selves but from what i know of the practises she uses it wont help him out any as she advocate using vibs, so unless he can make his tongue become that then it wont be much good!!!! im deadly serious about the show, flying out on the 28 oct for a week!!! and it isnt talking about it, its doing it!!!
As the President of the Clit Licking Appreciation Society (CLASS) I wholeheartedly agree! And Darkangel, don't forget that video camera! We're waiting to see every little orgasmic detail.....
well if your in the uk in jan or early feb of 2007 you can watch channel 4 and see for yourselves!!!!!
Perhaps he needs to slow down? Pay attention to your legs, caress your body, give you a nice massage all over FIRST.....slowly, not rushing....lick up each leg, avoiding the "holy" place for awhile....just enjoying the taste of you, not lapping like a dog, monotone, but dynamic, soft a bit hard, nibble here, nibble there, tease you gently with his fingers first....lick you fast, then go up to your breasts, and touch you gently there in small cirlces, really GET YOU HOT, before thinking about focusing.... I don't know a women alive that wouldn't enjoy that. If that doesn't do it for him, then the problem probably isn't him....that's what I suggest....
During oral, I almost never cum from oral alone. I need my fantasies to get me over that edge nine times out of ten. I mean, I know that's not hte primary problem, but masturbation for me is about oh, 60/40 fantasy/actual touch (ie vibe).
pretty much exactly righ..what..ummm he or she saidm i was kinda avoidin gettin so detailed or u wouldnt have waited till the show..lol but have him pasy attention toyour body as a whole, & watch your face..your eyes,listen to your breath..just paying attention to simple clues as to what feels good & what doesnt is sex itself sorta clumsy & akward? sounds like u married young..virgins..& only have known eachother but hes not payin attention to clues..or even when u flat out tell him..& uyourself havent learned to masterbate which most ppl do pre-teen usualy..or early teen at least alsoigottaquestion from what youve said..if using a vibe during masterbations the wayto go..your fingers are just far more sensative.. u say unever learned to? but how much have u tried tolearn? (practice makes perfect) there are womenthough who the orgasm experience can be toointence for them, &they can only get to a certain point b4 its just too much...sensory overload..but practi\cing u can push that border further until u finaly get there..if i'm understanding the problem corerectly
Boobala! Tish! When you call me Boobala...you know what that does to me... Like from picture! Dobry! Dobry. This is like Russian man from porno has sex with woman in ass. Beat self, Stoshowik
so how can you tell when your properly aroused? i couldnt even begin to tell him that, its not that easy for us girls, its not like we have a sing thats 6-9 inches in front of us is it? wetness for us isnt proof, ive found that out!! my clit never gets hard, it never changes at all!! if thats the sign then i dont know how to change that. the only time, when i try to do things myself is when i use the vib, which i hate, is i can feel something, get somewhere, it gets so my legs go into cramp, i feel a sensation in my clit for a split second and then its gone, i keep on with it and i feel nothing why would i feel turned on by sex its self? you just cant get excited when everytime i hurts!! when everytime your left feeling dissapointed, i have a therory, it a bit long but bear with me, we got together when i was 15, started having sex in all its forms very early on, he would lie on top of me and rub himself through my jeans and at the time it was very exciting i was wanting it to go further but we didnt for a while, but in doing this my whole pubic area was so sore i would stuff some padding in my pants i couldnt even sit down for days after, and then we would get together again!! repeat again, this went on for a while. eventually in his car we had sex, it didnt hurt the first time, and apart from the closeness of being together i didnt feel anything, although i was keen and willing!!! he would come and then we would go home. in time we married, i was 18, i feel pregnant straight away, the pregnancy was terrible i was so ill all the time i spent months in the house unable to stop being sick and then eventually had to be induced, which lead to my first c section after 36 hrs in full labour and every trick to get the baby out was used!! i fell pregnant again 4 months later! c section again. during this time we had many rows, he wouldnt even cuddle me, i thought he hated me that i was ugly and something to be ashamed of, christ i couldnt even have a baby normally!!!! so after that i was on the pill immediately as for the second pregnancy i was asleep for conception and knew nothing about it, i had to makesure it didnt happen again!! our sex live was about him being happy, he would fall asleep after, it consisted of him kissing me a bit then on top and in and out and then sleep, sometimes if i was lucky its included doggy, but not much more, early on he tried to touch an area (12 months ago i found out it was my clit as before then i didnt even know i had one or what it was meant to do) i told him that it hurt me even then so he never did that anymore, he never went down on me, well very rarely as i didnt like the thing of him being down there as it ended up hurting, and i would drag him back up. during all this time and still now my whole genital area never feels anything different during the day or having sex, i feel hot or cold, pain or not, its just another part of my body, with the occasional need for the bathroom. i mean now more than the fact that i have ten toes and unless i hurt one or all of them i dont know that i have them!! why would i want to touch an area that has never "called" me? its no different than me rubbing my knee or having my feet rubbed, apparently i would have dreams and i would wake him during my sleep for sex, i stayed asleep during sex even then, hence baby no.2!!!! my experience of sex was to make him happy, he was, but i felt that something was wrong, i felt something was missing, dont know what, so in the end i stopped doing it altogether 5 years after baby no.3 i had been sterilised after she was born, no more fear of another c section!!! 10 years went by. i started working and was away from home during the week, at work i got raped, i didnt tell antone i kept it to myself. he would try to make love but i always would stop anything at the beginning, it was always 1.30am i would be asleep when he tried, i would crawl the walls stopping him, he would turn away, upset with me, sometimes he would ask why, i just didnt have any answers for him, i loved him i still do, but by telling him that there was something wrong with what and how we where making love then i would need to know exaclty what was wrong, i didnt, just this feeling, it was until after many rows last year, and us sitting and talking and then making arragements for who and when we where going to part, and the line of the questions was getting to the point that i thought he knew what had happened, that i finally blurted out about the rape, still not was wrong with our sex but the rape. stunned he sat there and said that changes everything, he wanted to makesure things where phyically in good order that there wasnt any damage done, christ it was 10 years ago, i would have got it fixed for me if it had of been damaged. only then when i went to the doctors and told her of my problems and when she asked if i orgasmed, erm no, only men do that!!! i didnt even know that women did aswell, but thats when the penny dropped what was wrong when she explained it. we were sent to therapy which made things so much worse, bad therapist, so we have beeen struggling more or less on our own, with the info that we get from here and the like. so can you perhaps understand why in my life i never learnt to or even wanted to masterbate, why should i, i didnt have the calling from my "bits" i had no need as they never made their presence known to me, sex was never a good experience, so i have no reference material to even fantasise about it, no one wants to repeat bad experiences phyically or in their heads, you tend to want to forget the time. so last year i bought the first vib!!! i started trying to use it as i had tried with my fingers but never felt anything, so now i can feel something happening i get to a point, my legs go into cramp, i feel a slight sensation in my clit after 30 mins or so, trouble is its a struggle, if i just lie there and relax then the batteries would go dead, i have to stretch my legs, to the point that they are about to come out from my knees, im in pain walking after, but i feel something!!! i showed him how to use the vib so many times without much result, he will get it out of the box and use it on me but i have started to resent it! when he uses it he hurts or he does it wrong, ive told/shown him so many time ive lost count, i end up with it in my hands doing it myself while he is down on me and it gets to the point where he gets in the way or the vib gets in the way of him, so can you see i am/have tried to make things as best i can get better, even with this tv thing, perhaps i will learn something from that?