i have a gf and i want to go further with her. ive played with her tits and i think the next step would be fingering. How does everyone else do it? When we are making out should i just put my hand down her pants and just go for it??? what would be a good time and how should i aproach it?
girls don't really like to be fingered i don't think, it sucks because its a fairly easy task.. that can be wasted time
well they do, but if iots just the old "in out, in out" it sucks, you would be best to , you know, explore her body with your hands, or your mouth, or whatever takes your fancy. if she responds well, then keep pushing those buttons... after a while she'll get wet, then you can start making your way south, but may I suggest you go through clothes first, then panties, just you know, like rubbing the area, try for inside the knickers, and if shes comfortable, do what you were doing over her pants, under her pants, if she likes it you'll know... when it comes to fingering, perhaps slip a finger in when your rubbing the rest of her pussy. Girls usually prefer clitoral stimultion.
You must be a guy! lol Well maybe not, but personally I love it! If you're not really ready for sex, or if you are, you'll still need to use it for some foreplay instead of plunging right in. Just make sure you're both aroused, with kissing and such, and then kind of work your way down there. Start by touching her lightly over her panties, make sure it's okay, and then go for it. She'll tell you what feels good and what doesn't and you'll both learn! Hopefully it's some help, Good luck!
and dont forget, theres nothing wrong with asking her what she likes. maybe even ask her to guide you
and talk to her too, if you're both new to this then there should be nothing embarassing about asking what feels good and what doesn't. When my girlfriend and I got to that point i wasn't doing a thing for her, only because when i asked she wouldn't tell me what she wanted. Finally i made up a game, i had 30 seconds unlimited access to her pussy to find something that felt good, and if i found something we kept going. Because she followed the rules and didn't put her knees together like she had on previous occasions when it got uncomfortable, i found the magic button, and we've been happily open with each other ever since
i hear they like sticking vegetables up there. try bringing a cucumber or carrot or something along with. if you manage to get your fingers in there withouth her protesting try sticking the carrot up there then maybe while your fucking her with the carrot take the cucumber and put it up the ass. trust me, she might get freaked out during the procedure but when you talk to her afterwards shell thank you like crazy, man.
and please dont listen to Maquee because its obvious that he has no idea about women or even himself.
I think it is a huge turn-on when a man is making out with me and asks if he can touch me there or put his fingers inside or whatever. It just seems to intensify everything when I hear the actual words coming from him. That's just me though. Good luck!
I would say start moving your hand slowly that way after a while, but rub her as you do it. Like start with your hand on her back, and rub her back, then side, then leg, then closer and closer. Then before you actually touch her, ask if it is all right. SHe will either be already expecting you to have done it or she will be kinda nervous about your hand being there by then. If she does want you to, start outside the pants an dafter a while one of you will unbutton her pants and then move in from there. No matter how much she wants it, take your time and tease a little, it makes it more fun. If she doesn't want you there yet, don't make a deal out of it. Just move your hand away, and keep rubbing her wherever you want to elsewhere.
Personally, I would say go for it, there's nothing sexier to me than when a man takes charge. If she doesn't like it than you can ask! Good luck
I had a cucumber session with my GF once and she loved it. We ate the cucumber afterwards. As for fingering, it's the most direct way to get to the G-spot, so yeah, go for it. The location of this spot varies with different women, so you'll have to explore it with her. My girl's is at one-third of an index finger inside, facing her abdomen and a bit to her right. I saw a fingering technique once on the web that goes something like this: go in with your first two fingers crossed (you know, like in "keeping my fingers crossed") and then turn your hand from side to side with the thumb sticking out and brushing her clit as it goes. Make sure the thumb is wet!
this has worked for me and turned on my girl alot in the past if u say it, it might turn her on and also it is clearance for the act ... so u dont make her feel weird by just doing it
I'm just gonna tell you how Tamara (my ex) did it, because I sure thought it was a good approach Once your making out and such, whisper to her "Do you want me to go further?" or something similar. If she nods or says yes, then go for it. Start by rubbing her down there over her pants/skirt/shorts, undo or push them down after a minute, and gently touch her around the panty-line and inner-thigh. This'll get her turned on, make sure you play with the outline of her panties for a little bit, gentle touching, stroking, rubbing, carressing, and then go for it! lol not too descriptive, but some basic tips for going about it. This way, you make sure SHE's comfortable with it and SHE wants to do it, and she gets aroused with all the touchign around down there. Sometimes it's more hot if you touch around her pantyline before you actually go for it. Make sur eyou start off slow, give her a chance to get turned on first, it'll make it a lot more intense for her (plus, girls take longer to get aroused than guys). Good luck!
