3some potential, but don't know what to do! Help!

Me and my girl want to try a 3some.....with another girl only....

We are attractive and very open minded....we both live in the LA area....actually my girl in san diego right now, me near hollywood...my girl does have some major concerns that I simply don't know how to go about addressing ....therefore preventing this fantasy from happening....

1.) The person has to be very clean and not "purchased", never some whore you can buy off the street....ideally even someone we know and feel like we can 'trust'...problem is we don't know anybody like that!.....and we'd be too shy to just ask them...

2.) my girl is very selfish with my dick...she claims it's all hers and she won't let anyone else touch it....and I'm not gonna complain cause she's amazing.....so the girl/girl thing would be the only reality with this (she seems curious, although she is SHY too...) and that's cool with me...A BIG TURN on her being with a girl while we have sex, vs not having someone else around...but I know that this going to limit the selection to a girl that just wants to play around with a girl and not a me...who knows in the heat of the moment she might just say "what the hell" but at least to start this, it needs to be this way...so a lesbian that doesn't mind being around a guy having sex with her target would be ideal...haha (this isn't exactly like shopping in a catalogue is it?!)

3.) she's really shy and so to do it, it would have to be arranged carefully beforehand.... (probably me arranging it with the other girl first...) that would make things more comfortable, it can't be a: "hey want to share an escort", or "let's go clubbing and try to take someone home...." I would need help on how the hell to do this...

She has said she would want to be a little drunk, cause then she wouldn't be so shy....fine with me......

Needless to say I want to experience this while I'm young and have some energy/looks.... but it seems like a royal pain in the ass to make it happen....any tips, ideas? WE ARE THE NICEST PEOPLE!

OFFERS even....!!!???

 

arrange it? geez, i've only had a couple 3somes & they were relationships that lasted bout 4-6 months each, both were with women who already knew eachother & were close & nothing was ever arranged they just happened....noits not like shopping in a catolog or hey wanna offer, if it happens it happens & it is what it is..its not something u try,its something your open to, & if ya meetthe right personwhos also open to it & to you, it just will be

 

Stick to each other, you don't sound at all ready for it. Don't ruin what you've got on a fake fantasy!

 

You will behave with new girl and have sex with ass? Use US military to shave Manda? Woman must shave Manda.


Shave! Shave Manda!!!





Beat self,


Stoshowik

 

I think you need to re-think the 3 some....it doesnt sound like a second nature thing between the two of you !!!!

 

it's a recipe for a headache. The people that have threesomes it just comes naturally.

 

I agree with the rethink part, but if you must = craigslist. You'd be surprised how many lesbians wouldn't mind you watching, or you doing your gf while she does ???

 

Don't do it

 

Do it

 

is she really ready for this?

when my boyfriend and i started having an open relationship, he kept putting all these contingencies on us. "no one can touch this, but they can touch that", "don't fuck anyone else tonight because i'm feeling lonely", "i'm shy"...etc etc. turns out he wasn't ready at all. it's easier to go "all" or "none" when involving other people...rules doesn't really work in my experience. either she's okay with you fucking another girl and her playing with your dick...or she's not. inbetweens just get messy.

 

I appreciate the advice...right now she is willing to give me a two girl BJ and HER play with a girl...I'm FINE with that...if it becomes more, great...but I'm not going to pressure her....I think she's ready, it's just hard to "make it happen" We are not the type of people to ask other people for sex....and we don't go out clubbin, etc....so it's hard.

Thanks again.

 

Dude. You situation is exactly similar to mine. I have the exact same problem. My and my girlfriend are absolutely in love with each other and know that we will always be together. We are also pretty open minded. She is shy but open to try new things. Problem is, she gets jealous. She wants me to watch her do stuff to a girl but I can only watch or do stuff to her and not the other girl.

We decided that we will pick up a girl at a club or something and she will convince the girl into giving me a show. Everyone can be naked. She will do stuff with the other girl. I can only watch.

I wanna do more things though but my girlfriend says she will get too jealous. I dunno what to do. I wont have sex with the other girl. Just wanna be able to have some fun, like touching and licking.

We have been talking abt this for some time and slowly I was able to convince my gf to go further and further, but she still has these 'rules'. How do i convince her to be totally free abt all this?

 

hehe, are you asking me? I'm still waiting for anything like this to happen....I would recommend taking it slooooooooooow, because if you rush anything, man your just gonna have things blow back in your face...try to be patient, and enjoy and appreciate whatever it is you are able to experience with your GF...it will be a hell of a lot more then many other relationships experience...think of that way, that's what I'm trying to focus on myself....

 

you've put the energy out there just by posting this thread......if it's meant to happen, it will come together naturally, with the right person at the right time

i agree, it's something that should never be forced (unless that's what you're into, hehe)....motive is everything

 

Yes, Alana is right.

adultfriendfinder may be worth your time also, but there are many fakes there also.

You need to slow down and think as these wise people are telling you. Also, take a look at www.swingersboard.com for a forum with lots of wisdom and experienced replies.

 

You sound very much like the couple that has invited me for a threesome, well, the guy has. Don't know how this will help you... but let me tell you my story. I met this guy thru mutual activities with our children, that meets weekly and involves camps about twice a year. We hit it off right away. I started emailing him, our emails got more and more suggestive, and he started calling me once a week, and one day, he told me, he would not have sex without his wife there. Now, that threw me off totally. I told him, no way, that is not for me. MOnths passed and he often talked about his fantasy to have sex with me and his wife, and I kept telling him the door is closed.... but one day, I told him, the door has opened a crack, I had gotten used to the idea. 8 months it took me. I finally told him, face to face, that I wanted to try it. ( I am in a relationship that knows nothing of this, a rather platonic relationship, but we have been together for over 20 yrs). This other man, is totally in love with his wife, but him and I also have grown rather close, too close, perhaps, but we have not had any sexual relations, he refuses, we have fooled around though. So, when he asked his wife, and told her that I was ready, SHE was the one that said, I am not so sure about her, since you see her every week... well, I started emailing her, getting friendly with her, and it worked. We actually spent an evening one night, when my child had a sleepover at their place, we sat on the couch, talking, but sitting close, him in the middle... it was very pleasant. She is ready now, she emailed me last week to invite me over, but I could not have gotten away. She did not want him to know that she had asked me..... she had wanted to surprise him. I am not a lesbian, nor is she interested in sex with me, or any other woman, this is for HIM, we will please him, and we all have a great sense of humor, so it is bound to be a very fun time. So, this guy got lucky finding me, maybe you will be lucky finding someone like me, but you might need to work on it, unless you find one on the internet....