My dad is leaving home! Not for ever, but he told me "me and mom, we had some problems and Ill have to go. This doesnt mean you dont have a family any more. we are not divorcing".He told me that they just need some time. He was crying. After this, I talked with my mother. She was also crying. And she told me that dad is going to come back again. I just dont get this! They both think they are having a comunication problem but they both love each other and they have 3 children (7,12,17) so now, after 20 years together they found that their caracters are too diferent? I feel miserable. My sisters are asd also. They can feel something is happening. Dad i going in other town. He will come back again, but I dont know when. I dont know if I need an advice or something. I just had to write this. peace
Well if they've got problems, why don't they get counseling to help them work the problems out and understand them? If they didn't love each other, it wouldn't make them so sad to break up. I hate to see people break up without really trying to work out their problems. It happened to me, so I know the feeling... Sometimes couples need an outsider that's trained in understanding the problems couples have, like a marriage counselor, priest, etc., to step in and help them understand what their problems stem from and how to solve them, how to communicate better, things like that. I sure hope they'll do something like that instead of just splitting up....
Counseling is really the only thing that will help. You can't make them go, if they refuse to go. I hate to be the bringer of bad news, but once a spouse leaves, the chance for reconciliation is nil. He may come back (usallly people will temporarilty come back to their spouse when their lover leaves them or if they fight witht their lover) but as soon as he either patches it up with the lover, he will leave again. Men, rarely, if ever, leave unless they have an other womyn waiting for them, so he most likely is leaving for her, and telling you and your mom "it isn't forever" so he wil be excepted back, if she kicks him out. Best thing your mom could do is either get therapy or call a lawyer and do NOT let him back in. I've been there, when my parents "temporarily" separated. It sucks, but it isn't your fault, and they are the adults, and it is up to them to take care of you. Blessing
Have you ever thought alot and then went up to your room and just sat there and thinked.. And just wanted to be alone.. maybe that is what your father is doing. but only he is leaving for a little bit. I believe that if he said he was coming back that he will. He does not want to disapoint you and your brothers/sisters. Just give him time. I know this much just kill you to no know why your dad is leaving and when he will come back.. but trust in hope and faith he will come back.. beacuse I bet he loves you all so much..
