What you first know is am the type of person that is extremely shy around the opposite sex. Actually i'm shy most of the time , the only people i'm open with are people i know well and my parents, usually. Anway, school started for me a few weeks ago and like your typical teenager i have come across some interesting females. This one girl specifically, shes beautiful and i like the type of person she is, my type of person. I don't even know her name nor have i spoken to her or anything. So here's the thing, being almost completely passive with the opposite sex sometimes I don't think I could ever havethe courage to actually get up and speak to her. This is what i ask of you my "hip friends", what is a great way to really "woo"(if thats even a world) a girl? Is stuff like poetry to old fashion, or just any help. What i ask for is some help in any way, shape, or form. It probably sounds ridiculous coming from a 16 year old(im a junior in high school this year) but i can't take not having female contact anymore or just being such a god damn loner. Again any help would be much appreciated. Thankyou
Is she in any of your classes? If so, well... either there's group work and you can ask to join herh group. Or there's no group work in which case you ask if maybe you could study with her, muddle out some problems.
actualy being a shy person, i think poetry is a great way..shyness is a stype of sensativity after all, & that can help you really express your feelings through poetry whenya may not be able to just say what you want good luck.....
I don't know... when I was that age, getting poetry from some guy who didn't even know my name would have creeped me out. Just try talking to her. I know its hard, but I think its the way to go.
If it was well written poetry, it could be cute. But then, I've always had a soft spot for nerds Poorly written poetry would make me laugh and mock him, which probably isn't the nicest response. But people being nice in high school is pretty rare.
Yeah, in adult life, poetry is nice. But in high school, unless you're a really good poet, and perhaps after you speak to her, I'd say no.
I gotta agree with honeyhannah on this. Before college, probably 95% of women would consider poetry either wimpy or egghead... trust me, I was just like you and learned through lots of mistakes. So I'm gonna give you LOTS of advice based on years of being you. First thing... learn her name! Ask someone... a teacher... anyone. Second thing... find out if she's seeing anyone already. It really sucks big time if you finally get up the nerve to say "Hey, I was wondering if you'd like to go to a movie some time," only to hear, "Gee, I'm sorry. I'm dating [whatever your worst nightmare's name is here]." Third... see if you can get some idea about what she likes. What are her favorite classes? Is she a brain? A cheerleader? Get some kind of handle on who you're dealing with because it helps if you can ask her to do something she already likes to do. Fourth... don't behave like a stalker! If you ask questions, fine. Just keep it a little discrete. If you start pumping everyone for information too obviously, she may think she's picked up a creepo of some type. But if she does hear, don't be embarassed about it. It wouldn't be a bad thing if she came up to you and said, "I heard you were asking questions about me." Which leads to the big Number Five: I know this is so hard right now. I know you're shy. Trust me... I know where you are. But if I've learned one thing, it's that no matter the age of the woman, self-confidence in a man is attractive. It took me years to learn this (and a few years of performing arts), but you have no idea the difference it can make. You don't have to be Don Juan... just remember that a lot of attractive gals don't go out much because guys are intimidated to ask them! If you can say something like, "Hi! I know there's a dance coming up, and I don't really know much about dancing, but if you'd like to go, I'd like to learn." Now for the encouraging part... if you are willing to learn about women, and listen to them, and not insist on being a typical "guy" all the time, you will probably never go long without a girlfriend. Again, being you a few years ago, I know. Good luck. And now I'm willing for any ladies to take apart what I've said and correct any misinformation you may feel I've passed along.
Foxes' advice is right on. That being said, I'd look into the reasons why you think you're shy. Nothing builds confidence more than knowing the origins of your psychological weaknesses. 2) Be a doer. If you step up to this girl and she blows you off two things are going to happen. One, you'll get hurt for a little while, two you will have tried and learned. Seriously, you don't wanna be the kind of guy that looks back on your life to say, I could of should of would of. Trying and failing is much better than not trying at all; 3)If you wanna write poetry, write poetry. But I would suggest you introduce yourself before you give it to her. Suggest something... Whether it be grabbing a bite together in the cafeteria, or, later, a movie; 4) Think about process, not results. If you're too anxious to get her approval, or get together with her, your chances are slim. Love yourself and your life, first of all, enjoy it, and good things will come your way. If your happiness is co-dependent with her approval, you're going to have trouble ahead. That being said, women are the most frustrating creatures you'll ever deal with. Toughen up and take a few slaps in the face. If you take stuff too seriously, you'll hurt and hurt and hurt... Women (with rare exceptions) will resist your advances every step of the way, they'll be too much work, they'll be passive-aggressive, judgemental and generally not worth your trouble. That's the way we have been socialized. But what you're going to do? You're acting upon a biological imperative. Good luck P.S.: When you suggest she grab lunch at your table in the cafeteria or something, DO NOT SMILE. BE DEAD SERIOUS.
In highschool therees so many girls so just go up to her and jsut ask her name, and if u get rejected it's highschool thers always so many more man
Sounds like advice from Gene Simmons. I dont mean that in any negative way, either. Simmons will be the first to tell you that if you dont love yourself, dont expect anybody else to love you. Hes in love with himself, and has been with Playmate of the Year 1982 Shannon Tweed for 20 years. Also, he doesnt do stuff just to please others. Make yourself happy first, and the rest will fall into place.
You could get her MSN addy off someone who knows her and get to know her better on that. Then ask her if she wants to do something afterschool some time. If she agrees then be yourself, dont try to act more serious or mature than you really are, it wont work out. If she likes you she will let you know.
