Have you ever been raped?

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i know someone...on these forums in fact..iwil;l never saywho..but was raped when she was still in diapers
the risk she took was being born

you hear about violent rapes of women who went jogging in the park after dark and say its her failt for being there
but thats not how most rapes happen
the biggest majoritty is family ..freinds..freinds of family..what risk are they taking exactly? the rapist is someone they see every day & cannot avoid

i dont care if shes been teasing u for years driving u crazy doesnt give u the right to even look at her without her concent..

 

This is boring. Like i said before, i was referring to that situation, not rape in general.

 

there is never any situation....any..
under no sircumstances is it her fault..ever

 

sorryi did miss this post
but remember the post aboit the lions..these wordsalsospund exactly like my freind in japan who will not go outside her room because if she does anythung wgere a man might be shes taking the risk of being raped
the problemisnt withher risking..ever..hell she should be able to sleep naked in a pile with random strangers & not risk being abused ..the only fault is withmens weakness
7 inabilityto cointroll theyre own damn selves

 

see and this is the exact reason why most rapes that occur are by close friends or family and go unreported. Because the girl believes herself to be in a situation which is safe. Obviously if these girls thought they were going to get raped they wouldnt have gone there. They we'rent expecting it.

Sure there are measures you can to attempt to prevent it, but you never know when someone will turn on you. How many of us have done something and thought, god if only I had... whatever. Hindsight is a very accurate thing, but not very helpful.

 

all that's really fucked up but really especially the stadistics,, I agree with EAZYand his questions ...but so many SOB geting away with that, im not impliying that it's her fault or saying ,and I say that with RESPECT ,, but then again you question wy not say ANYTHING of course there's allkind of answers and Im just asking for a good regular guy most of the times it's not easy getting a date but you see those jerks that girls are atracted to; that raise all kind of red flags and most of the signs are there, theres even the BAD BOY TYPE wao, again I dont mean no DISRESPECT then there's agirls best friend blame it on being young most of the times even if you try to make or think that sometingh is wright and it's not ,,your'e gut feeling tells you or feminen intuition, that you decide to risk it it's something else when you're young you take more risk,,,,,,,then you got the virginiti isue women make a big deal about it and after they loose it,, it turns out that they give it to the worst or who ever was there at the right time and place, back in the day ,I've seen stuff like I go to the homie's house theres a nice good looking girl in there that somebody started talking to her at the store and likes to party and next tingh you here shes alredy been with 3 or 4 guys and the next 2 days shes still there she wasnt the only girl there somethimes you see things that change your'e perspective you see alot of that

 

My parents are/were protective... didn't save me from being assulted.

Rape isn't about sex, its about power.

There really isn't any situation that is perfectly safe. I was totally sober, at a small party with my cousin. You would think it safe. Nope.

 

Yes. No details, there's enough judgment in this thread as it is. Just wanted to add my % to the statistic.

 

As for protective parents preventing rape, often its the 'protective' ones causing the rape. Aside from that, if you molly coddle your kids too much, theyre only going to rile against it and get themseves into more dangerous situations.

 

Exactly.

 

what a joke, really really.

 

rly?

 

Wow, did this thread ever turn to shit fast.

 

This post has got me so damn worried...I thought it was a completely rare thing, it nearly happened to my sis but she kicked the **** to get away (sorry for my French, I feel people like that deserve to die)
I am now completely scared about my girlfriend, we're both at uni now, so for 3 years, i wont be able to come with her whenever she goes out...
I dont even wanna think about this, it sucks
oh and by the way, if youre a rapist out there reading this, feel free to give me an email with your address on

 

I know rape isnt about sex. I think there are messures you can take to make yourself MORE safe, or at least less appealing to a rapist, ie, make it obvious you have a ride home (with an adult) or never go anywhere alone, even to the toilet (go with a girl friend to stand guard outside), just generally make the rapist's life harder. I guess i was always lucky. Having a friendship group to protect me and to look out for me when my parents could not, kept me safe. It is so sad to hear of family members letting their own down by letting horrible things like this happen to them. If it had been my cousin i would never have forgiven him for not protecting me. I hope you let yours know how he failed.

 

Actually, rape is sometimes about sex. It's also about very lonely men who get provoked by women. Sometimes. This happens, whether you can admit it to yourselves or not. Stop generalising about rape. I was raped by a man when i was 8, it didn't destroy my life, it didn't turn me into a rapist, it didn't turn me into a hysterical name-caller or generaliser. Women HAVE got brains, ok? SOME women do bring it on themselves, no matter how utterly wrong and abhorent the act of rape is. Stop blanket-attacking someone for looking at a situation with a little bit of realism, rather than as an excuse to be morally outraged, and stop picking on a 15 who is only putting his thoughts down in an honest, if blunt way.

 

I wasnt picking on him...he and I are actually friends...and Ive not let what happened ruin my life...Ive gone on to have 3 more children and a 26 year relationship !!!

 

I wasn't really directing that at anyone in particular Erz, no offense. I just hate generalising about this sort of thing, i'd much rather people tackled issues without bias, and i could see the mob rule rising up a bit. It's much easier to shout someone down if you don't like what they are saying, it's harder to deal with complicated issues without conveniently compartmentalising people and attitudes into something that doesn't offend the sensibilities, but as far as i'm concerned it's as bad as completely ignoring a situation in the first place.

 

No worries...I agree with what you said about letting something from the past cripple you....but , I think there are some people who really cant help but be that way !!

peace to you !!!!