I really don't know what to do. I have reason to believe I am gay and reason to believe I am straight. I have never had a true girlfriend and I would like one definitely but I just don't have the urge to just go out and look. I am just not that in need for sex at all. And over that I also think I am gay because I seem to be always thinking about guys that I see or know. I don't really have thoughts about having sex with these guys but just being around them in general I get some sort of non sexual pleasure from it. And when I talk people I know(straight people) they are always looking at every girl on the street and ready to follow her around all day because shes so beautiful but thats just the thing I don't get that need to want to be with a girl I see on the street and follow her or make a move and possible go out with her, I just don't get that urge if you know what I mean. But I do tend to like looking at the better looking guys around and sometimes I would like to possibly follow them around, I don't know. I am a messed up individual who needs help. Sorry for the rant.
Your not ranting ....your just saying how you feel...Im just wondering how old you are , you never said ?
Your not gay. You are only experiencing symptoms of acute stress and anxiety. Solution: Rather than spend MORE time entertaining these irrational fears and never ending circles of worry leading to worry leading to worry... Stop. Stop, acknowledge the thoughts for one or two minutes you set aside. Dont try and focus on them. Dont try and begin chewing and chewing them. Simply acknowledge them, realise they happen when you stress. Then STOP. Do not allow them to continue, dont 'run the script' and dont give them power or credibility. You are only experiencing a 'race mind' full of your worst fears .. and that can include thoughts about 'unsolveable or unanswerable questions' or 'what ifs'. Your not a 'gay'. I truly suggest you dont even bother returning to this thread anyways. That only gives these anxiety thoughts more time and undeserved attention. They feed on that.
Theres no doubt in my mind I have anxiety and depression issues and that is definitely a factor. Thanks for the input el proximo, I hope your right. By the way I'm 18.
I'm going to presume that you will be reading this thread and just add my own point of view, there aren't many young people that aren't confused about their sexuality, from this post and your prevouis ones its obvouis that you don't want to be gay, however the anxiety of that you might be is keeping it in your mind. you could well be a very sensitive hetrasexual male that appreciates the beauty in everyone and doesn't want to leer at girls like your peers. so hands up anyone who wasn't confused at the age of 18?? just go with it, go with the confusion and explore your sexuality, watch some films (i don't mean porn, although you can if you want!) about human relationships and sexuality and read some books, see what emotional impact they have on you. and stop trying to work it out, so you might be gay, you might be straight, you could be bi, but at the moment you don't know, its all fine, but try and go on your own discovery with this, because the more you seek the opinons of others the more confused you'll get S
If you are in your teens - early 20's this is perfectly normal behaviour for anyone - not everyone is that interested in looking at women or guys and saying how much they want a F*!@, personally I have always found such behaviour to be rather pathetic. You know the kind of thing "wow she's gorgeous !" there then follows that macho sort of "yeah I'd give her one blah blah blah" - whats the point ? Youre either gonna go ask someone for a date or youre not but theres no point discussing tits or cocks or whatever its just passe' and moronic. A lot of people feel like that - gays as well as straight people - not everyone stands around, dick in hand, trying to prove they got a 15 incher. Dont worry you are normal as they guys that claim they cant get enough. And if youre worried you may be gay just because your aint got a GF and dont want one - well thats silly - If youre having fun doing what you are doing - do it more until you want to do something else - and worry about it then -
