My ex

So my ex has herself a new BF. She came over here like 2 hours after I had gotten in off the road and I was dead tired to tell me that she is dating this guy. Im like okay, then she continues to say she has known him for 3 years (funny we were only divorced for just about 2 years) and Im like okay (still trying to sleep). Then she says he is moving in with her and that my son said it was okay and again Im like can this wait, I have been up for over 30 hours and Im tired, I frankly dont care.

Now my son dont care becuase he knows he has no say. She went on 3 confirmed dates and has him move in. She states he has a great job and shit to my daughter but the looser was living at his mommy's house and his car is a piece of shit. So if he had so much money why not his own place and a real car?

I mean I dont give a shit but since she took the time and effort to annoy me while I was trying to sleep after working hard I cant help but wonder some things.

 

Sounds to me like you're better off without her. She seems like a petty manipulative bitch.

 

What sounds manipulative about that? I mean she COULD be manipulative but I saw nothing in what he just wrote that shows whether she is or isn't.

Yank sounds a little bit jealous.

 

I don't know. I'm trying to watch Futurama here.

 

my issues I guess are that she wakes me up to tell me this, that I bought that house for her and my son to have a home and that her bad judgement might cost her that house. If she is so willing to move him in with only 3 dates would she marry him and not make sure the home is secure from his ability to take it. Last if he is so well off then why does he show up with nothing to offer into this, no home, no money, no furniture even, nothing.

As far as her dating, I wish she was and should have longer before moving him in. Im not against him staying over and shit but I know her past and her lack of good choices.

 

I understand.

 

If I read the new BF through your description then take heart- she is about to get exactly what she deserves.

 

Yeah, but his son shouldn't have to suffer through what she deserves.

 

Very true. Unfortunately life doesn't play fair... never has.

 

Jeeze what a bitch...Why don't you get your son living with you?

 

She lets him do what he wants, well did but now that she has another she kinda leaves him out in the cold. He knows my door is never locked up. He comes over from time to time to get away but knows I have rules that I wont flex on so he is not ready enough to give up his can do anything deal he has right now. Sadly for him I think it wont last, she already gets pissed if he comes out of his room and the dude only moved in like 4 days ago.

 

Awwwh I'm sorry man..., maybe it's time to tell her to just "piss off" and leave you alone rather than her gloating about her new "toy"...

 

I just dont want her to loose the house I bought for her and my son is all to someone she just met.

 

Mhm but surely if it's like their house well yours, then she has the right to kick him out rather than he kick her out?

 

Sounds to me like she is trying to make you jealous or something.
I have an ex who does the same kind of stuff here and there and has for years.
It's so petty, and if like me, you don't want this person back, it's downright annoying.
It's like they suddenly realize that you've matured and moved on in life and it pisses them off that you no longer care to participate in their foolish, highschool type drama. When the dust from the whole battle finally settles and you pick up and move on...here they come.
As long as you are upset over the shit they've done, but still love them enough to want to be with them, they couldn't be bothered.
As soon as you move past them and on to a better life, it's like "uh uh, you can't move on from this."
Control freaks, that's what they are. As soon as they no longer have control, that's when you get the drunken phone calls from them at 3 a.m.
about how they loooove you and messed up all those years ago.
It's either that, or "Look at me, I have a new person I'm seeing."
Don't care.

 

i think shes sounds very manipulative, i mean there is a reason she's doing all this..she wouldn't be telling you all about it if she didn't want to get some sort of emotion out of it
i don't know the situation at all but it's very possible that she still loves you and by shoving another man in your face she wants to see if you still love her enough to get jealous
i understand and respect you yank for caring enough to not want her to lose the house but maybe(as bitchy as this sounds) it would be best to let her fall and have to pick up the pieces if her new relationship doesn't work out
you can still care about her, but it's not necessarily your responsibility to look after her
but again i have no idea about the entire situation is so i maybe way out in left field here
just be careful yank, you seem to be a really sweet guy and women tend to take advantage of that

 

Very well said. I totally agree and couldn't have said it better myself.