...lets say your seriously attracted to two guys that you really love but can't decided which one to go for.. meaning you love their personalities equally and find them both equally seriously attractive... both of them love you 100% and would do anything for you. Both of them have equal appeal that you can't find anywhere else. You want to be with both of them 24/7 because both of them are soooo right for you. Now one of them is alot richer than the other but both are equally devoted to you.. You've been with the poor guy for quite some time and you love him to bits but the other guy wants to give you more. He believes that you deserve better and wants you to enjoy your life without wasting time trying to make ends meet. You'll struggle financially if you have a full time relationship with the poor one but you'll get to spend most of the day with him and do things together whenever you like. You'll have the same connection with the more successful guy plus a relationship without financial restraint but you can only see him for a couple of hours a day. Would you chose the poor guy or the rich guy? Before you post a reply remember that both men love and respect you unconditionally. The poor guy dosen't focus on financial stability and believes that life is not about money. He believes that love is all that matters in life and does what he can to make ends meet. The other works 6am to 7pm and you'll be free to do as you wish at your leisure. You'll see a lot less of him everyday but you'll always have security and material desires. Who would you chose and why?
Why did you chose that option? The only difference between them is cash. Would you really condemn the other guy for being financially secure?
It depends on where I was in my life. If I've never been with the guy who has money and I want something different, I might want to switch to him, but it might be difficult to leave the poor guy because I've been with him for awhile.
I'm going to be difficult and say you have to be faithfull to only one I rate any girl who is truthful/geniune enough to give a straight answer to the initial post
I didn't mean to offend and my last post wasn't directed at you by no means... I was only seeking a reply which dosen't involve having the best of both worlds.
My reply was it depends... it's a difficult question, it depends on the hypothetical guys in question, and my hypothetical frame of mind at the time, as well as my hypothetical life situation, in other words there's not enough information to make a truly informed decision.
If I had been in a relationship with the poor guy I wouldn't leave him for someone richer. I have goals about traveling, and you need money for that....but I could always pay my way and leave him to figure out what he wants to do.
Your not leaving him for someone 'richer' in general. The other guy has the same qualities as the poor guy.... he's just better equipt to make you happier. You'll never have to pay for your traveling... that and everything else that you desire will be standard. Why chose the guy that has a slice of what you want when you can have the whole pie?
I can't see myself leaving someone for someone else. It just think it's disgusting, to try and "trade up" with people. But, if I'd been seeing them for an equal length of time (ie casual dating), they were -exactly- the same aside from hours and money, I'd take the rich guy. Because 1) I'm tired of constantly feelin broke 2) I do like getting pampered from time to time and 3) I can't stand clingy guys and those time constraints mean that we'll probably see each other as much as I want to, at least at the start of a relationship. I like having my space.
I choose the poor guy. I should have just left both of them alone and gone a different way all together.. lol.
For me personally, it is about having someone in my life who has the time to spend with me. I'm not talking about 24/7, just someone who doesn't leave me feeling lonely the majority of the time. I'd much rather have a man to hold, than his cash to spend while he is away for several days or months. I chose the poor man in this scenario, simply for the ability to have his attention given to me. Of course, another factor is faithfulness. While I am one to stay faithful to my man, I cannot count on a man who is always away from me to do the same. I would love to have lots of money, but not so I can go buck wild on a shopping spree. Of course, I would love to do that, and like most human beings, probably eventually would, but I'd want all that money just so I can afford to pay my bills, go to the doctor, see a dentist, things I cannot do on the money I currently make. I would not discriminate against a man who has money, but if that was all he had to offer me, I'd probably rather be with someone else who offers me more love. Dumb, I know, but that's how I am.
