What does it mean when a guy says he only wants 2 b mates (friends) atm? I met this guy @ a concert awhile ago and we got on really well and yer he does live about an hour away from me and he knows i really like him and we have had sex b4, and he came with me 2 my high school ball and all that, but im not sure how long "at the moment" is and this i think this what is confusing me and the fact that when he said he only wanted 2 b friends about acupl of weeks after we had had sex , i sorta felt alittle bit used. what do u guys think, i may have left sumthings out but yer......does it sound like he used me?
He only used you if you think of it that way. You had sex willingly, and its not his fault you expected more than him afterwards. I dont know what else to say! Love Amanda
Is he seeing anyone at the momment? Wanting to be 'just friends' is someewhat strange for a guy. I think you should keep after him, tho not obsessively
Haha yer that was my plan, to keep after him. um i dnt think he's seeing anyone because he also sed that he hasn't been out with anyone for along time so maybe hes just affraid he'll get hurt or sumthing, not that i'd hurt him or anything. i dnt know , im very confused
Give up on him. That's a blow-off line. If he was ever gonna like you enough to go out with you long-term, why wouldn't he take up the chance right away? Risk you finding someone else? The only reason a guy says that is that he doesn't like you "that way" and doesn't expect to, either. You DID get used. What did you think, that a 17-year-old guy has his head together and knows what he wants? He thinks with his dick, and all he's about is experiencing pussy and a girl who'll give it to him. The odd, occasional guy at that age is ready and equipped mentally for a long-term relationship, and even some of those screw it up by forgetting to be faithful. Why did you give in to have sex with him before you got some indication that he wanted to have a longer relationship with you like you wanted with him? Sorry, you made a mistake by having sex with a guy who didn't like you or respect you. I wouldn't even bother being friends with him anymore, while you're at it. Tell him he needs to grow up, and you don't want him around anymore. And mean it. He will either not care, in which case you've lost nothing, or he will protest and want to convince you to stay friends. ...But, there is a good chance that if he doesn't hear from you in a long time he will come back around checking on you. Guys can't stand when a girl loses interest in them; it hurts the ego. But beware, again, because a guy coming back around trying to lure you back may just lose interest again as soon as he figures that he could lure you back if he really wanted to. He doesn't necessarily want you back -- just the knowledge that he could have you back. Good luck. And stop givin' up the pooty so easily, and you won't feel so used. It's supposed to be special, you know? Blue skies, -Jeffrey
when u put it that way u do have a good point. I was "Shit outa luck" thinking that a guy the same age as me would be @ the same maturity level then wasnt I? The thing that really confused me is that he sounded really into being in a relationship with me acupl of days after we had sex, but obviously ddnt mean it tho huh? :s
