Major fighting with me and my mom.

Over my freedom. She doesn't seem to understand that all I want is to get out for a little, maybe party with some friends, just be able to live a little like every other 15 year old does. But I can't. I've been depressed to the point of just breaking down in tears at random moments because I see all this freedom everyone else has and I know I'll never have any. My dad's in the DEA and my mom's religious. They're narrow-minded, over-protective and in my opinion spoon-fed by society. What do I do? They threaten me that if I ever do anything wrong (like smoke even once) I will be pulled out of my new school to spend the rest of my high schoo, years on the computer. And I can't have that. For once in my life I'm not a loner. I have friends there and people who care about me. I'm in love with a guy named Wes and I've heard he likes me back. I can't sacrifice that. What do I do? I'm dying!

 

Don't let the swine get you down. Remember 2003? Not that long ago, right? Well that same amount of time again and you'll be an adult who can do whatever she damn-well pleases. It'll turn out right in the end.

 

They care about you, if their like my mom she is always worrying. But understand they just have your saftey in mind...You don't to have to get shit faced and smoke to have fun and to be free.... You just got to have friends who like to act silly. Sure parties are fun but can you blame them for not wanting you to go to parties? You think most parents want their kid to go to some party and know their gunna use drugs or drink and not have their sense? Or evn run the risk of date rape?

What Im trying to say is they care about you and your sfety thats all. But I have one question are you even aloud out after school or to go to the movies??? Stuff ike that?

 

get over it,,, yer 15,,,, another few years n you can do what ever you please,,, til then you are theres to control... plain n simple..

sounds harsh but its reality....

 

Ok, at 15 I know it all about the drama. Your life is not going to end because you didn't get to go to a party. You can not be in love with someone you are not even seeing yet. You will either fight with your parents for the next three years making everyones life miserable or you can wait till your an adult to do whatever you want. I know you think you don't have freedom but ruining the relationship with your mother isn't going to help. Just tough it out these last three years, be respectful even when you disagree. This will help to show them that you are mature which may lead to more freedom. Fighting will not lead to more freedom it will prevent it. When you hit 18 move out and do whatever you want.

 

Woodstockchild, You're 15 and any parent who's worth a damn will be concerned with where you are, what you are doing, and who you are doing it with. Sure some parents are more extreme about it, but most just do what they think is best for their kids. I am the parent of 15 and 16 y/o girls. While my wife and I probably couldn't be more different than your parents I still limit the freedom my girls get and I make it a point to know what they are up to.

It's only three more years and then you're 18 and are free to move out and do what you want. And you are also free to provide food, shelter, transportation etc......for yourself.

 

I know you don't want to hear it, but your parents are really just trying to do what they think is best for you. I can totally see both sides. On one hand, your parents want to protect you. If they are good people, they should want to know where you are, who youre with, and all that. Can you blame them? I will be having a baby soon, and I can't even stand to think about how dangerous the world is. On the other hand, I can sympathize with you becasuse when I was 15 my parents didnt let me go out at all either, and I seriously thought my life was over. But just trust me, it isn't. and even if you don't agree with your parents decisions try to see where they're coming from. Eventually you will learn how to talk to them, and how to get them to trust you. Good luck. I know it seems impossible, just don't argue, really try to prove to them that you can handle responsibility. Untill you prove it, they will never give it to you.

 

Screw it. The day I'm 18 I'll probably either A. overdose on something or B. drink myself to death in an attempt to make up for all the time I spent locked up.

 

Well hopefully you will mature some before then. Try looking at the things you do have in life. Always focusing on what you don't have will make you miserable and unfortunately that doesn't ever end.

 

Don't look at all the freedoms everyone else has. Get into some things you're parents will approve of. I'm sure they'll be fine with you being in clubs at school and things like that.

There really is no point in being upset about it, because you can't change it. So what you have to do is change you're point of view and take advantage of the freedoms you do have. Make the most of your teenage years because soon you'll be an adult and you'll have all the freedoms you want, plus bills to pay and a ton more responsibilities. It's a great life to have you're parents responsible for you and taking care of it. You don't believe me ask my brother and my sister. Anyway, you just have to make sure you know which battles are worth fighting, talk to your parents often, brag to them about the good things you do, they will see and give you more opportunities to get what you want.

But more importantly, show them that you respect them and try to understand they're point of view, because unfortunately what they say goes.

 

thats gotta be one of the dumbest things ive heard in a long while

 

Honestly ...get over it! Its not something to be so worried about...you'll understand when you have kids

 

you can't always get what you wont I have relized that in life. I am 18 I have never been to a "party"as you talk about. My mom works with the Police departmetn she is not a cop just works with them..and my step dad is a jr police officer so I never had the freedom like you are talking about. I always had people watching me. My mom is alos protective but she only does that cause she cares and loves you and does not want you to get hurt. and Plus you are only 15 you will get more freedom as you get older.

 

AHhh one day you'll miss someone caring about you and your wellbeing, if it ever goes absent from your life! You're 15, what's the rush to grow up and be "free"?
I had only wished my parents cared more about where I was when I was your age, because I would have been spared a lot of unwated trouble! You'll understand one day....

 

I'm doing it after the Stones show. I'm running off to a party with my friends.

 

You can now really kiss your freedom goodbye if you do that.

You're digging yourself a deeper grave if you sneak off and lie to your parents.

 

Your too smart for words. I just can't understand why your parents think you are immature and can't be trusted. Hmmmm?

 

Smart idea...Thats exactly the way to freedom!

 

You sound like a child. At 15 you still are a child, my parents werent exactly freedom fighter when I was 15 but running off to a party behind there back is just going to get you in shit.

 

their letting you go to a conert? Freedom no?