Long Distance Relationship?

Has this worked for anyone? Currently i have some one but she has went back to school which is 5hours away..i dont have a job(not anymore), and no car so it kinda sucks..what would you do? Its the hardest thing ever....

 

Unless you come into some money/car
or
she's willing to foot your travel bills or do all the traveling herself
you prolly need to find someone local
unless yall can get by on only seeing each other once in a great Moon.

Same's true for long distance phone calls.

It sux but so does Life...

 

It has never worked for me and to be honest, I'd rather just shoot myself in the heart than be in a long distance relationship because then at least I wouldn't have to deal with the broken heart.

 

They are not for me.

 

It can work, but it is extremely difficult even for adults to handle, and given your age and financial situation, I don't think this is going to work out for you. I'm just being honest. I think you would both be better off and perhaps salvage a friendship if you made a clean break of it.

 

Amen to that Sister!

 

I just broke of a relatiosnship because he was movign away.. you both ahve to REALLY want it to work, and put in tons and tons of effort for it to function at all.

 

It can work, but it will be very difficult, realize that you have your whole life ahead of you and decide if you really want the stress of it now, or if you feel like you can wait awhile, until you guys have a more suitable situation. It is up to you, if you want it that badly, go for it.

 

I don't think that they really work either... From personal experience anyway. It sounds obvious, but there really is too much inbetween you..

Nicely put, KozmicBlue.

 

my boyfriend and i have been together for a year and three months. he lives in israel and i live in america. it is so so so hard but if you want it to work, it will. i wish you luck...send me luck too!

 

I think it just depends on how much you love eachother and how comfortable you two are about being far away from eachother. If it works well for the both of you, then I don't see why it wouldn't work out. As long as you two trust eachother and have a lot of hope for your future together. Just don't drift away.

Dannayelli

 

I had one once.. and in the beginning it worked out great and everything seemed great.. and then it went down hill form there and everything turned out bad.. he was one of my bestfriends and now we just are friend there is not alot of our realtaionship left..

 

As someone who is currently making a long distance relationship work, I am not terribly optimistic about yours. My fiance and I lived in the same town and were best friends before we started dating, then dated pretty heavily for a year (spending pretty much every night together), then lived together for a year. Then I moved away to start grad school, with the plan that he would follow as soon as he finished up his grad program (1-2 years).

We built a very solid, strong foundation for our relationship before having to deal with long distance. Even so, it has been very difficult and required a lot of work to make this last.

I am highly pessimistic about the chances of any long distance relationship that does not have this level of prior foundation.

 

my bf and i were together for 2 yrs and we moved in after awhile maybe after a yr of getting to know one another he was from up north i was from Central Canada and now were happily married. So yes it can work.

 

Honestly, I think that if distance is a problem, then you're not meant to be with each other anyway. If you actually want to be with someone, you won't want to let them go no matter what happens... because you'll be more creative about making it work. That's just one of the sacrifices you have to make if you want a long-term relationship. I think a lot of people just give up too easily, or because they don't care, or because it's not so important to them.

It doesn't matter if you have a prior foundation or not, I think... it's more about where your head is and if you believe it will work or not... and I guess the most important thing is whether or not you share that belief.

 

I'm with MoonlightSilver... I've been in a long distance relationship for about a year. While it is by far and away the hardest thing I have ever had to do, at times I feel it has it's positives too. I can have a certain amount of freedom to hang out with who I want to hang out with and not always feel obligated to be with my boyfriend. It allows me to develop great friendships and the time we do spend together it cherished not taken for granted. There are downsides, when you get lonely they aren't right there for you, or if you have a bad day, they aren't right down the street to comfort you. There are pros and cons, but ultimately it can work if you put your heart in it.

 

I moved 1000 miles to be with my husband (we had been together a month at the time, that was 7 years ago) and gave up a good job and left everything I knew.

So, you can either make excuses or get busy coming up with some way to be with her. Those are pretty much your options.....because while it can work, it still sucks. Five hours might as well be on a different planet when you miss someone and cant go see them.

Good Luck!

 

I'm in one, I think it works if you're both trusting, open and honest with each other.

We both try and get to each other's houses as often as possible.

 

I've been in two in my life and they've both failed miserably - brought out the worst in me. It really had nothing to do with lack of love for either of these partners as I did love them both dearly, I just need daily contact to maintain the connection. I've never found a way to share life at a distance where a long distance partner feels like part of my life and I part of hers. It works for some, but after my previous experiences, I know that LDR do not work for me, so should I be faced with the situation again, I wouldn't consider it.

Well, I shouldn't say I wouldn't consider it. If my current gf were to move away or I move away and we both knew it was only a temporary departure, like six months or less, then I don't think I would have a problem maintaining a LDR with her.

I think for it to work, the foundation needs to be rock solid to begin with and there needs to be a tangible light at the end of the tunnel where you both know you will be together everyday again.

 

True... along w/the Fact both must be of the same Mindset.
It will not work unless both are in 200%.

It also helps to have a good chunk of discretionary funds/Time...