last night I had sex with my ex... probably a bad idea but we won't go there now... anyway, he came, but i didn't so he fingered me for a while. It felt soooo good, but i seem to have a problem where I start feelling like i'm going to explode with pleasure, so i tell him to stop... he was getting frustrated because he said I wouldn't let him finish me off, so I really tried to let him, but it just got uncontrollable... it's hard to explain, but i eventually had to tell him to stop because i couldn't stand it anymore, and I was fine after i calmed down... i felt good and just went to sleep... anyway, does anybody have any advice about this? I don't know if I should just try to let a guy keep going even though i'm going crazy, or maybe tell him to slow down and let me calm myself a little bit... i don't know what to do. this sucks...
All I can say is you should be doing what you want and if cumming makes you uncomfortable you shouldn't feel pressurised to do it. (Even though it is a bit wierd )
Umm, in my opinion, the more you feel like your going to explode if they don't stop means your going to cum harder than ever before, and that they shouldn't stop no matter how much you want them to. Just my humble opinion.
I think u should stop thinking about feeling and just feel.... the more u think about it the more its going to effect u so just lay back and relax and just let it happen inseted of anyilzing it
hmmm, i dunno. it seems like he's going to have to get to know your pussy better....sometimes when a girls doing her thing for me, it can feel great, but if she concentrates on the wrong areas at the wrong time..despite the pleasure...i'd never be able to get off, and if i did, it would be uncomfortbale and slightly painful. it sounds like a case of overstimulation...figure out how you get yourself off...then direct him how to do the same.
sometimes my girlfreind can't let me touch her for long periods of time like you mention, i just assumed it was either too sensitive or that she didnt want to "explode" / cum in that way in front of me... she loves it when i touch her when were having sex, but if its oral / fingering it can be a bit much for her, i know she likes it - but i swear she has a cut off point where she doesnt want to show a part of her self (her cum face!) if she asks me to stop - i obviously want to carry on, but i stop and continue to pleasure her in other methods.......... are you scared to cum in front of your boyfriend? or is it something else? i have no idea why she stops sometimes.
Sometimes, I can find that I get so incredibly turned on that I'm so sensitive that it almost hurts...this is the only comparison I can think of from my own experience, and once I get to that point I have to calm down for a little and then will be hypersensitive again, and explosions occur!!!
hmm... thanks for everybody's advice looks like i'm going to have to spend some time by myself hehehe and see how that goes.... and hopefully some time with a guy after that... I was really hypersenstive that night... I hadn't gotten anything physical in over a month (not that that's a long time for me or anything), and was just really really horny, otherwise I probably wouldn't have done anything with him. sooo.... i guess i'll try to get myself off so i can feel comfortable with a guy doing it, and can tell what he needs to do... i guess i just need to learn my body/feelings better
