i don't really know if this is the right place to post this , sry. my boyfriend and i have decided we're ready to have sex, im a virgin and he's got a lot of experience. im not worried about his experience really, im worried about the pain and if i bleed or not. like do you end up bleeding so much that you have to wear a pad or something afterwards? i can deal with pain pretty well its just really the bleeding im worried about and what position do you think is best for first time?
Most importantly wear a condom because you should worry about his past experience? You can get nasty infections out there. Be careful since this is your first time!
bleeding will stop fairly quickly, as far as possitions go..id say you on top dsoyou have much more control of forse..speed..everything like that..you will be rather tight & might make him..be alottle too eager iguess..i think it would be more confy & less painful if you were able to be in vcontrol of how slowly or deeply u were entered at 1st, ..yes a condom is a must, pregnancythe 1st time is possible..safety is key....good luck tou..hope its as wonderful as u hope hugs
thanks guys...i've been on birth control for 4 months though, and we've been "together" for about 4 months...1 month and a bit officially. i trust him when he says he's clean, hes been tested.
trust is great,however..dont quote me onthis but ibelieve hiv takes 6 months to show up on tests.. fine you want totrust, but, this is your 1st time, & youve onlyknownhim a relatively short time..you dont want your 1st time to be a huge mistake..use a condom..please there is nothing at all wrong withmultiple forms of birth control..especialy when 1 also prevents disease there have eenbeen caszes of pregnancy..with 4 forms used..you can never be too careful
It is scary to imagine someone you care enough for to go to bed with might hold something from you as serious as hiv or aids...but it DOES happen. I could never take a partner to bed, knowing I am infected, I would never put them at risk like that. But be careful, don't worry if it doesn't go just as planned, everyone's first time is a bit awkward. Just relax and enjoy. Best wishes.
thanks for your concern guys but i know him well enough that he wouldn't do ANYTHING to hurt me ever, i know deep down inside and a gut feeling really hasn't failed me before. he hasn't had sex for 5-6 months anyways and he told me he used condoms. im going to be moving in with him and such...this is why i don't think a condom is really neccissary, but i will talk to him because you're right, you can never be too careful.
