I think im generally a good person, at least I want to be. but Im very sensitive. And i want to be happy. But easily, alot of things get me down. I have a very low confidence level. Sometimes I must seem bipolar because of it. Ill feel good about myself for a few days and then bam Ill just get rock bottom low again and it permeates negativty. I dont want this at all. I want to be free to live a normal happy existence, okay with myself. Love myself. But its terribly hard. When I get low on myself everyone around me will get hit with my stinky attitude and then its a vicious cycle because ill feel worse about myself after having acted out on my sweet loving family. I cant remember really loving the way I look since as a kid I started noticing the way I look. And this makes me very sad. What can I do. any thoughts?
Cate8, I think this is probably the wrong forum for this discussion. You should check out the mental health forum you will get more help over there. It is just that this isn't strictly a women's issue and I saw that you had no replies. Also, you are not bipolar. Nothing you stated indicates such. And trust me, you don't want to be bipolar anyway.
I believe my cofidence and my beauty come from my heart. I know im a good person, I feel beautiful. I give my peace, and I give my love.
I deal with the exact same issues, Cate. I don't know why it seems so bipolaar, but it really does. sorry I can't be of more help, but I'm still trying to figure out how to deal with it as well. I just wanted to let you know you're not alone.
First off, you're absolutely beautiful, Cate. : ) We all have our days where we're down and low (I know I do...we're only human , especially when it comes to ourselves -- albeit mentally or physically, or both. Best thing you can do is take it one day at a time. Don't let yourself be overwhelmed. If you happen to have a bad day, just like the rest of us... Remember: There's always a tomorrow. ; )
Hey Cate. It's not bipolar issues. What you are describing is run of the mill ordinary depression. Sometimes it can be treated with some of the new drugs, or you can go for a natural cure and try to be more aware when the bad feelings creep up. I was in a relationship where my partner had this exact same problem. Now, I'm in a new relationship (or at least it feels like a new one!) because my partner has learned to control the anger that comes from the downward slope of the depression cycle. Talking about it is important. If you have a partner, talk about it with them and maybe they'll help you be more aware of when you're slipping. The bad news is that short of MAOIs and drugs like Celexa, there are no cures for depression. It's a condition you will learn to live with and control... and by living with it and controlling it, you'll find that you have less episodes. Best of luck, and PM me if you have any questions. I've lived through this 2nd hand, but seeing it from the outside, I could see it more than the person I'm with who had the problem.
i suggest what you should do to build up your confidence in yourself is sign up for soemthing challenging like rock climbing or some form of martial arts or maybe a dancing class. doing something to challege yourself will help you relize that hey i can do this and it will help you build up self confidence and confidence will bring happiness in being with who you are. also what you can do is pick out one little detail that you dont like about yourself (like your nose or that mole on your back or whatever) and everyday tell yourself that you are uniquie because of this and explain to yourself why you are unique cuz no one else has this feature and to be honest i would rather be unique and exciting than being like everyone else. That should help you with some more confidence or self esteem. the emotional stuff i just dont know what you should do maybe go see a specialist or talk to a close friend or family member. HUGS FF
i personaly thinkthis does belong here, because it very muchis anissue that affects women more, or differently then men.. additionaly, your age affects it as welll, some may jump down my throught for saying that, but its the truth, as you develop into womanhood, its natural to look around you at other women & compare yourself tothem, & be like oh, iwishihad her hair..or her eyes or lips or hips or thighs.. and it doesnt help that others around you are doing the same thing....why doyou dress that way, you look like a ______ or whatever..plus at your age, your going throughhormonal changes, and dealling withnew stresses, and new feelings..it can all be overwhelming & results inyou being down on yourself just, remember whoyou are..your a beautiful loving person (physicaly your beautiful as well)whenever you start feeling down, you probably dwell on what you think are faults (theyre not, they are just aspects of youthat make uunique) but you should be reminding yourself atthese times of what youlike about yourself..&ithink you will find theres alot about you to like hugs
