....A relationship in which there is no physical attraction, but two people love eachothers personalities so much that they dont care what each other looks like. You seen the film Shallow Hal? At the end Hal and his girlfriend (cant remember her name) get married and all that even though there wasnt much of a physical attraction. But she had a beautiful personality, (im saying this based on memory, i saw the film years ago). I think there is a proper name for this type of relationship, but do you believe they work, and have you ever been in one? I dont think they work, especially since i have med-high standards, so i have never even had one like that. Please reply with your thoughts.
A non-physical relationship is called a platonic relationship. It can and does work with friendships, but within the confines of a relationship, it will depend on the people involved and what they'd want and expect from that particular relationship. Nine times out of ten, you're going to have one person whom is going to want more than just a platonic relationship -- someone is bound to always get hurt. I couldn't do it, and don't think it would work for me personally, as I need some sort of physical attraction and intimacy to have a fulfilling relationship beyond a mental rapport.
Yea i thought that. Like, i couldnt kiss someone who i dont like the look of. Its hard to explain but i wouldnt do it.
I have..in the past..began a platonic relationship with someone that I wasnt attracted to...but , after awhile, actually fell in love with them for who they were..not what they looked like !!!
Sure can. Though I imagine it's far more likely to happen if one or both of the people identify with being asexual (or close to it), rather than being highly sexual or physical people.
Really? I guess part of it is how shallow you are, and how much looks matter to you. Most people my age wont be in to platonic relationships anyway. I dont know anyone at my school who is going out with someone for their personality alone. Glad it worked for you erzebet1961
I believe that anything can work as long as you try hard enough... Think that personaliy is what makes everything work.. looks are just a plus. I would rather be in love with someone that is not the best looking then someone that is obsseded with that they look like
OK, so just to clarify... A platonic relationship is an non-physical relationship -- as in just damn good friends, no making out, no sex, etc. I don't think that's what the OP is asking about... You reference Shallow Hal -- at the end he not just married but kissed (presumably more) the woman he wound up marrying. As in, he was not attracted to her body, but became so enamored with her personality that she became attractive to HIM. And I'm guessing that's what Erzebet was talking about... Yes, that can and does happen. The lack of initial attraction doesn't even mean that there is no physical attraction going on in the relationship, simply that it is focused on aspects other than what popular culture tells us to focus on. Frankly, when I first met my fiance, I was not physically attracted to him. He is overweight. Beyond that, he's blond with blue eyes -- I much prefer dark hair. He dresses like a fucking preppie. But as I got to know him, I started to look at him differently. And, there was some chemistry there (pheromones and all that, which most of us, myself included, don't really understand). Now, I look at him and see the sexiest man I know. I don't just have sex with him because I love his personality. I love to be with him because, in addition to loving him as a person, I find him incredibly sexy (as in, physical attraction, not just mental). At your age, most dating relationships are going to be pretty shallow. As you mature, you'll learn that appearance is not everything. A relationship without physical attraction should be nothing more than a platonic friendship, but, at some point in their lives, most people find themselves physically attracted to people who they wouldn't have expected to be attracted to at first glance...
Personally I have to be mentally and physically attracted to someone to have a relationship. If it was purely friendship it would not matter. I will say that some people shine from within and they are beautiful people and they deserve as much happiness as the next person. I am, however, shallow and accept my fate Can people still have a happy relationship, well sure they can. Would what was described be much different from people that cannot have sex for medical reasons, but there partner stays with them faithfully?
Yea that is the kind of relationship i was talking about. I hope i become less shallow when im older, because i am pretty shallow now.
