Have you ever had an abortion- please see.

i havent been on for a week or so , i dont really know if someone just made a thread about this or not so get be liek all pissed

im sexually active for most of the months except when i have no bf.. and well.. i wanted to know about the abortion that they dont tell you on the net about.. seeing as i might consider it as a future thing.does it hurt when you have an abortion?and did you feel any regrets about it?what the the cost factor?

i dont want to be barging in your personal lives.. but.. i'd really liek to know before hand since ive had a few scares.

thank you

 

i had an abortion years ago. do i regret it? yes! terribly. do i think it's what had to happen cause of my situation (being homeless, beaten, etc.)-yes!

would I personally do it again? no....

it didnt hurt that much cause i had meds., it's less dangerous then giving birth but please...

dont use it as birth control. that really pisses me off.

 

My mom had an abortion when I was four. She and my dad had just gotten divorced.... yada, yada, yada. Anyways she got pregnant, and decided to have an abortion. She told me just recently about it, I never knew. She said that she still thinks about the baby, and wonders what it would have been like. It still makes her cry sometimes. As far as I know the procedure was painless physically, but not emotionally. I know other people who regret it, and I only know of one that doesn't regret her decision. That particular person has also had more than one abortion. I wouldn’t recommend it, but that’s just me.

 

thank you for writing back interval

yes ill use birthcontrol in other methods.. my friend said that it was very painful .. just liek giving birth but then again he's a guy. and well.. i wouldnt be so sre about it then.

 

nisha...

it's all with whether you decide to pay extra for the pain killing drugs or not?

i choose to. i was knocked out and felt nothing.

 

It's pretty simple. Just don't get fucking pregnant. Of course, there are always exceptions. But please be smart about having sex.

Either way. You're 15 and shouldn't be having sex.

 

wow tree hugger....

well, i was supposed to be an abortion. but.. i guess my mtoher doesnt wonder what id be like.

i'd choose abortion if i was stuck like that.. but hopefully i wont.

some people fuck when their incredibly young...

there's not much we can do to change it.

 

apparently oral contreceptives are banned in japan, and half of pregnancies end in abortion

 

Of course there is something you can do about it. Close your damn legs. Christ.

 

all the women i know and love who have had an abortion have had terrible emotional pain when dealing with the issue. my mother had one when i was 10, for an ectopic pregnancy, our neighbor had two for other severe health reasons. several others for their situation in life. my husband took his ex to get one when they were divorcing. they all become very sad when they think on it. while i'm not pro-abortion, i'm also not into people torturing themselves over decisions they had to make in life. we all have hard decisions facing us, and at least SOME of them will make us cringe when we look back.

 

well, yeah i can, but all those other girls.

well whatever.. i dont want to ague,

 

Don't do it just cause the other girls do it.

Sex just isn't meant to happen at such a young age. You're a smart girl, you should know the risks you're taking by having sex at such a young age.

 

I've been on the guy's side for two of them - and let me tell you, its no picnic emotionally from a males perspective. both situations were with a girl who I had been dating for some time and both situations I was informed that I didn't need to be wearing protection anymore because they were on birth control and we had had recent std tests. In both situations the girls only took the pill after sex as a safe guard - didn't take it full time because they hated how it made them feel.


the first time, I was on vacation when she found out and just went and got it done.

With the second girl, it was two months after we had broken up and she was going the next day the night she told me.

If there is one thing that I want to happen in my life someday, it is to be a father. Neither of these situations were ideal for parenthood - the first girl we were practically broken up as it was and the second we were and my hope is that when I do become a parent it is with a woman whom I will be with the rest of my life. I am pro-choice and respected the decision in both situations.

I would be a liar though if I said I don't think about it from time to time. After the first one, four years ago, I was a mess for weeks. It's not a good feeling to think that for a brief period of time, a child of mine was developing. Like I said, being a father is my greatest dream, so it does way on me that I could be one now, even though its not the situation I desire.

I made the mistake twice concerning not taking every precaution on my end regarding birth control. Maybe hearing this from a guy's perspective will make you realize that this is a serious thing - its not something you'll ever forget or feel completely ok that it happened. DON'T take this situation lightly is my advice to you.

 

there was this show i watched on tv last weekend and its called. my foetus. it shows the life of a women who comes to the decision that she wants to have a abortion. its actually a real documentry and shows the abortion itself. it also talks about pain and regrets. maybe u could read the story online. i will put the link on here. with anything prevention is always better then the cure. i think with anyone. its about respect and bounderies. with anything we do with a action there is always a reaction and it should not matter if some guy told u he was infertile or a women says she can't fall pregnant. always take precautions. take responsibility for urself and what u want and dont want. if you are not on the pill, always respect ur partner and tell them. give them a choice but dont tell them nothing and let them presume you are on the pill. i think sometimes women dont think that men are effected also when they are. it may be a womens body but a man still has a heart and emotions. u can change someones life in a instant when u fall pregnant and not only your own. it goes with an abortion. it may be our body but that foetus was half created by the man. both men and women have hearts and are effected. sometimes people are effected more so then others. just remember when u make a decision to go onto the pill or not. u r not only respecting ur own body and what u want and dont want, but u r also taking ur partner into account also....i have read a few of ur posts and u seem very aware and mature for someone as young as what u r. i dont direct what i am saying on here directly at u but jut talking in general about respect for the person u r with. i think people these days think well if i fall pregnant i will just have a abortion and it will be fixed and i can have a baby later on when i want one. i have known many women, including myself who have had abortions and it has caused scarring on the fallopian tubes and it has caused them so much trouble later on in life when they have wanted to have a baby.....causing eptopic pregnancys and some people having trouble to conceive. later on in life i had a eptopic and the only way to fix this is to have a abortion or i would of died. due to the damage that it caused. i had one ovary removed and a fallopian tube and lost a child that was planned and very much wanted. from that second abortion it has caused even more scarring inside. what im trying to point out here is that yes u can have an abortion but its easier to go on the pill and could save u so much more heartache in life. prevention is better then the cure. why live with regrets when u dont have to.
http://www.abc.net.au/compass/s1172791.htm

 

hey nisha. if ever ur dr offers u to go on that depro needle. its like the pill and u have it every three months so u cant fall pregnant. ask him about the side effects before hand. i have heard of so many women who have had problems conceiving after being on it as it has caused their fallopian tubes to harden, causing eptopic pregnancies. take care

 

I had what they call a 'thearaputic abortion' once meaning to avoid a painfull misscarraige or a risk of death to the mother at birth you are highly encouraged to have an abortion. I guess in my case the fetus wasn't clinging to the uterine wall. It is really painfull physically and I was only 6 weeks along so they didn't have to use machine suction just syryinges like they do with most of them. I don't feel bad becuase I had no other option rather than to have the pain of seeing a miscarraige. Everything happens for a reason though and that happened because I wasn't in a good relationship and wasn't ready fr kids.

 

I never had an abortion. I am not pro-choice or pro-life. Every situation is different.
I have two small children. I love them with all my heart and with every last one of my nerves. As hard as parenting has been for me because of hardly having any help, (other than when my Husband is home), and my children being so close in age, I couldn't imagine not having them in my life. I can't say I would start over right now if I had to either.
I had my tubes tied after my second son was born.
I do not suggest Depo. I gained ton's of weight from that. I lost it all but I still don't recomend it.
If your so sexually active at 15 I would like to make a suggestion if I may. What you do is your Right. Whatever I say please don't take it offensively but with an open mind. You are setting yourself up for disaster if you do not take care of yourself!!!! You MUST have protection of some sort. With today's "Free-Love" I wouldn't risk my life for a good night or few minutes of sex. Men are sleeping with men, women are sleeping with women, they are all sleeping together. What about disease??? Your so young when you really think about it. You might not feel that way now but when your 30 looking back you will think were.
Be smart about what your doing....

 

You'll regret it it.Mostly young girls get abortions,but once their looks fade an all that,and the party scene is done...They'll start thinkin about that baby that could of been here,but it ain't cause she chose to kill it.

I'm not a woman,but If I got a Gf/wife/random girl pregnant,I would want her to keep the baby,I love kids!Why would anyone want to kill their own child?Let the kid live!He/she could be the one who finds the cure for cancer!

If my girl don't want the baby,FUCK YOU then!I'll take care of the kid!Just go live your damn life,the life that is more important than your own kid!