Last night I pay a little visit to my baby's father's house to retrieve some clothing I had left there. I was greeted at the door by his younger sister, who rushed me outside on the porch, away from her parents. She tells me that I cannot have my hoodie back (what I wanted the most) because the little fucker is wearing it himself. Now, keep in mind, I have not seen this girl since I dumped her brother back in july. I use to be close to his entire family (which makes this whole ordeal even worse). His parent's adored me, almost more than their own son. All of the sudden, they refuse to even speak to me. His sister and I talk for about fifteen minutes outside until her father ushers her into the house without even looking in my general direction. To top it off, I am still without my damn clothing. All because I had to go slumming with a boy from the Heights.
Yikes, that is annoying! If you're a bitch about it they'll give you you're clothes back and stop pretending you don't exist... silly, silly, people. What are they so afraid of?
I have no idea. All I have ever done is show that family respect. I had ran errands for them in the past, helped make dinner, clean while his parent's were at work, etc. During one of our break ups in the past, his mother said point blank, "You do not have to be dating our son to come and visit us". Well, I am no longer dating your son, so what happened to that statement? Apparently, I am the family’s dirty little secret now.
That depends HIGHLY upon the type of individuals with whom you associate with. Apparently, (from what I am told by others who know this family, they cling close to grudges and are quite untrustworthy). At first, his mother was upset because I did not return his class ring. I was holding onto it as collateral until I was returned what was rightfully mine. Eventually, I gave it back, yet, my belongings were never returned.
Ok, I believe families can spend all night comparing notes of what they think they know about.. Well just about anybody.. Especially people that have walked in and out of thier lives... So sat down with everybody wanting to know what happened, you can bet your hoodie that lies would have been said to aim accusations and blame back at you.. But you have their child and grandchild at home, and maybe that's where this "dirty little sectret" thing comes from..
The fact is that the child is not even born yet. I told his sister that I would allow him visitation rights whenever he wished. Apparently, that was not good enough for him. He wants to raise the child with his seventeen year old girlfriend (LOL). He cannot take care of a wet dollar bill, or himself, let alone a child. (My boyfriend informed him of that). Not to mention the fact that no judicial system (after seeing his record) would alllow him full custody. He has a personal vendetta against me and now all of the sudden, his parents do as well. Before the drama began, I was (or seemed to be) an adopted daughter to them. All of the sudden, now it's, "Oh, our precious baby boy!" I mean, good Lord, they kicked that boy out so many times while him and I were together for his blantant disrespect towards them. Now, it seems as though they feel pity for him. I suppose it good that someone feels pity for the guy. I mean, he has screwed over so many individuals in his past, I suppose someone has to be on his side.
Don't get me wrong.. I was foolish to date him in the first place, let alone, plan a future with him. I openly admit to that mistake. However, everything has to be his way or he declares world war three.
I thought that was so, got confused for a second. But from where I'm standing it looks like you've got your head on straight and you're doing the right thing for yourself and your baby, and you're being civil and patient with them, so I don't know, maybe they will come around. But try not to let them get to you, seems like they are just dramatic altogether, like they feed on drama. But you may need to be a little more aggressive when it comes to getting things that belong to you. Good luck doll. You might have a battle on your hand, maybe they will surrender when they realize how ridiculous they're being.
Thank you, Honey. This whole ordeal is overly dramatic and blown out of proportion. The court system is not even necessary. We are both aware that we could work this out between us, however, Tommy is just stubborn, pig-headed and still obviously upset with me over the way things ended. I suppose I could be more aggressive, however, I just do not want to add fuel to the fire, or, bring stress upon myself. I do not want to bring the, "baby mama drama".
I feel that from what I have read about your babies father and his family especially the way they are treating you, that you may just need the court system to specify the controlling families involvement with your baby. Do you really feel that you will be able to mutually agree upon a visitation that is going to make him and his family happy? or that he will help pay for the upkeep of the baby, child support, doctor's bills, etc? It doesnt sound to me (from what I have read) that he or his family are going to be willing to really do anything but cause you problems and if things are not set out in stone as to how much time is spent, when its spent or if child support is not set and taken via wage assignment through DCSS, (if the fucker even works) they are going to control everything from now on.
