If a guy offered you a bra as a present

This is mainly to the ladies, although also the guys might comment whether they think that this approach is feasible....

Its about a girl I try to get in contact with, my first approach could be described as a failure (although strictly speaking theres no such thing as a failed experiment because you LEARN something by doing it). Thanks to some, eh, Special Operation I have restored a state were she at least does not put on some sort of insulting grin whenever she see me, so I guess its time to proceed with the next step.

I plan to offer her a voucher for some shop (New Yorker), once saw her with a bag from there so I know she likes that stuff and somehow tell her that I would like her to buy a bra there. Actually the exact wording seems to be the most tricky part to me, my plan is for something like "Hey, they look quite nice, wouldnt it be a shame if they hang down to your knees in a few years ?" You know, something like 25 percent admiration and 75 percent charity (Showing too much enthusiasm for her just made a fool of me in my first approach)

So how would YOU react to such an offer ? Any suggestions for improvement ?



This I edited afterwards:

OK, forget about the bra stuff, if I just give her the voucher without any restrictions: Would it be OK to just throw it into her mailbox with some message like "For the prettiest woman of Africa" or something or hand it over to her personally ? And then what to say to her ?

 

I would laugh at you. Hell I'm laughing at you now.

 

You're a funny dude. What made you venture out of the marajuna forum?

 

OK, although quite rude this IS a description of your reaction, so technically speaking its what I asked for. Now the 1 Million Dollar question: What should I do better ? (I DID mention in another thread that giving up is NOT an option to me, so I just repeat it here....)

 

OK, whats the funny part, the general plan of operation or the wording ?

 

HAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!!!!!!!!! Why don't you just ask her if she would like to go out for a cup of coffee. NEVER mention her breasts. That is the fastest way to be labeled a creep and she will never be interested in you. Unless she is one of those plastic barbie idiots.

 

Well, yes and no:

Plastic: Most probably not, but I will tell you once I had my hands there.

Barbie: They dont make BLACK barbies, do they ?

Idiot: Lets put it this way, its not her IQ that attracts my attention....


Seriously, judging from her own behaviour Im sure that she is (rightfully) proud of her whoppers, the question is just HOW to proceed. As I said before the direct approach did not work at all...

 

Even if she is proud of them I'm sure she doesn't want the creepy kind of attention.

 

OK, but faking to be interested in conversation with her would surely backfire - what Im supposed to say to her ?

"Hey, whats your estimation, how long it will take until they have the first confirmed detection of gravitational waves ?"

Sorry if I was too lazy for typing and providing some background: She lives in the same house as me, and the neighbourhood could be described most precisely as scum... Only difference is, she really LIVES there (and fits in there), while for me its just a convenient and affordable place to reach university (my parents do have a very nice house and I still have my own room there, but its too far away from Munich to commute from there every day). Im studying physics while she, well dont know... Im not saying what I did in my other thread cause I dont want to sound like an arrogant asshole but there really IS NOT much what I could talk to her, I find her attractive, thats all, and Im definitely sure she would be honoured by my attention once she finds out about me !

 

I suggest you work on cultivating an immunity to mace.

 

Yes, they do make black barbies. And commenting on her boobs hanging to her knees isnt gonna get you any. Hell, Id feel weird accepting a gift certficiate for a store from someone Im not supe rclose with (and even then, only really appropriate for gifty times, like birthdays or xmas). Even creepier having someone tell me I shoudl buy a bra with the money they give me. Basically, if that happened, Id be contemplating getting a restraining order, if me telling them to fuck off didnt work.

 

hahahaha


i suggest going out with her first, getting to know her is probably the best first step, if you just buy her a bra that would, in my mind, be a little borderline creepy

 

OK, I would think this would be clear from what I posted above, but just for the record: Im planning to SEDUCE her, not to RAPE her, OK ?

 

wow, please be joking. that little comment there will not make her attracted to you in anyway. i can guarantee that. actually that is a really horrible comment. little nice comments on how good we look are okay. little nice ones. but usually guys who give those aren't really relationship material. we just enjoy them complemeting us alot. its okay to show her your interested. not okay to oogle over her. and showering her with too much attention and showing her you will do anything for her isnt really that great. unless this is just a wham bam thank you mam thing. most girls don't want a guy they can control. that is not attractive or manly. be a man. but a good man. dont be a wuss. p.s why are you buying her a gift anyway? and if u are. dont suggest she buy a bra. and if you really have to say something like, i saw some pretty sexy bras there that would look great on you. and thats only if you feel you REALLY have to. because even that comment is kinda creepy, since she dosnt know you. so if u already talked about her boobs to her, chances are she got the hint you like them. and it wouldnt be good to make another comment on them. that would be really bad. she knows you like them. you should show her you have some self control now. and if you keep on talking to her about her tits after you already got turned down once by talking about the same thing would be really stupid.

 

Hate to say it, but if anyone's going to post a thread like this in here, it would be GermanLoveMachine.

I, personally, wouldn't mind getting a nice bra or something as a gift, but from a husband or boyfriend. And not followed with some kind of a crass comment like "Hey, they look quite nice, wouldnt it be a shame if they hang down to your knees in a few years."

In any other situation, it's just weird. If it were me, I would honestly thing it's more than a little strange to be offered any kind of lingerie by someone whom I'm not dating or married to.

lol... well put.

 

bra? whats that?? have you seen me? do i really look like i need a bra? two bandaids would do the trick

 

OK this may sound like its off topic but in fact it isnt at all:

By "Creepy" you mean something scary, like in "Jeepers Creepers" if you know the movie ? Or "Creepy" in the sense of "slimy" like a slimy animal, a snake or something ?

 

clearly, creepy in the sense of 'slimy', or better yet, bordering on thinking that said person might be a bit of a jerk.

If you want to give a woman a gift, and you're not in a relationship with her, something that would be much sweeter and considerably more appropriate would be something a bit more romantic, like flowers or something.

 

OK, she DOES know I like her tits. Frankly said, the bra thing was meant as a kind of bridgehead, say if she bought one from my money for the second time I might make it clear that Id like to know how it looks on her and so on. If I just give her the voucher and she buys some pair of shoes or other shit I dont see the roadmap into her panties to put it frankly. But you definitely do have some points, so perhaps this is better than nothing.

By the way, the very strategy you suggested I have already implemented: Instead of showering her with my attention, I made her interested in ME. Carrying some textbooks with me was a clear failure. But then I discovered that a mobile phone can be even more usefull if you keep it switched off: Slowly passing her and talking some shit like "I know that studying physics is hard, but just imagine how we will be drowning in money in a few years" into my (switched off) phone at least made her stop grinning at me ! So now she thinks that I at least will have lots of money in the future, buying some stuff for her seems to be the logical next step.

 

How is buying her stuff now the next logical step?

How are you not coming across as some kind of a sleeze?

Or am I the only one who thinks all of this is incredibly shallow?

If you want to impress a woman, complimenting (or even just commenting) her tits isn't the way to go, whether you think she wants you to or not. If she wanted you to, really, she would say something to initiate it.

Showing off that you have a cell phone or that you can (or potentially will be able to) afford STUFF means very little. All you're doing is coming across shallow and arrogant.