I have an advice column called "Ask Da Orcs" http://www.orcmagazine.com/ORC_MAGAZINE/Ask_Da_Orcs.html ...People write with various problems and six Orcs respond. It's like "Dear Abby", but... er... with Orcs. A short time ago I got an email from a 16 year old kid who thinks he might be gay. He seems rather upset about it and I want him to get some good advice for a change. I'm at a loss as to what to say to this poor kid. Here is the email he wrote: "Dear Orcs, I'm a 16 year old human male and I'm scared. I am scared because I'm afraid that I might be gay. I like some of my friends who are boys and that bothers me a LOT. I WANT to like girls. But I have feelings for some of my friends who are boys and not for any of my friends that are girls. (Like that deep feeling in our stomach kind of feeling.) I find myself being sad a lot... Not just because I'm scared that I like boys, but also that I can't be with any of them. I'm sure it sounds weird but I'm scared and it makes me cry. I don't know what to do about these feelings. I don't wanna sound wimpy, because I'm not, but this is the only thing that's ever made me this upset. There is one friend in particular that I like and I don't know if I should talk to him or get to know him better because I've only known him a short while. Should I tell him how I feel? If so, how? Thank you and sorry if I was rambling." - "Scared" Can anyone here think of some good advice the "Ask Da Orcs" panel could give to this kid? The 6 Orcs on the A.D.O. panel are a diverse group, so any material will "fit" one or more of the characters. I'd be particularly interested in anyone with advice that might be helpful to this guy, but I'd also like to hear any funny, gross, intellectual or silly responses you might have too. (As I said, it is a diverse panel of Orcs.) http://www.orcmagazine.com/ORC_MAGAZINE/Ask_Da_Orcs.html
I can't say anything to the lad except that he must try to accept who and what he is and find an environment where his feeling for other lads is acceptable and welcomed. He mustn't be scared or sad, but take pride in who he is. And good luck, lots of love and peace. My 16 y/o son is going through the same realisations and it's very hard sometimes for him.
Thank you, that was not bad. But I'd still like some more people to give some advice too. Anyone have anything to say?
Orcs are known for liking the taste of manflesh. For the serious orc, PFLAG may have a local chapter or something so your correspondant can talk with people in the same situation. His school councelor might have that info on file.
Hmm I'd advise him to either find a group of teens dealing with the same thing and join up, or talk to his councilor at school if he's comfortable., and as far as the friend is concerned, just to take his time and get to knowhim before mentioning anything about feelings etc.
ask the kid if he can honestly see himself in a relationship with one of his friends. can he picture going to school and holding his hand and kissing him in front of all his other friends. he may not be gay at all, he may just really enjoy the company of his friends. he might like hanging out with them too much because he has so much fun with them that he never wants to be anywhere else but with them. maybe the reason he hasn't had any interest in girls is because he doesn't know how to approach them. he might feel more comfortable around his own friends and enjoys hanging out with them more. he could also be bi sexual. he should just go with his heart. he'll figure it out over time. dannayelli
he could also be bisexual too. At that age i think boys as well as girls have to experiment who they really are and it takes a toll on them emotionally. Eventually he'll figure out who he is.
