Okay, I've always held that if you have to ask yourself if you're gay -- you probably are ... So today, for the first time in a while but not in a long while, I started to ask myself if I'm not at least bisexual. I have attraction for men (oh that Johnny Depp ...) and have had successful sex -- but only really with one man. Some of the other experiences have been physically fun, but most of them have just ... been. (I've literally made mental grocery lists and composed term papers to myself while having sex. Is that a bad sign or what?! ) And I do not feel comfortable being in an emotional relationship with, asking for emotional connection from, or even feeling emotions for, a man. I feel too guilty about it, because what they want always seems to be at extremes (either they want me to be their property or they want to use and abuse me) -- and I feel guilty for not agreeing to either pole. But I do find women very attractive ... and I can imagine having the kind of relationship I want (friendship with deep emotional connection) with a another woman. I don't have any hangups, such as stigmas about homosexuality (I'm a gay-rights advocate and so open-minded I sometimes worry myself), I'm just not sure if I'm "really" bisexual or just ... building castles in the air. Can anyone relate, from their own experiences?
No, but does that matter? Do people have to have sex with the opposite sex to know they're straight? At this point, I don't even like straight sex -- so the sex is not an issue for me at all. It would be fine with me if a partner didn't even want to go beyond kissing and cuddling.
Exactly I don't think it matters at all. just go with the flow, with who ever comes along that you find actractive, as its been said in countless other threads round here, don't feel the need to label yourself. are you turned on by men and women if you are, then to go right back to the beginning of this thread, your probably bi S
im sort on the same boat. but i dont really consider myself bi. i can be attracted to both male and female. but different ways, which makes my life so complicated. when im attracted to a girl, obviously there are the physical features, but mostly it is an emotional connection. i couldnt think of me having sex with them. now with guys, i like the thought of having sex with them. but it is something not necessary for me. the connection is more physical, but can be emotional as well. but i personally rather have an emotional connection than physical. and you might say, then why not just stay with girls, i guess the physical aspect is important too.loves how im confusing myself though. this whole topic has just revealed my situation with myself. never the less, i still pick guys over girls. im so weird.
