Treating her like shit

Ok..so my gf(for now) has always been a bitch, except for when i lean towards treating her like shit. I feel like, if im really sweet and nice to her it only back fires in my face and she is a bitch/doesnt appreciate how nice i am.

I kind of feel like she is laughing about how much i care about her and im starting to regret my strongly nice attidue towards her, and im noticing that she might be looking for someone who isnt so nice all of the time, im not sure whats going on in her head but im thinking that she wants me to start acting like a jerk. Keep in mind though that im not a total pussie, and she gets some shit every now and then, but maby not enough.

This is a long distance realtionship though, but she is coming down here on the 8th. I guess i will just treat her like shit for a while and maby she will start appreciating how nice i am, or maby she will use that as an excuse to call it off. time will tell.

 

dude, don't be anything but yourself for anyone. if she doesn't like you the way you truly are (which you seem like you're not an ass and acting like one doesn't come naturally) she never will like you. just break up with her. don't lower yourself to her bitchy level.

 

i like a guy who's balanced. he is opinionated and confident in himself and a nice guy at the same time. however, all the men i meet lately are trying to be either one thing or another for the ladies and aren't really being themselves, so it makes it confusing. i think this guy should leave his gf because she sounds mentally unstable. don't act like a dick just to get her attention. if she treats you like shit now, she'll treat you like shit always. don't lower yourself to her level. and trust me, not all women are like that.

 

Remember this, nice guys finish last and chicks like dicks!

Fuck her and dump her! Make sure you do her at least once.
The 3 Fs, find em, fuck em, and forget them.
Use her as bait to attract another chick! Chicks like guys with gfs. they'll see you as bf material and try to steal you from her. You know the commitment routine.

It's like the other dude said she sounds crazy and she'll walk all over you. Pretend you don't want her, she'll take it as a challenge and try to prove why you should want her. Then fuck her and dump her.

If you keep being "nice" to her she'll walk all over you! Some chicks as screwed up as they are need to continually test their man to see if he stands up for himself or continues taking her shit. If you do take it (nice guy) she'll judge you as a whimp and she'll go and find someone else who smacks her ass just the way she likes it!

Chicks like this need to be kicked to the curb!



bustramp

 

You guys dished out some great advice.

 

i agree with all the advice above. go find a girl who will appriciate you; we are looking for you too!

 

haha thats the same advice my bro gave me..i thought about it and im not the type that can do that real easily, and let go. Cause i have put alot of effort in to this relationship and im looking for someone i can commit to rather then just fuck and forget about. but i guess its kind of leading towards that situation anyway..

 

That is not true, some girls really do like nice guys. I have dated the assholes or the self-proclaimed bad guys, it didn't work. I am the dominant one in the relationship though. It is all about balance. Some date their opposite, while some date people just like them, etc. It is about whatever works for you-

Like said in the above posts, you have got to be yourself and keep it real!

 

I think if you guys wonder why girls don't put a lot into relationships with guys, it is because of some of the advice given here, all of the games.

It sucks for the guys that don't play games, but if girls think that all guys are like this, they're not going to put a lot of trust into any relationship with a guy.

 

That should be enough for ya there.

I am not one to fuck and dump either. You have to think though, you are looking for someone to commit. Do you think when you marry a bitch that they become pleasant? I know you have put a lot of work into this relationship but you need the right person to commit to, not just anyone. A bitch will bring you nothing but anguish over the years. Let her down, then find someone that is truely nice/fits with your personality and then work on a good commitment with someone who is worthy and has potential.

 

Chicks test guys because they're insecure and constantly need to be reassured or they feel unloved. A chick needs a man to tell her what her thoughts are. Now you can see the sickness and disease that infects most chicks minds!




Bustramp

 

The OP is "looking to commit to" this woman who treats him badly unless he "treats her like shit."

So he is looking for a long term relationship where at least one of the parties is being nasty to the other one.


Please, please, please use effective birth control. This relationship is a disaster in the making. It does not need a baby in the middle of it.

After you get your ya-yas out and find out what relationships based on dominance are like, then you can find a woman who you can partner with rather than command.

 

So you are saying its not his attitude, but his choice of girlfriend. As that may be, I hope that he finds a better relationship than the one described.

 

You will find in many relationships (works either Male or Female) if a person was abused in child hood they will return love with abuse.
It is a programming thing from how they grew up.
When they were young they would extend love and then be abused. So later in life when they are in relationships if they are offered love they think the proper response is abuse. So if they are treated badly they return love.

 

I kind of feel like she is laughing about how much i care about her and im starting to regret my strongly nice attidue towards her,

This is a long distance realtionship though, but she is coming down here on the 8th. I guess i will just treat her like shit for a while and maby she will start appreciating how nice i am, or maby she will use that as an excuse to call it off. time will tell.[/QUOTE]
I would suspect that she is seeing and fucking someone else in her hometown and comparing you to him and that's why she's laughing! Chicks will do that sort of shit. Fuck her if you can, try to dump her, she'll come back for more!

But I only suspect it. There's no way to tell for sure.


Bustramp

 

Dude you got your life in front of you. Women will come and go, some good and some not so good. Take this as a learning experience and Cut It Lose. You don't need the drama, life has enough of that on it's own. Just have fun man.

 

Im not saying she is actually laughing..but thats kind of how i feel, i dont know, lately her attitude has changed and she has started to show me alot more respect...our relationship isnt that secure and it seems like every couple of days we get a little bit further.

So after she comes home for the weekend i probably wont see her for about a month, maby sooner. So after this weekend i will just pay attention to the way she acts i will know for sure if something is wrong, or if she is fucking with someone else, although thats not what i suspect cause i trust her..but i will just wait it out and see how things go i guess..if i dont like whats coming i will consider and probably use the advice posted here.

I have tried calling it off like 3 or 4 times because of my suspicions..but she always changes my mind...saying how much she loves me..and she knew i would do this to her...so i know she does care, im just not sure how much.

 

Judging 2 or 3 of the posts here, I'm guessing SOME of you guys NEVER have girlfriends....

If she wants an asshole, and you don't have the heart to do it, maybe you should move on. Some chicks just can't see that they need a good man (Well, not NEED a man....just need one....?) and they'll keep getting the jerks until they wake up and realize they should've been more nice to the nice guys. I went through it....it's like Drew said....if you're raised in an abusive-ish situation, you return love with hate. It takes a lot to snap out of it....but it's possible.
It sounds like you should find someone that appreciates you and wants a good relationship like you.
Good luck, man. And, if you really dig this chick and want to keep her around, I hope everything works out for you.

 

Yeah, this is becoming a situation of overkill. Do what feels right. Good luck with your ladyfriend!

It was a good question though it brought everybody out.

Take care!



Bustramp

 

She sounds kinda like me, LOL! I can't help it, but when I guy is way to nice to me I just don't trust him. Most of my bad experiences have been with "NICE" guys. Guys who speak their mind, are a little rough around the edges...you know where you stand with them cause you don't have to do any guesswork.

Good luck, check in with us.