So the wife and I are watching Castaway, and I asked her what she would do in the situation at the end of the move... ***Spoil alert*** (if you haven't seen castaway and are planning on seeing it, don't read on) So at the end, when tom hanks comes to helen hunt's house (tom's been gone for 4.5 years, stuck on an island after a plane crash, everyone thought he was dead, so his sweetheart moved on and got married to someone and had a kid, and then tom gets off the island, gets back home and goes to her place to see what's what) and they talk, and they kiss in the rain, and ultimately they decide to stay apart, she'll continue her life, and he'll move on too. I asked if she would do the same or would do differently, she said she would leave the husband and go to the old flame that returned. I said I would want the wife to stay for the sake of the kid. But I'm now thinking maybe it wouldn't work because her heart is with the other guy. I dunno. But ANYWAYS... what about you guys; would you leave your spouse if someone who you thought was dead from an accident returned into your life, but you've moved on, and gotten married and had a kid... what would you do?
I would never leave my life-partner and father of my children for the tiny chance of getting something back that was lost a long time ago. Doesn't matter the circumstances, people change in time, and neither one of us would be the same people we had been years ago. If I were still pining over lost love, that would make my current relationship a rebound, and that's not a good thing for anyone involved, especially not for the children who are learning about love and marriage by watching their parents who are pretending to be together for the sake of the kids.
i think that to have moved on and started a new family in the first place, you (or i atleased) would have to have come to terms with the circumstances and accep them. sure, the heartache would probably linger for many years to come, but when you start a new life like that, you have to put your all into it. as painful as it would be, and not quite the fairy tale ending that society thinks should be put on stories such as these, i would stay with the new life i had created for myself. everything happens for a reason.
It's really no different then an ex coming back to tell you that they were wrong in things they did and they want you back. By that time your with someone else-no I wouldn't leave them. Besides Tom Hanks (in that movie) made out pretty good and that new chick was much hotter anyway. Plus after he had sex with Wilson for years who would want him anyway?
Child or no child once I had made the choice to move on with my life I'd stick with it. When you try to go back things are never the same. I've found in my life it's better to move forward.
I think I would have to stick it out with the new spouse if that relationship was in good health. If their were no children involved though I would have to think about it.
Frankly, it may sound childish or juvenile, but if I found out that my "one true love" was actually alive, I don't know how I could live peacefully without him. If my second husband "truly" loved me, he would let me go where my heart needs to be.
yeah I think it depends on where the heart really is. If you have moved on in appearance only and not truely fallen in love with the new person, then I'd consider going back. But if you really have moved on and met someone that you have a deep connection with, then it doesn't matter if the other person comes back because that was then and this is now. people come and go from our lives for a reason, hopefully they have helped us to learn and grow. personally though i don't think i could move on in 4.5 years and have a husband and a family already. that would be just about the time when i'd be able to start dating again i think.
If I had moved on with my life I would not destroy my family in the hopes of regaining a lost love. It seems so sweet and romantic to think of going back, but the reality is that it probably wouldn't work. Yup, I would stay with my current love, and wish the other person the best in life. Perfect example is that I still have a place in my heart for my ex, but I would never leave my husband to try and rekindle our past love. I wish him all the joy and happiness that life can bring, but who I was with him is not who I am now.
Shit man... No fucking way would I even be able to move on if my husband crashed into the middle of the ocean and never found his body. How could anybody find closure in that, not only that, but look at how old her kids are in the movie, that was four years, she must of met that guy like the minute he crashed into the ocean. SHIT NO. I think that maybe once you lose the love of your life, I wouldn't be able to find another one. What about when you die and my first husband is sitting on a rock up in heaven waiting for me, meanwhile I've been having a relationship with another guy. I just can't picture it all being played out in heaven like that. Do you know what I'm saying? Dannayelli
Thats funny Drew and that chick in the end was pretty hot. Has anybody ever told you that your pretty hot to and that you kind of look like Willie Nelson? Dannayelli
I agree with the others. it depends on whether you had moved on emotionally or not. I'm presuming she had, so I'd say no, I owudn't leave my husband and kid to pursue something with the old love, but I would if I was still emotionally attached to them. I definitely agree with Danniayelli about not being able to find closure with his not being found and all, I'd always wonder...
At that point you could pick up the relationship again. Just keep in mind that something like that changes a person it wouldn't be the same. Your never the same person you were lets say even 2 years ago, under the best of conditions.
I thought how sad it would have been to be in their situation..... but mostly I wonder how her husband felt. Knowing that his wife's former "true love" has suddenly come back after being thought dead............ Im sure it would be very painful for him ... wondering if he may now lose his wife to her former love. To yet sympathise with her loss as well, if she remains in the marriage. But mostly ..... That he would not be in her life at all if the guy hadnt went disappearing 5 years before. I'll bet he felt like her second choice. 2nd best. That sort of thing. The equivalent of 2 people in a relationship and one knowing that the other has never gotten over a previous love. Its something that could haunt for the rest of their lives. Such a sad situation.
