Hello! I am new to Hip Forums but it looks like you have a fairly nice community built up and I hope to stick with them and perhaps become a regular here. Regardless, I was in search of some advice after a bad encounter with my current girlfriend a few days ago. So here we go. A few days ago my girlfriend told me she wanted me to try anal with her... She told me she would really like it and hoped it woulden't frighten me away. In truth it is something I have always found extremely arousing and so I eagerly agreed... So anyways, I had her get on her knees and using the only semi lube-ish thing I had at the time (baby oil, not sure if that was a bad idea or not) tried to push myself inside of her... And failed. She was just so tight I really had a hard time. We tried a few more times and in 1 other position (missionary) and we still just coulden't get me inside of her. We ended up just giving up for the day and finished off normally. She told me after it was alright though and that we would make it work another time. I just wanted to know if anyone has had a simmilar experience with anal and if you could possibly give me any tips. Maybe a differen't type of lube? Any advice on positions? It is just sort of hard not to freak out when she is pretty much screaming in my ear to fuck her ass and we both fail to perform. Haha Any responses would be greatly appreciated. --EnjoytheAbuse
Tips: Massage her anus, after she cleans, and before play, just massage it. Use water based lubes. Push one finger in her anus, and move it around. Then two. She should be ready right about now, So use ALOT of lube. Lock her into bondage(so she cant wiggle) Or get her to lie down, with her face in a pil low and ass in the air. Go in gently, then have fun.
I hope the experience didn't spoil things for the two of you. Anal can be great, but only if the lady either is experienced in the field, or is absolutely trusting of you not to hurt her. First, baby oil is not good. Grease-based lubes are simply not good for the job. Get a real lube, such as KY or Astroglide, and use LOTS! Next, a condom is simple sexual ettiquette. If she says "Don't bother", then that's fine, but remember this is the number one sexual vector for transmitting HIV. Be smart. But I admit that some women simply don't like the feel of latex even with lube. Make the decision together. And did I say "use lots of lube"? Do you get the idea that this is important? Some couples actually use a tapered syringe to apply a quantity internally for her, as this keeps the lube plentiful and doesn't interrupt the action for a re-application. Go slow. If she can't relax, back off. Never force it. Entry is the most difficult part. Once you're in, then it should be much easier for her, and hopefully extremely enjoyable. Some women experience g-spot orgasms from anal when they don't otherwise. Finally, combine the anal with vaginal/clitoral stimulation of some kind. Toys are fine, but your hand can useful at a time like this. Take your time. It may take several tries, but if you succeed (and success in my book involves at least one orgasm for BOTH parties), then you'll have increased your sexual intimacy considerably. Above all, have fun. "If it ain't fun, don't do it." Yours, in service, Foxes Den
Thanks for the advice. Yesterday I was we were both finally able to make it work. I forgot to pick up lube before hand and didden't really feel like running over to CVS so I just spat on my hand, rubbed it around her ass and had her get me nice and slick before we started. I had her get on her hands and knees and slowly started to push up against her. She said it hurt a bit so I stopped but immediately after I pressed again and popped the entire way in. It was so fucking tight, I knew it would be but I had no idea it would feel that good. She really started getting into it and was bucking all alround and then spontaneously she got up and began to give me a blowjob worthy of an award. She got back on her knees and had me finish up in her ass. We cleaned her up and then fell asleep soon after.
Here is some advice: Do not put anything in your bum or in someone elses bum. Just dont do it at all.
Judging from the response before yours, ElProximo, I'd say your advice was a bit too late. And ETA, congrats! Glad you got it to work in spite of the obstacles. Now, get your bum ass out there and buy some lube! Jeez!
