She is returning....some much i want to do, slightly odd obsticals

It was a short summer fling, and with minor details that placed it off the normal track, she was the closest relationship for me that been the most like others. and it went quite well, she had leave and we went our ways and left most we did behind

it was a simple 2 day relations, that didn't proceed past lips and touching

i put it behind me, i moved on pretty easily but then comes the tinge of a problem

frist of all she is my 2nd cousin, and i knew i would see her again in a year and a year from now seemed like decades and so i would just build over when i saw her then, but an event has come up, and she is coming back, and things complicate a little bit

frist off my brother knows what happened, and he doesn't approve, on two differnet accounts and his silence is the relationship, well as long as he doesn’t talk to her

frist off he knows my realtionship records, in some part, and he belives that i took advantage of her which i did not such things everything was mutual, but he belives that i forced her into things and took advantage becasue she was lonely, and i somehow used it to obtain her, which is seriously not true

-- she is one year younger then me, true she does have some confidence promblem (she one of those people you know who think their stupid when their really not, they give in easy on mental anythings) but then how many high schoolers don't have issues

--she recently ran away from home becasue her father took custody of her after leaver her mother when she was young, (she lives with my great aunt up north) everyone has promblems and if anything i think i helped her, she did have tinges of sadness, some silents when we she wasn't covering up with similes, and we all have promblems

2ndly and simply she is related to me, which doesn't bother me at all

personally, he is just a prune who has forgotten what it's like to be alone

but enouph about him

i do want to hook things up again but i really don't want to come off as too strong or too physical but she only going down for a weekend, if i could i would kiss as soon as we were alone, but it been about month since we were together and basically should i talk to her frist and slowly ease my self back in? is this too much to ask because you know to little about our fling? i really don't want to be shallow about her but i really want to get really close to her, and i won't pussyfoot around it but i want to fuck her, and if everything wasn't so knew to me last time i might of, but trust me that it’s not evil it’s natural desire right? i mean sex is a natural impulse, and i'm guy and of course i want to take it further.
long long if you read it thx two weeks till she come gosh, so many things to wonder
it's coming back to me, all the ways i really love her.
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i saw only once before when i was younger, she was 10 and i was 11, we hanged out but back then i was very shy and not very articulate. Me and my brother baby sat her two younger brothers, and her. I think i liked her, well back then she was happy, and untroubled, she brought up the mood of the moment, and around her i felt relaxed, safe, and amused becasue it was a boring wedding week filled with "adult" parties (the boring kind) we danced one night(at one of those adult parties), that was when i really felt close i never of course said anything i was young fearful and i thought my feelings were wrong. Rectenly when she laughs, are was very relaxed and content, i brought back that side to her. i live near the beach, i told her how unbelivable the sands looked at midnight on a clear night. By bad chance it was a cloundy weekend she never got see the stars, or the moon reflected in the sea. and now when i see a clear night it makes me sad, that she couldn't be here with me

 

i think that your brother may be just creeped out at you becomeing involved with someone who is related. to be honest, that would be questionable to me, too. however, it IS your decision. no one else has to like your relationship other than you and the girl. is she coming back for a long time? or is she leaving again soon? if this is going to be just another '2 day fling', id say take it easy. and if its not going to be a fling, id still take it easy. build a RELATIONSHIP!

i tihnk its a normal impulse to want to become intimate with her, but its something you should act on ONLY when the time is right (meaning after a real relationship has been established) and when the both of you are ready. good luck with everything!

 

I agree with the above pster as to why your brother would be creeped out, and yeah that would creep me out a little to but hey, it's between you two anyway

As for advice: take it slwow and get to know her. Sure it's a natural desire to want to be with her, but wait until when / if a relationship develops between you rather than rushing things.

 

prevent the girl from getting her heart ripped out, can you really see cousins being together. just picture your sister dating your cousin or something. i don't know man, it's too weird. if you did end up in a relationship with her, i'd take your love to another state far far away from all the other relatives. how do you know she hasn't changed a bunch since you last saw her? a year is a long time to be away from somebody you know, especially if they were still a teenager when you last saw them, people can change drastically in a year. just be careful and remember there are plenty of girls out there that you aren't related to.

dannayelli

 

20 Years from now it is the things you didn't do you will regret-not the things you did.
Bless it for what it was and what it wasn't and move on.

 

The brother being creeped out probably has more to do about his past relationships, like the OP mentioned.

And with a track record like the thread below, I find it understandable that he's concerned for the cousin.

http://www.hipforums.com/forums/showthread.php?t=99993

 

Thanks for drawing my attention to that thread; no wonder the brother has reservations! That's just sick! How could anyone consider rape ok?

 

well she is my second cousin so we're not really that related, yeah frist cousin would be slightly weirder

yeah i didn't think that i would see her untill a year from now but she is coming back in 2 weeks, she was only be gone for month total so not much time went by

yeah i don't want to emotional cripple her, i really don't want her to feel i used, espically since i will be seeing her periodically

in many ways i really like her, also the fact that she likes me draws me towards her a little more

this next visit is another short one alone a weekend, and like one of you said i don't want to regret what i don't do; i've never really been with anyone at my school, everyone been outside of that place. And they are race incidents, and never really get to far, so maybe i'm influenced by the pure want of that type of contact

 

"but i want to fuck her"

" i mean sex is a natural impulse, and i'm guy and of course i want to take it further"

It is also natural for people to assume that you are a pig because you are so concerned about getting a piece of ass from your second cousin that you claim to like, and who has confidence problems . Why not just enjoy the visit and stop thinking with your dick. If it is something that is meant to happen it will, but why push it.

If she is insecure and you knew it but still chose to "go there" your brother might be right in his opinion of you. Heck, who am I to say that you are wrong. Maybe using her for your own sexual gratification will really help boost her self esteem. If that happens maybe aliens will land in my backyard and give me the cure for cancer. If you care for her at all try to put her feelings before your desire to get laid.

By the way, if you decide to screw your second cousin and people at your school find out guess what your chances of ever having a date will be. Few people will overlook the "cousin" aspect, even if she is a second cousin.

 

those were some funny words, and in most points you hit it right on the head, but that the point i know the wrong points but like so many other things in life i don't feel that compelled to stop becasue of them

the confidence promblem thought i mean i have confidence promblem, we all have confidence promblems, it's more like a phase in life then a promblem. then actully i would still be exploiting that point in her life.....well my goal is not justify it but to ask simply i guess, how should i procced to get back to where we where in the least amount of time, but no i do like thoughts on my conduct also it's all arbitrary till she gets her so i would like to talk this out

the 3rd larger text really doesn't i belive apply, i've talked to some freinds, if their cousin was hot they would be with them, sry i use the words hot because it makes me seem more like an ass, but their are parts of me that really don't want to be an ass; but any guy at my school who saw how hot she was would condone me, not that i really care anyways
i'm going to edit the frist post add something that does play a part in my affection

 

Well, do a lot of guys like her? Or is she kind of a loner? I guess I don't really know the situation that well to tell you no or yes. The only thing I can tell you is to go with your heart. Sometimes you just have to let things go in life even if it means letting the rope go. You'll end up protecting a lot of people in the long run. You'll see, time will go by really fast and you will look back and be glad that you made the right decision. You might wonder what would have been, but just remember that if it wasn't this then it'd be something else.

Dannayelli

 

i don't really know she lives far away, and last we talked i avoided boyfriend talk, but if i had to guess, she must be liked, but maybe she is a loner who is liked by a lot of guys, i've never seen her when she around her school freinds. a lot of times people act differnt, and i bet she does compared when she was with me.

 

What kind of relationship could you possibly have with her after she leaves again?

Dannayelli

 

i guess one that was only active maybe twice a year, lol

i couldn't; all or nothing i guess, but anyways this post made me realize why i like her, and how i feel, so i'll wing it like everything else in life

 

Good luck with that. Let us know how it goes.

 

i'm so excited/anxious she will be here in two days, she said she wants to go to one of my games (i play football) that the frist almost postive thing i've heard, i just really don't want this to turn out bad or weird. Dam i have no one else to talk to save you guys she is kind of sensitive material so much to do but i'm so overloaded with emotions

i'll prob post what happens after i see what happens

 

FUCK, fuck fuck, i felt i needed to end this thread, and even though i type fuck that feeling is quite fleeting and i don't feel that bad; anymore at least. I think the worst that could've happened came quite close

it was akward and i went i little crazy, but basically she got a boyfreind like a week later and they been together till now

she was using her brother as a barrier between us most of the time, she was not repeeled by me though and connected but so very little when we talked we went into one another, and when we went walking on the beach she let me warm her, man her brother was so annying; but it didn't matter she was taken and she really likes they guy

one of those i "love" after 3 weeks bah, i held her one last time, pretended she was mine for a few seconds and then re-relased from my mind, evacted ejected i guess as along as she feel fine, i've live to see another, i wish i had a weaker mind, that wouldn't mind this so much, to her mazeltof- and some sembelance of a good time