should i tell my mom

Discussion in 'All in the Family' started by Peace Attack, Aug 31, 2006.

  1. Peace Attack

    Peace Attack Make War

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    that my dad's still cheating?
     
  2. nimh

    nimh ~foodie~

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    tell your dad you know he's still cheating and that you think he should tell her.

    ps, i wouldnt want to get in the middle of that.
     
  3. cutelildeadbear

    cutelildeadbear Hip Forums Gym Rat

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    Depends, do you think it will make a difference? If I told my mom my dad was the devil and he killed millions of people she would still believe she is in love with him. He cheated on her so many times I couldn't even count. He has moved out for over 2 years now and she still has the delusion that he is coming back to her.

    If you think it will help her stand up for herself and get out of the situation, then maybe you should, but like nimh said, it might be better to talk to your dad first rather than be the messenger. Sometimes people shoot the messenger and she might think you are "trying to hurt her". If it is going to hurt her or cause her to go nuts like my freak of a mom, then no, lie your ass off. You know absolutely nothing.
     
  4. purplesage

    purplesage Ah, fuck it...

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    I agree with Nimh. I would steer clear.
     
  5. Brand New Soul

    Brand New Soul Senior Member

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    I told my mom I think that my dad is cheating on her provided her with my evdence....did she believe me yes. Did she confront him yes.....Did anything ever get solved or even an onuce change...hmm nope... But Id tell. my mom desreves the best....all though for some reason she is always running in the wrong direction.

    But this is your choice, Id tell personally.
     
  6. pita225

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    listen to nimh i would stay out of it
     
  7. Stillravenmad

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    Imagine if she found out years later, and found out you knew all along. How do you think that would make her feel? I know it's not a comfortable matter, but she has the right to know.
     
  8. the6peace8keeper

    the6peace8keeper Born Again Satanist

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    If dad has a dirty bitch on the side and you have a bit of an edge, id hit him where it hurts, his wallet. Tell dad you need some cash to keep your mind of his cheating ways.
     
  9. mamaboogie

    mamaboogie anarchist

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    somewhere deep down inside, she already knows it. If you do confront either parent with whatever it is you saw or heard, I'd do it when they are both present. I probably would stay out of it unless she asks you a direct question about it, then I'd tell her the horrible awful truth as you see it.
     
  10. purplesage

    purplesage Ah, fuck it...

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    That's what I think too. She just might not want to deal with it.
     
  11. Gypsy_girl

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    I'd tell your Dad you know and that you give hima day to tell her, otherwise you will. Staying out of it is all good and well but confronting him I'd say is the best thing. If iI was your Mum I'd want to know, rather than to find out years later that you knew all along too.
     
  12. kMarie

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    ouch. That is a tough situation, either way you look at it. I would suggest not getting in the middle of it. But on the other hand, if your concious is going to kill you, and you really feel like you should tell your mother, then maybe you should. Either way I wouldn't get too involved. Tell your mom, bc she has the right to know, perhaps tell your dad that you know, and tell him how much it hurts you, but then get out of it. Once the truth is out your job is done. I spent years in the middle of my parents divorce and it only caused more problems. For them and me.
     
  13. MikeE

    MikeE Hip Forums Supporter HipForums Supporter

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    I'm not sure that this is a good idea, but it's worth thinking about.

    Talk to your father.
    Tell him you know and that in 3 days you are going to tell your mom.
    Ask him if he is being the kind of man that he wants in a son-in-law.

    Wait three days and have a chat with your mother.
     
  14. Haid

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    I would just "set him up" so that she caught him herself. She may already know in which case you would be causing her embarrassment. This way the information would get out but neither would resent you.
     
  15. eveninmadness

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    show her the evidence.
    be honest.
    getting involved is not something id normally tell you to do
    but if hes cheating, AGAIN, meaning, he has before and wont stop--
    then it has to come to a hault.
     
  16. mamaboogie

    mamaboogie anarchist

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    he isn't going to ever stop if he doesn't want to. She is staying with him for whatever reason of her own, but opening this can of worms isn't going to make any difference, except make the OP the "bad guy" in this situation.
     
  17. Anastazija

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    tell her. i d tell
     
  18. Jenny_420

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    I would tell you no the truth and that is he does not tell her that some how some way you will let her find out with out him noing... and if he cared any about her or you that he would stop and be faithful
     
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