I am thinking about doing something with a guy tomorrow night for my first time, but I'm kinda nervous. For one thing, I have somewhat strong religious convictions, and I don't want to become so addicted to it all that I can't give it up if I want to. Plus, the other thing I fear, will I "survive" if I cant be with a guy for a few months or so (or longer)? Will masturbation help me out? Any advice?
The desire for contact with another person is totally separate from anything that masturbation can provide. I'm not sure possible addiction is the real issue here. Your religious convictions would be an issue even if you had sex once. Many of us have gone months or longer without being with another guy. We survive. The best person to talk to is the guy you are thinking about doing something with.
Yeah, good point about the religious stuff, but I get so horny at times I want to try something new, but I'm afraid I will go to far.
What should I do about my horni-ness lol? Id like to be with a guy to experience it, but at the same time, I have a feeling that my convictions might cause problems.
If you met this guy through the internet - caution is the word. Don't get on his turf - get him on yours and have several escape routes planned. I'm confused. You say you have religious convictions but you're considering trying the gay lifestyle. Being gay is not something you play with once or twice then put aside and go back to being straight. Do you think you will enjoy the experience if a voice in the back of your mind keeps saying "don't do it, it's a sin"? The other person may have feelings too. If he senses that you're not really gay and your religion considers it a sin what will he feel? That you're just using him to get your rocks off and have no plans to let a relationship develop. Be honest with yourself and make a choice. Being gay is not a sin from my point of view. How you feel about it will affect you for a long time. If you think it's a sin then it will haunt you. You'll feel guilty and miserable.
I really understand what you are feeling, but I think you need to take a step back and ask yourself if this is what you are looking for. What you are about to do isnt something that you can just walk away from, once you do it..its done, and you wont be able to forget it , ever.
Never meet people on the net or at clubs. Most will fail. As far as religion, that is something you have to work out within yourself. I was raised with no religion - secular humanists - and I don't understand it at all, so I won't touch that one. Anyway, "addicted" and "give it up?" Please don't do anything, as you will regret it. If you are using words like that to describe yourself, you are obviously not ok with it. Work it out and accept yourself before you get into something you can't take back. Christopher
