I have been in a relationship for 3 years now. I can honestly say I really love him. And I know he loves me. My only problem with our relationship right now is that he has lied to me about a few things and hidden stuff from me, and now I feel like I can't trust him. I don't think he would cheat on me or anything, but some of the simplest things now make me wonder if he's lying or hiding something again. We've already talked about it and I think he's tired of talking... But I still feel this way. And he's not trying to win back my trust or at least reasuure me that everything's fine... I could be over-reacting and maybe all relationships go though something like this... But I am worried. And I don't like feeling like I can't trust him anymore. Any suggestions on things I could say to him or what to do? Thanks.
Trust your gut. If he's done things that make you not trust him, then talk isn't going to regain that trust. He will have to demonstrate his trustworthyness. On the other hand, what is it that makes you suspicious? "Lied to me about a few things and hidden stuff from me" is fairly vauge. Wanting to keep some things private to himself does not make him untrustworthy.
I went through exactly the same thing with my ex-girlfriend. Like Mike says, trust your gut. It's really how you feel that matters. Actions speak louder than words, and he seems to hate talking, so I would leave out the conversations about trust for a bit and pay attention to how he acts.
