Holy crap what the fuck is wrong with me???

So I fucked around with a guy last night for like, three hours...And it was great!!! Or, at least I wish it was!

You see, he was having no problem getting horny and yada yada yada...But me, I didn't get fully hard AT ALL!!! He tried so hard, and I just couldn't!!! and I really was attractive to him! So we really couldn't try the things we wanted to, like anal sex or whatnot...

My only reason for my performance (and hopefully the right one) is because I was drunk...And I tend to think that while I'll go through a little horny phase during drinking, perhaps I mostly don't get all sexual later, since I'm drunk and somewhat unconscious? Is this abnormal??? Otherwise I think I have serious sexual problems with performance because last night was the first time I really went far and all into it, but nothing on my part...

Help me!!!

 

Alcohol definitely affects performance but as you suggest there may be other issues in the way - maybe you should try to think about what they may be???

 

Mary Poppins is certainly right about the effect of alcohol. It's a depressant, and it depresses everything...penises included.

In some cases performance anxiety can be the problem. Worrying about performing can make performing impossible or nearly so. It may help just to snuggle with a guy and maybe to deal with his erection rather than yours.

 

good idea SageDreamer, once you focus on his pleasure you may just find you 'spring to life' - but would definitely avoid alcohol next time you get on down LogsonSticks!!!

Good luck!

 

I wouldn't freak out about it. Just take it easy and spend a lot of time with foreplay, just kissing and touching is so erotic. It's also a good way to get to know each other. It's all about taking it slow.

 

I hope this is the case...Because I really freaked out that I was asexual or something, which sucked lol...

But I'm usually fine when I'm sober, so I hope things work out...

 

Yeah,it was prob the alcohol.Happened to me once,and I get hard when a good breeze comes by!!

 

Alcohol was almost definitely the culprit. My boyfriend doesn't like to have more than two drinks if we're planning on being sexual later, even no drinks works. Good luck with your endeavors