CAn some one help me with some thing?

Im 13 And I am a bit sad about it and bot sure if I am gay or not I have dreams about guys So Im pretty sure im gay. But this is were I need help I Am Isad because I had a "normal" life in front of me wife kids. That sorta thing but now that Im gay I dont know what Im going to do CAn some one Help me with this.

 

You're 13 - don't think about it so much. Let yourself develop.

I know that doesn't really help if you're seeking a solution right now, but that's the best I've got. Wait it out.

And remember that life is what you make of it.

 

what amp said...

 

1. Don't freak out. Not every guy who dreams about guys turns out to be gay. It's unbelievably common for guys your age to dream about guys or fantasize about guys or wonder if they're gay.

2. Read everything about homosexuality that you can. That includes Web sites, books, magazines...everything. Find some guys who are close to your age on this site and other Web sites.

3. Don't feel like you have to put a label on yourself or your feelings. Don't let anyone pressure you to tell anyone that you are gay or bi or whatever until you feel ready.

4. Don't let anyone--male or female--pressure you to have sex until you're sure you are ready. You don't have to prove anything to anyone. If it doesn't feel right for you, it probably isn't right for you.

5. Stay calm. Enjoy life. Take good care of yourself. Be the happiest, healthiest and smartest you that you can be. It's a gift to yourself and to the person you decide to share your life with.

 

yeah,just go ahead...
i think the gays are much easier in america than in china.
most chinese people can't understand the gay life.they look down gay,not like other countries.
but anyhow,society is developing...........

 

Yeah seriously don't label yourself. You are only 13, wait a few years at least and if you really feel you are gay then you know fine. Just don't rush it.

I was just thinking of how people used the "gay agenda" argument about how homosexuals want to recruit, and I just had to laugh because here we are all discourging someone from labelling themselves.

 

To the recruiting thing...I was reading a book recently(gay related--nonfiction) and I thought it made a good point...

Can you imagine how gay and lesbian life might be advertised to potential recruits? "You, too, can be member of a despised minority. Join us and your parents will reject you, your boss will fire you, and absolute strangers will call you names or hit you over the head with a baseball bat for holding hands with your boyfriend or girlfriend in public."

Copied from "Is it a Choice?"

 

I told my parents I was gay when I was your age and they really didn't seem to know what to think or what to do. I have a few relatives who are gay who were really helpful.

I didn't come out to friends until I was out of high school.

I don't know what you're going to do either, but I hope it's happy and fun. I like to think I'm going to meet a great guy and live happily ever after. I've dated a few guys, but work and school keep me a little too busy to have a serious bf.

I'm not sure about kids yet; I figure it will all fall into place.